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Sara Dean launched the Shameless Mom Academy to help moms lead more positive, powerful and purposeful lives #everydamnday. Sara is an award winning fitness professional, author, speaker, and transformation coach who spent the last 16+ years serving moms in the fields of psychology, sociology, health & wellness. But, it took becoming a mom herself in 2012 to learn that - holy cow - this is hard work, and if you’re not paying attention you can completely lose your own sense of identity while raising babies. Join Sara every Monday and Wednesday as she and her notable guests dig deep into topics like creating the confidence you crave; turn your struggles into strengths, building better boundaries, and tuning into tiny habits that can change your life. Discover how why thousands of moms all over the world are turning to The Shameless Mom Academy to live bigger, bolder, braver lives #everydamnday.
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Now displaying: April, 2021
Apr 28, 2021

Alison Tedford is an author, marketing consultant, and mom from Abbotsford, BC, Canada. Her work has been published on AlJazeera, CBC, Upworthy, and Today's Parent, and her debut book, Chronic Profit, is being released by Self Counsel Press in April 2021.

I have been following Alison online for a couple years now.  She has always stood out to me as a leader and a truth teller.  She speaks up to share her perspective even when it’s not comfortable.  She is sassy and smart as a whip as she shares her experiences living as an entrepreneurial, Indigenious single mom with a disability.  I deeply appreciate Alison’s work and her voice and I’m so honored to have her here with us for this conversation.

Listen in to hear Alison share:

  • All the layers of her identity as an entrepreneurial, Indigenous mom with a disability and why she has chosen to share her stories
  • The assumptions people have made about her identities
  • The importance of inclusivity from the top down in organizations
  • How her disability has shaped her parenting
  • How she models asking for help to preserve her energy for the places she can have most impact
  • How she shares her Indigenous culture with her son
  • How pain management can be a full time job

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Apr 26, 2021

I don’t want to squash your dreaming.  Dreaming is beautiful and powerful and necessary

But…

Sometimes our dreams can be intimidating.  We see them out there and they look inviting and delicious - and also terrifying. 

I want to run a marathon - but how do I go from running 3 miles to running 26.2 miles?

I want to write a book - but how do I write an opening paragraph, let alone 300 pages?

I want to go back to school - but how do I find the time and money to commit to 2 more years of education?

Too often we hold our dreams as long term (seemingly impossible) visions with no action plan. 

We put off the doing required to achieve our dreams because we don’t know where to start.  We don’t know what the first step should be - and all the first steps we can think of feel like massive scary leaps.  And massive scary leaps sound hard.  So, we decide to just wait…

And often - too often - the dream dies.

In this episode, we will talk about how to move from dreaming to doing by taking specific small action steps to get started moving in the direction of your dreams.

Are you ready to GET STARTED???

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Apr 21, 2021

Jessica's superpower is making brain science accessible and entertaining for children and adults alike. She is living this out as a clinical supervisor, nationally known speaker, author, and Shameless Mom of 3. She is also the founder and director of the training and resource platform BraveBrains.

This is Jessica’s second time on the show.  I was so excited to have her back because talking to her about brain science is so incredibly helpful and insightful.  Learning from Jessica makes me a better woman, leader, and mom. 

Listen in to hear Jessica share:

  • How our stories lead us to shame spirals and keep us in shame spirals
  • How our shame spirals are more dramatically triggered while parenting in a pandemic
  • Why she is calling her sons “explorers” to appreciate and honor the ways their brains are differently wired
  • How to engage your “upstairs brain” to stay hopeful in hard times and shift your stories and narratives
  • How we can help our kids shift their stories and narratives, especially around worry and shame
  • Why she wrote What’s Inside Your Backpack? about a little girl’s worry and shame - and why she released it during the pandemic
  • Why she opted to frame her story around a little girl who has an unsafe parent
  • How and why she considered multiple layers of inclusivity when writing her book and having it illustrated
  • How to introduce your kids about the “both/and” philosophy in order to foster hope and resiliency

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Apr 19, 2021

Perhaps you’ve noticed that with changing times have come changing needs, changing goals, and changing desires. 

With that, perhaps you notice you’re saying YES to new things - and NO to new things.

Some of my yeses and no’s and have definitely shifted over the last year.  In fact, I find myself saying yes to some things I thought I would never say yes to.  Funny wildly unusual circumstances paired with a cultural uprising will make you rethink almost everything.

As you make space for new yeses, you’ll notice you’ll also be required to say no to new things in order to make space for those yeses.  This is a process of discernment that requires you look closely at your core values so you can understand why each yes and each no is important to you right now.

Listen in to hear 9 things I’m saying yes to right now.  It’s my hope that this may inspire your YESES (and no’s!) 

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Apr 14, 2021

Maya Luque is a strategist.  She helps businesses craft smart, perceptive ways of communicating.  The focus of her work is to help businesses build strong, long-lasting relationships with their customers. She has an M.F.A. and has created over 100 sculptures and installations.  Her background as an artist helps her guide people towards an emotion; to help them feel connected. Art is great for strategy because art history is full of telling and re-inventing stories, themes, emotions. Maya has a passion for observing the ever-shifting puzzle of trends, human nature, and people. 

Maya is also the author of The Heart Of The Matter: EMDR Through An Adoptee's Eyes.  She shared her book with me on social media asking if I would be interested in sharing it with my audience.  I immediately knew I didn’t only want to share the book, I wanted to share Maya’s voice and entire story.  I asked Maya if she would be up for this interview.  I’m so honored that she said yes.  Her book and her story are so important.

Listen in to hear Maya share:

  • Her journey of being abandoned outside a police station in China during their One Child Policy to living her first 11 months in a Chinese orphanage to being adopted by a single mom in the US
  • The lasting impact of her abandonment and how that trauma impacted her ability to cope as a child
  • How she vacillated between extreme perfectionism and testing her mom to see if she would always really love her
  • Her lifelong patterns of trying to prove her worth
  • How she got started in EMDR therapy
  • What EMDR is and how it helped her recover from her trauma
  • How EMDR allowed her to finally find herself lovable
  • Why she wrote The Heart of the Matter in a really approachable way so all ages could use it as a tool

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Thank you to our sponsors:

  • Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to talkspace.com, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get $100 off your first month and show your support for the show.
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Apr 12, 2021

Ever since I read Michelle Obama’s book two years ago, I have been obsessed with this notion of becoming. 

We are always becoming.  There is no way around it. 

Sometimes we are becoming more the person we know we want to be.  Other times not so much. 

Sometimes we are becoming a person we did not want to be.  Maybe even a person we feared we would be one day. 

What we must remind ourselves everyday is that WE GET TO CHOOSE. 

You have many times each day where you make choices that take you closer to or further from the person you want to become.  This is comforting because at any time you can course correct. 

Make a crappy decision at 10 am?  No worries.  You can make a better one at 10:02. 

While that sounds super simple and maybe even annoyingly idealistic, it’s true. 

What matters most is your trend of becoming over time. 

So, what is your trend?  And is it heading in the direction you want it to?

I have a task for you.  As you listen to this episode, you will gain clarity on who you want to become and HOW to become her.  Listen in and do the task.  Then let me know, how are you becoming?

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Apr 7, 2021

Kim Evey is a Los Angeles-based actor, writer, and stand up comedian. She has appeared in numerous commercials and TV shows, written for children's animation, and created and starred in one of the first web series on Sony's Crackle.com entitled "Gorgeous Tiny Chicken Machine Show." She produced Felicia Day's trailblazing series "The Guild," a web show so successful that it was actually put on display in The Smithsonian American History Museum. As a stand up comedian, Kim's online clips have been viewed over 8 million times. She is the proud Mom of a boy who is five going on fifteen.

I met Kim through a story telling event where she shared her journey into motherhood through adoption.  Her story touched me so deeply.  I knew I had to invite her onto the show.  What I didn’t know at the time was that Kim is also an adoptee.  She was adopted from an orphanage in Korea when she was 2.  Her journey from adoptee to adoptive mom so beautifully demonstrates the magic of adoption.

Listen in to hear Kim share:

  • How motherhood fuels her comedy career
  • Her indecision around becoming a mother
  • The moment she knew she actually did want to become a mother, and was ready to pursue adoption
  • Her journey from a foster home in Korea to her adoptive parents in the US when she was 2 years old
  • How her being an adoptee influenced her choice to adopt her son through open adoption
  • The process of being one of 3 chosen prospective families to adopt the baby who would become her son
  • The most profound and magical moment of meeting her son, Charlie

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Thank you to our sponsors:

  • Thrive: Start thriving and help women in need today by going to ThriveCausemetics.com/shameless for 15% off your first purchase!
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Episode art credit: Kevin McIntyre

 

Apr 5, 2021

“Sara, I’ve been getting your emails for 7 years and I’m finally ready to sign up for your program.”

This is the email I got from a prospective gym member back when I had my gym. 

This woman had been waiting for 7 year - SEVEN YEARS - to finally qualify herself to change her life. 

She came in to check out the gym a few days later and we immediately hit it off.  After about 10 minutes, she confided in me, “I can’t believe I waited so long.  I keep thinking where I would be if I just decided to start earlier.  I’m so mad at myself.”

I have to tell you, I have had this conversation with so many women.  We excel at waiting, don’t we??

Waiting to join the gym.

Waiting to go for the promotion.

Waiting to ask for the raise.

Waiting to ask for help.

Waiting to start the hobby.

Waiting to take time for yourself.

Waiting to take a chance.

Waiting to say YES.

Waiting to say NO.

Waiting to do what you want to do even if no one else gets it.

Waiting to go for it even if no one believes in you.

Waiting to choose yourself.

You know you want more - but you’re afraid of failure, worried what others might say, and filled with self doubt.

You wait because you think there will be a better time, a better option, another chance. 

You tell yourself you’ll be more ready next week, next month, next year.

You watch others go before you and you decide they are more capable, more qualified, more worthy.

And you wait.

While you wait, you compromise your dreams, your desires, your sense of self

While you wait you chip away at your happiness and your worth.

The waiting is ruining your life.

I’m here to invite you to STOP WAITING.

Listen in to hear how you can stop waiting and start living a fuller life without regret.

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