Today on the show we have a good friend of mine, Susie Lane. Susie is a mom, chef and has had her own business, The Kitchen Door since 2005. The Kitchen door is a Seattle based business that provides meal solutions for busy families. We are going to talk about Susie’s challenges and victories on running her business mostly from home and how to build your legacy with passion. 

We will talk today about:

• How did Susie manage running her business from home and the hospital…
• Her personal goal for her business—very important goal!
• Quantity vs quality
• Go out and get the book Live your Life from the Front Seat by Jessica Butts
• What exactly is a calendar situation?
• Be thankful for having a job but be passionate too

Links Mentioned:

• www.kitchendoormeals.com
• www.amazon.com 
• www.jessicabutts.com 

Welcome! Launch has been incredible! I have gotten so many messages, and I have been overwhelmed with support for this launch!

So, let’s talk about the obvious. We have a new name. I got an email about trademarks and copyrights, etc. related to the podcast. So, this sent me into a major panic, because I never intended to do anything wrong. It turns out I had to change the name of the podcast because I was infringing on someone’s trademark. So this has turned into a wild ride already!

I learned a few things about myself through this situation:

• I’m not ok with being bullied and talked down to
• Written communication can be challenging to interpret tone
• We all handle stress differently
• I get completely stressed out when I feel like I did something wrong
• Sometimes I am too quick to give in to pressure
• I am not a very good self-advocate under stress
• I could really embrace the word “shameless” in talking about my podcast
• This happened so something better can come out of it
• Shameless speaks to owning where you are and being ok with it
• I hate having messes on my plate
• I think this little bump is going to work out for the good
• It’s easy to be advocates for everyone but ourselves sometimes
• Pivoting doesn’t mean you are backing down
• I’m excited about this change moving forward

Until next time, do something shameless!

Let’s talk about taking a flying leap! So many times we don’t make certain decisions or do certain things because we think we can’t. We are going to talk about ways to get to that place to take a leap and how to take a flying leap and make it work.

Today we are going to talk about:

• Scariest place is at the start line!
• Focus on progress not perfection
• How do you schedule time to take a leap?
• How do you make your leap part of your identity?
• Stalking…
• Do it!

Links Mentioned:

• www.youtube.com/my120poundlife 

Today on the show we are going to be talking with Laurie Kennedy. Laurie is a Toronto based nutritionist, health and wellness business expert, online strategist and mother of two. She works with health practitioners, healers, coaches and fitness professionals who want to start up their purpose driven businesses. Laurie does not mess around!

Laurie makes it all work beautifully, even though it’s not always so beautiful. We are going to talk about the challenges of having kids, the challenges of working with her husband (he is business partner), and dirty moments like when she broke down in a hotel shower on Mother’s Day and the magic of 5 am. 

Laurie shares with us:

• When things don’t go your way you just need to laugh and don’t take everything so seriously
• Messiest moment she has ever had—Mother’s day: just to be left alone for 24 hours. This is when she realized that she needed to take care of herself and get her alone time more often so that she didn’t feel this way again.
• Spending an extra day on a business trip is not necessarily a good thing. You may get more things done but you should know how you will handle it emotionally.
• Husband time challenge—different work spaces and don’t bring the work home. 
• The word selfish is the word self with ish
• 5 am is Laurie’s self-time—she needs the 90 minutes to herself or sometimes spend a whole night and day at a hotel to recharge
• It’s really nice to not be on someone else’s schedule sometimes
• Set up a morning routine before the world starts and if you need help get child support! Even if it’s 2 hours a week! This can help you keep from feeling trapped.
• Her legacy is to help women know that you don’t have to do things if you don’t want to just because

Links Mentioned:

www.theselfishmomacademy.com

www.facebook.com/lauriekennedy 

www.facebook.com/lauriekennedyrhn 

www.lauriekennedyrhn.com

www.thatwellbusiness.com

You visit our website at http://selfishmomacademy.com

We are going to go into a dark place and talk about trauma. I recently experienced trauma on vacation and it’s been a little difficult to come back from. Trauma and vacation do not go together! 

Today we are going to talk about:

• It’s important to talk about what you experience
• I will always be a therapy advocate!
• If you don’t want to or don’t have someone to talk to there are other ways to get your feelings out about a traumatic experience
• Don’t be afraid of stepping out when you feel like staying in!

You can find the show notes at http://selfishmomacademy.com/07-what-happens-when-you-witness-trauma

Have you ever tried to do something to get out of your comfort zone, only to have it go terribly wrong and have your life flash before your eyes? Yeah, that happened to me and my son! Then we’re going to talk about one of my biggest passions! I have built an entire career on it for the last 13 years. That’s right! We are going to talk about exercise! What kind of exercise is right for you and how you can integrate it into your life, and how to make it feel like it’s not a big chore.

In today’s episode:

• Having a guilty mom moment—We took a family trip and went tubing to try something out of our comfort zones and it was terrifying! Vinny did recover from his shell shock. Thank God!
• If something doesn’t feel quite right listen to your gut!
• Before I was into exercise and athletics, I was a mac and cheese kid—broke my thumb in gym class. Best day of my life! Six weeks on the sideline! Woot!
• Always be aware of your goal when you exercise—fat loss, weight loss, stress relief, movement
• Determine the type of exercise—fat loss or weight loss: safe weight strength training, interval training
• General health—walking and running at a low to moderate pace. Just get your heart rate going.
• Stress relief—find something to zone out! Walk, run, hiking, yoga etc.
• Enjoyment of movement—sports, clubs or outdoor activities
• Schedule your exercise! If you don’t you will negotiate your way out of it!
• Accountability can be essential. Do what you have to do to make yourself do it.
• Effective and efficient. Exercising 3 days a week is a good start.
• Focus on afterglow when you don’t want to do your exercises.
• Do things on a regular basis. Be a good model. Teach your kids that movement and eating healthy is the norm.

Links Mentioned:

www.theselfishmomacademy.com

Maybe you have had a day or two of these? Especially since having a child my anxiety can be through the roof. It can be because of what I have on my to do list and sometimes it’s just a bunch of random things and I’m having a hard time managing it. So I’m going to talk about my nervousness and anxiety and what has helped to turn around my day. Let’s face it we have to get things done and it’s so much easier to get things done if you are feeling positive and optimistic. So here are three tips that I want you to use to help turn around any tough day that comes your way.

On today’s episode we will talk about:

• If I’m being honest I have probably been dealing with anxiety my whole life
• Sometimes being in a positive place is not easy for me—I just want to have wine, chocolate and The Real Housewives—Yes I said it The Real Housewives
• Tip number 1: create space—this might mean going for a walk, listening to music, listening to podcasts
• Head space app- meditation: I am a pretty sucky meditator but this could be a way to clear your mind to be creative
• Exercise of course can relieve stress or anxiety and help reframe your day
• Tip number 2: finding another focus—dive into a project that will channel that energy to be creative, call your mom, help someone else
• Get out of the physical location that you are having your break down at
• Escape—take a bath, watch tv
• Tip number 3: talk it through—it’s amazing how much talking to someone about a problem can help you work through it
• Write it out if you don’t have someone to talk to

I’m going to talk about putting my kid in daycare and not even feeling guilty about it. I know I’m supposed to feel guilty about this but I don’t and I’m going to tell you why.

In this episode we will talk about:

• Daycare was not a bad thing for me. But going to entrepreneur workshops put this image out that you know you have made it when you don’t have put your kids in daycare.
• Newborn land was not what I thought it was going to be 
• I was unable to help my clients and started feeling captive in my own house
• I learned that I needed a sense of accomplishment at the end of the day—I’m not saying that being a stay at home mom cannot be an accomplishment to be proud of. It is hard work!
• When I put my son in daycare it helped me set definitive boundaries between work and motherhood
• I’m supposed to feel guilty about putting my kid in daycare right? I don’t feel guilty at all. I am helping him with social skills
• It still is challenging for me to juggle things

Links mentioned:

www.theselfishmomacademy.com

On today’s episode we are going to talk about how to not have bad food days. I’m going to give you tips and tools that will make you look at food differently and change your food habits. So get ready there is going to be some major mindset shifts! Everyone has relationship with food and most of us do not have a healthy relationship with food. Let’s start working on it right now!

Today we talk about:

• Let’s stop labeling days good or bad based on what we put in our mouths! —this impacts the way you eat, self-esteem and how other people see you
• I have had a troubled relationship with food since I was young—I went through a four to six-year period where fat was my biggest enemy 
• We are not what we eat and we are not the value of what we put in our mouths!
• Food is food and not good or bad just different nutritional values
• People are self-conscious about ordering food when I am there—I don’t care what you are eating! 
• Don’t talk about having a “good” or “bad” day in front of your kids—this will impact their relationship with food
• Think about the triggers for food—replace a habit with another habit 
• You make at least 200 decisions that are focused on your weight. Focus on the positive things that have happened in your day and not on what food you ate that day that you think are “bad”. So you ate a donut…move on!

Links Mentioned:

www.theselfishmomacademy.com

On today’s episode we will be talking about how to become more powerful in your daily life and how becoming powerful will help you with all goals in all areas of your life. I’m going to give you five tips on how to perpetuate power and how potty training has created more power for us in our house.

We will be talking about in this episode:

• Even though my son was standing in a puddle of his own pee and investigating his poop with a flashlight he has gained that confidence and power that he can go to the potty all by himself. This make me feel like he is more powerful.
• Who are the people that you think are powerful and what do they hold? You’re not really powerful unless other people think you are powerful.
• Tip number 1: get clear on goals and know why they are important—my son has the power to hold his bladder for hours but didn’t realize it until it was important for using the potty
• Tip number 2: consistently self-power—is this taking me closer or further from a goal. Don’t waste your time on something that is taking you further away from a goal.
• Tip number 3: remove negative thinking—any time you use negative energy on something you have wasted time and energy that could have been positive
• Tip number 4: take calculated risks—I’m not saying take risks that can be potentially damaging but if you don’t take risks you will get stuck. You don’t want this!
• Tip number 5: put yourself first—you can be more self-less if you are more selfish. 

Links Mentioned:

Don't forget to join us for all the episodes at www.theselfishmomacademy.com

On today’s episode we are going to be talking about the four pillars of being a selfish mom. The four things that make mom’s tick if we can get all four of these in unison. Also, a little bit about the controversy about the name of my podcast.

Here is what we will be discussing:

• Controversy and confrontation makes me very nervous
• Why did I pick the name I did for my podcast?
• Selfish is a positive thing! Yes, I would say I am very selfish but I live my life in a way where I am selfish in a selfless way
• The pursuit of mommy marterism is real! – let’s bring it down a notch
• When I am completely selfless I am worthless to everyone
• Pillar number 1: self-care-needs a routine around movement - take a walk, have a girl’s night etc. Also, make sure you are eating good foods and have a hobby.
• Pillar number 2: pursuit of your passion- establish goals to make a part time passion maybe a full time passion. Sometimes you have to give up some things to create space to do passion projects
• Pillar number 3: dedicated family time- this is a challenge for me! My mind does not turn off so it’s hard for me to step away from my projects.
• Pillar number 4: humor- let’s be honest none of this is easy. Chaos happens and life gets ahead of you. Expect messes.

Resources Mentioned on the Show:

Don't forget to join us for all the episodes at www.theselfishmomacademy.com.

I’m super excited about getting this project off the ground. I’ve been sitting on it for months, so this going to be amazing. This is going to be my place to just be a real Mom and be really open about what it’s really like.

Just a bit about me. I have been working with women in fitness since 2003. I own my own gym, called Sync Fitness in Seattle.  Prior to that, I worked in a Psychiatric Hospital. Believe it or not, I grew up overweight - a real macaroni and cheese kid. I’ve struggled with self- image, and those are some things we are going to be discussing.

This is NOT a podcast about fitness. Sure, I will give you some tips on fitness and nutrition as they relate to everyday life. I’m not into cultivating rock hard bodies anymore - I’m into creating an amazing life!

Here’s what we’re going to be talking about (or not) on the show:

• Again, even though you may know me from the fitness industry - this is NOT a fitness podcast.
• I’m not going to be telling you how to get 6-pack abs. I don’t care about that anymore.
• I struggled with infertility, so I’m sure there will be some stories from that part of my life here.
• My journey from brick and mortar business owner to online business owner.
• The struggles to balance staying home with my baby and running my business.
• How my reality didn’t match what I thought it would be.
• Why I did my taxes right after my water broke…..isn’t that what everyone does?
• How my “failure to thrive” child took over my life
• The big move of getting my child in childcare outside my home
• Being a Mom is hard….really hard. The reality of this came crashing down on me
• It’s ok to have interests on your own that you want to pursue - it doesn’t make you a bad Mom
• How to find yourself in the midst of Mom-dom
• The systems and tools I have developed to try to pull it all off
• My legacy is important, so I have to be a little selfish for the greater good.
• I want to help you to live the life you want

You CAN expect from the show:

• Tools to be more efficient in your daily life
• Tips of how to not sacrifice your dreams when you build the life you want
• How to take care of yourself 
• Things I have learned from coaching I receive
• Interviews with Moms who have struggled for success 

Resources Mentioned on the Show:

Don't forget to join us for all the episodes over at theselfishmomacademy.com.