We apologize so much it’s actually offensive. Your empty apology for being late means nothing. Your apology for taking up space in an elevator minimizes all women. Your apology for taking 24 entire hours to reply to an email minimizes the value of you and your time.
JUST STOP ALREADY.
Before I jump down your throat too much, I will tell you I am WITH YOU. I do it too. But I’m really working on doing it a lot less. Because I want to be seen as authentic and strong and of value – because I AM.
Also, I’ve started to catch Vinnie apologizing inappropriately – for little things that aren’t his fault - that haven’t actually hurt anyone. My apologizing is teaching him to minimize himself. Fan-freaking-tastic.
If you are an over apologizer, or you know someone who is, you need this episode.
If you want to model genuine apologies, connection and relationships to your kids, you need this episode.
I am NOT AT ALL SORRY for imploring you to tune in. This is a good one.
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4 years ago, Julie Fry was fed up with too much travel and not enough control of her schedule or her family life. She left her corporate sales job and decided to buy a blog, BusinessAmongMoms.com to have more control over her life and spend more time with her kids. She quickly learned she was way too extroverted for a purely online company and pivoted to serve women entrepreneurs with community, education, and support for their businesses through networking and educational events.
Since then, Business Among Moms or BAM, has grown to 20 chapters across the country, and nearly 1000 members.
Along the way Julie has learned about herself and the power of connecting women. She has created something she truly loves and that fuels her mind and her soul.
While Julie has been busy growing her dream and serving women all over the country, she has also learned how to best serve herself as she lives valiantly with blood chronic lymphocytic leukemia.
I so appreciate Julie coming on the show to talk about building her dream business and building a life she loves around a life with cancer.
Listen in to hear Julie share:
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Julie’s Website: www.businessamongmoms.com
Business Among Moms on Facebook
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I recently received an email from Shameless Mom Marie. It was the exact email I needed at exactly the time I needed it – because if you are always on the lookout for well timed events, you’ll find they tend to happen all the time ☺.
Marie shared with me her journey of infertility and the crossroads she is currently at. All of her thoughts mirrored thoughts I’ve had over the last year. It was pretty amazing to read her words and feel like we have been sharing a brain!
If IVF had worked for us last summer, we would likely be due to have a baby right about now. I’ve been thinking about that a lot lately. But I’m not thinking about it more than normal – because I have thought about our IVF experience and our infertility situation on one level or another everyday for the last year.
Actually, I’ve thought about my fertility every day for the last 7 years – when we first started trying to get pregnant the first time.
WOW.
7 years is a long time to thing about something every single day. That’s 2,555 days. Perhaps I need a new hobby….
I wanted to take this episode to reply to the email Marie sent me and share with you where I’m at today – a year after failed IVF – at the time of my once potential due date.
Thank you for listening. It means a lot to me to be able to share here. And I am sending ALL THE LOVE to the mamas out there who can relate first hand to my story on any level. You are not alone.
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Photo Credit: Kelsey Moll Photography (thank you Kelsey for our fabulous family photo session!)
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Shawna Kaminski has been a fitness professional in the industry for over 30 years. She has a Bachelor of Kinesiology and Bachelor of Education and too many certifications to count. She is a teacher at heart, having taught school for 20 years.
She’s a #1 best selling author of Lose Your Menopause Belly available on Amazon.
She’s owned a small group training studio, multiple fitness boot camps, and she helps thousands of online fitness clients worldwide with her fitness and coaching programs. She’s appeared on national TV as a fitness expert, authored articles in numerous publications and created curriculum for international fitness businesses.
Shawna is in her early 50’s, has two children and a one-eyed rescue dog.
Shawna is back on the show today to talk about her book and give us the lowdown on the truths and myths about aging, menopause, metabolism and how you can love yourself at every stage.
Listen in to learn:
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Book: Lose Your Menopause Belly
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Last Thursday morning I tortured myself with a Tempo run (which involved hard running for 1-4 minutes, with rest intervals in between). To distract myself from the pain, I started mentally calculating how many workouts I've probably done since I started working out (in secret) 22 years ago (after never breaking a sweat in my youth).
I figure I've logged at least 5,500 workouts in at this point.
That means:
* 5,500 times I SHOWED UP even if I didn't want to (which is often).
* 5,500 times I did something I didn't know I could do (I doubt myself at the beginning of almost every workout)
* 5,500 times I did my best, regardless of how ugly or imperfect it was
* 5,500 times I proved I can do hard things
These 5,500 workouts have translated into:
* Setting higher goals in all areas of my life
* Trying new things, even if they are scary or I'm not sure I can do them
* Remembering that I am strong, powerful and capable - even when life tries to show me otherwise
* Knowing that I am in control, no matter how crazy things get
* A sense of pride in everything I do - even if it's imperfect
You don't have to do something 5,500 times to understand this or live this. But you do need to:
1. Start
2. Show up even when you don't want to
3. Allow for imperfections
4. Stay humble
5. Own your wins
6. Keep going
It's really simple, actually. Just START.
Here are some things you might have done 1,000-5,500 times without realizing the positive impact on your life:
Change your kids’ diapers first thing in the am
Eat dinner with your family
Walk your kid to school
Drive your kid to soccer practice
Pack school lunches
I know… I KNOW. These do not seem like life altering tasks. But they are. Truly. Listen in to learn why.
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Julia Freeland is an entrepreneur and a catalyst for change. She is dedicated to helping professionals, who have stepped away from their career to raise their children, understand their true value and launch the next phase of their lives. Julia coaches her clients through an innovative reinvention process to help them RE-Discover themselves, RE-Invent their identities, and RE-Launch their careers and passions. She is working to break the 1950’s homemaker stereotype and open people’s eyes the value of time spent as a parent.
Julia is an accomplished speaker, leader, facilitator and people development strategist. She helps experienced individuals identify and achieve their goals by inspiring them to consider new perspectives, challenge old beliefs, break through stasis and open up to learning again.
Julia was a stay at home mom for years – and found herself in a situation of many, many stay at home moms, where she vastly underestimated her worth in her role and felt lost and alone as she navigated life after leaving the corporate world. Her perspective on her role as a stay at home mom greatly damaged her self worth and her marriage.
I know you will learn a lot from Julia’s story and you will find yourself cheering as she shares what she has learned over the years. You’ll probably get especially excited when she compares stay at home moms to CEOs. I know I did!
Listen in to hear Julia share:
Links Mentioned:
Website: REvolveYOU.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ReadytoREvolve/
Instagram: @revolve_you
Twitter: @REvolveYOU
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julia-freeland-revolveyou/
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If I offered you a magical elixir that would give you endless energy would you take it? I WOULD!
Today I’m going to give you 11 elixirs of sorts. Trying any one of these things will likely dramatically improve your daily energy – trying a few other them together might just be better than coffee. Seriously.
Oh, and we’ll talk about coffee too! Your coffee might actually be sucking your energy. I say this as someone who loves my coffee, but is also acutely aware of its limits.
Cozy up and take some notes on this one – cause there are some golden tips in here that will get fired up and totally energized!
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Mike Vardy is a writer, productivity strategist, and the founder of Productivityist. He's served as the Managing Editor at Lifehack, and written for 99u, Lifehacker, SUCCESS Magazine, and more. Mike has also spoken at all over North America at events like TEDx Victoria, South by Southwest Interactive, NAPO, and CreativeLIVE.
I met Mike earlier this year when he was speaking at Tropical Think Tank in the Philippines. We bonded over time management and Legos. Seriously.
Mike is going to get you ridiculously excited about organizing your time and make simple life hacks that will create space in your days and weeks.
Listen in to hear Mike share:
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Find Mike and all his resources for Shameless Moms: Productivityist.com/shamelessmom
Journaling App: Day One
Journaling App: Journey
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I have a challenge for you. You ready?
I want you to start asking yourself these 5 questions every morning.
One of the best gifts you can give yourself everyday is a few moments just for YOU first thing in the morning. This reflective time can happen as you workout, as you journal, as you meditate, or as you shower (seriously, I have the most brilliant thoughts in the shower!)
Starting your day with some intentional focus about how you want to embrace the day not only gives you a strong sense of empowerment and control – it allows you to actually CREATE your day to be whatever you desire.
You will be amazed by how asking yourself just 5 questions every morning will change the course of your day and, in turn, change the course of your life. It is really that powerful and magical. Try me!
Links Mentioned:
SMA Ep 59: How to Create Your Own Miracle Morning
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