Joyce Shulman is a serial entrepreneur, idea junkie, addicted skier, and recovering attorney. As the founder and CEO of Macaroni Kid, she helped build a multi-million dollar media company that delivers hyper-local, community-focused content geared for moms in more than 570 communities across the US and Canada. Her decade of work with moms revealed two of the most pervasive challenges facing moms today: moms are lonely and are confronting a health and wellness crisis. Through extensive research and her own personal experiences, Joyce discovered that walking is magic for moms, and recently founded 99 Walks, a company on a mission to get a million moms moving.
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I know I’m not the only one who has experienced a massive regression into reactive tendencies during this wild season of life...
Look, I pride myself on being proactive instead of reactive. I coach on this. I thought I had it LOCKED DOWN.
But, throw me into a pandemic and a cultural revolution and, well, I’m often finding myself more reactive than I’d like AND feeling like my reactions are more emotionally charged than ever.
Just me?
Something I’ve been testing lately - with much constraint, because it is not coming easily or naturally, is using a proactive pause before allowing myself to react in a situation where I might be tempted to be less than my best self.
I can tell you these proactive pauses have given me so much more power and perspective each day - in the way I parent, the way I frame my day, the way I show up for conversations - all of it.
Listen in to learn 4 ways you can integrate proactive pauses into your daily life to gain power, manage emotion, and get what you want & need out each day.
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Jasmine Bradshaw is a researcher, educator, and podcaster who truly believes that creating a more loving, inclusive, and just society starts within the sacred walls of our homes. Her podcast, First Name Basis, exists to give parents the tools they need to teach their children about race, religion, and culture. Her community makes parents feel empowered and gives them the confidence they need to create lasting change in their sphere of influence.
I have been binging Jasmine’s show since we first met online a few months ago. She is a truly talented and generous educator. I am so grateful for her work and really delighted to share this conversation with my community. I think you’ll learn a lot and I really hope you’ll invest in Jasmine’s work by subscribing to her show and joining her Patreon membership.
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Two weeks ago, Glennon Doyle Zoom bombed a Momentum Mamas meeting while we were talking about her book, Untamed.
To say we were surprised and delighted would be a huge understatement. I was almost speechless. And sweating profusely.
She was everything I hoped she would be: funny, humble, raw, brutally honest, and wise as hell.
She spoke about why the pain must come before the rising and how revelations make necessary space for revolutions.
While I have never shared our membership conversations on the show before, I decided to share this conversation because I know we all need a little more Glennon in our lives right now.
Listen to this conversation. Get Untamed. BE THE CHEETAH.
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Elizabeth is a Shameless Mom and a Business Scaling Strategist who mentors impact-driven entrepreneurs in scaling their influence, income, and time freedom without having to trade time for money or values for the vision. She's fiercely passionate about helping go-getters build the business that aligns with their purpose and their dreams. After building two 7 figure businesses and having the privilege of working with hundreds and hundreds of entrepreneurs, she now runs her businesses and hosts her podcast, Scaling Up, from the rolling hills of her hobby farm with her three little kids and husband as she practices what she preaches - working hard to have the freedom to truly live! Through her online courses, podcast, full immersion workshops, mastermind, mentorships, and speaking engagements, Elizabeth lives to show her students, clients, and the people she encounters what's truly possible.
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Have you lost your mojo? The world is so uncertain right now and there is no end in sight. Around us we see people losing steam and losing hope. People are sitting down.
I want to lovingly challenge you to STAY STANDING. Keep moving forward. Even if your steps are barely measurable. Any step forward is a step forward, no matter the size. And a step forward keeps you in momentum, which is key when things are hard.
The world can't afford for you to sit down. We can't afford for you to quit dreaming. We need you to keep going. Our country needs you to keep going. Your community needs you to keep going. Your family needs you to keep going.
Keep dreaming even if the dream has shifted.
Keep dreaming even if the timeline toward your dreams is totally unknown.
Keep dreaming even if your dreams feel a little silly or trivial or insignificant.
It is our dreaming that keeps our spirits up, our heads and hearts engaged, and our souls on fire.
You need your dreams now more than ever before.
If you're struggling right now, here are a few steps you can take to keep showing up for your dreams:
I’m not going to watch you let your dreams die. STAND UP. If you need someone to hold your hand, I got you.
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Heather Siegel is the author of the award-winning, coming-of-age memoir, OUT FROM THE UNDERWORLD. Her newest work, THE KING & THE QUIRKY: A Memoir of Love, Marriage, Domesticity, Feminism, and Self was just released. Heather was named a semifinalist for the Kore Press 2018 Memoir Award. Her creative nonfiction has appeared on popular sites like Scary Mommy, as well as Salon.com, The Flexible Persona, and Entrophy Magazine. She holds an MFA from The New School University, and lives on Long Island where she teaches academic and creative writing for local colleges and continuing education programs.
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What if the beauty of a revolution is that you don’t get to “go back to normal” afterward?
Living through a pandemic and a cultural revolution in the same few month period has caused a massive shift. A much needed shift, in so many ways. A shift that is providing hope - if we commit to doing better moving forward.
This is not to say there have not been losses and traumas to grieve during this time. The losses have been profound. But, there has also been new levels of awareness and conscientiousness. There has been large scale growth in knowledge and perspective. Many have tremendously expanded their capacity for compassion and empathy, as well as their commitment to being change makers.
Glennon Doyle talks about “the Knowing” in her new book, Untamed. Our Knowing is this deep sense inside ourselves that we must learn to listen to if we want to live in alignment with our core values, if we want to do better. We are in a time when we are expanding our Knowing in deep and powerful ways. And this Knowing is leading us to more doing and better doing.
Glennon is known for her saying, “First the pain, then the rising.”
I want to add to that - first the Knowing, then the doing.
As we know more and Know more deeply, we can take action. We have more power. Our voices become louder. We move through the phases of Knowing > Growing > Doing.
So, we don’t get to go back. Thankfully. We get to Know, Grow, and Do so much better as we move forward.
Listen in to learn 4 essential questions you can ask yourself as you commit to doing better moving forward.
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Nikita Burks-Hale is the CEO and Head Creative of JourneyGurl Magic Productions, a podcast production company that supports and empowers Womxn of Color as they bring their unique voices to the masses through podcasting. Nikita is also the host of 2 podcasts, The JourneyGurl Magic Podcast, and The Podcaster’s Journey (launching Aug 2020). Nikita is a journeyer in every sense of the word and truly believes that life is a journey and you must be open to its endless possibilities. Her coaching and personal beliefs are centered around living your imperfect journey to the fullest by:
When Nikita is not coaching, producing, or journeying, you can find her Netflix bingeing classics with her wife Jessica and catching up on the latest episode of Mickey Mouse Clubhouse with her toddler son, Adonis.
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A few years ago I was at a workshop for business owners and we had to create a list of our core values. We were given a list of 40 or so values to choose from and had to narrow it down to our top 5.
I couldn’t do it.
I cried.
It took me longer than anyone else in the room to narrow my list down to just a few core values I wanted to commit to.
The process of discernment around this brought up a lot of emotion around why certain things are important to me. It forced me to look at myself, who I am, how I show up, and how I want to impact the world.
While this was hard, it was ultimately so freeing. When I (finally) completed the exercise, I had so much clarity around what was most important to me and why each value was important. These core values have become guiding lights for me as I’ve developed as a woman, a mom, and a CEO.
Listen in to hear why committing to a short list of core values is important - even crucial. Learn exactly how to choose a few select core values that will become beacons in times of uncertainty. Get excited about determining what’s most important to you and how to live more clearly, deeply, and loudly in your values that matter the most.
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Brenda Zane is a Shameless Mom to four sons ages 14-22, a Mayo Clinic Certified Health and Wellness Coach and the Founder of The Stream, an online community to support moms of kids with substance use disorder. Based on her personal experience she provides a space to get and keep moms healthy while they fight for their child’s life. She also hosts Hopestream, a podcast for parents whose kids are struggling with addiction. Brenda spent the first 25 years of her career in advertising, working for global agencies and Fortune 500 clients like Target, Microsoft, Nike, Hawaiian Airlines, and P&G. She lives in Seattle with her husband and a blended family of 4 boys and 2 dogs.
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Practicing courage is a lifetime of showing up and taking small, uncomfortable steps. Sometimes things work out for you. Sometimes they don’t. Sometimes the rewards are quick and amazing and so gratifying. Sometimes it’s all really messy and ugly and painful. Regardless, for many of us (all of us?), routinely practicing courage is the only way to continually become more of the person we aspire to be. Am I right?
When I think of who I am becoming, all I see in front of me is a series of action steps that will require courage. So, I am taking small steps each day to make sure that I am ready to keep practicing courage, no matter how gratifying or gritty it becomes.
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Jocelyn Kopac is a DEI educator, a speaker, a podcaster, and an entrepreneur. At age 7, Jocelyn Kopac started her first business. From then on she knew that running and growing businesses would be a huge part of her future. Her ingenuity and positive attitude represent true leadership, although she attributes a lot of her success to the power of abundance, paying it forward and a great cup of coffee. Those that have a chance to meet her, learn from her, and hear her story say she is nothing but real, unfettered advice and encouragement.
A teacher at heart, Jocelyn loves helping businesses grow by facilitating the hard talks about diversity, equity, race, and inclusion. Her approach to diversity and inclusion work is one of love and education. We all have biases that we need to work on to be sure we are providing safe and productive anti-racist spaces. Jocelyn is here to educate and support you on this journey.
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● How she’s navigating being a DEI educator and living as a Black woman during this culturally revolution
● The definition and role of a DEI educator
● The important distinction between diversity and inclusion
● The important distinction between equality and equity
● 4 steps to becoming a better ally
● The definition of racism as it relates to your unchecked bias
● How white progressive women are doing harm while thinking they are being great allies
● How you can support BIPOC co workers and community members right now
● The danger in trying to race through a checklist of anti racism resources right now
● What the long term (necessarily uncomfortable) process of commitment, stamina, growth & change around anti racism work actually looks like
● The importance of acknowledging each person’s world perspective as individual and unique
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If there has ever been a time to persist, it is now.
Persistence leads to change and growth and evolution and POWER.
And...there is no denying that persistence is hard. It can be overwhelming, exhausting, and feel so relentless. It is all those things, but that doesn’t make it impossible. In our fatigue, it’s easy to lose track of the importance of what we are working toward.
To stay persistent we must give ourselves permission.
Permission to:
Do better
Commit
Take imperfect action
Be an action taker and decision maker
Mess up and keep going
Use your voice
Take a chance
Learn something new
Take sides
Rest and recover in order to keep going
Step back from unhealthy relationships/unhealthy people
Say yes
Say no
Become a different person
Listen to your gut (ex: Patty)
Let go of other peoples’ expectations
Be bold
Shine
In giving yourself permission to persist, you will find the power to use your voice in new ways, to affect change, to build a better legacy, and to have more massive impact. This is how we can, together, build a better world for all.
Liz Nead is an adventure speaker, coach, and author, most recently climbing Mt. Kilimanjaro and flipping 300-pound tires in the Iowa Strongman Games. She is a regular contributor to the Huffington Post and has authored several best selling books—most recently "The 1440 Principle." Her work has been ranked in BuzzFeed and reviewed by the Huffington Post. She is a skilled story-teller and teacher, creating powerful personal development and team building strategies.
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I think it’s safe to say that 2020 has broken many (all?) of us over and over.
A friend recently introduced me to the idea of being antifragile, based on the work and book Antifragile: Things That Gain From Disorder by Nassim Nicholas Taleb. She shared with me that in our breaking we have this beautiful opportunity to pick up the pieces and rebuild into something more dynamic and flexible and strong and powerful and thoughtful and conscientious.
We will break and we can rebuild and in our rebuilding we can become better than before. We can embrace that we will break over and over in our lifetime and each time something beautiful can come of the way we put the pieces back together.
There has been a lot of breaking in 2020. In our breaking, our self trust has been ROCKED. Repeatedly.
It is time to rebuild. Listen in to learn 6 ways that you can start to rebuild into a woman who is more dynamic, flexible, strong, powerful, thoughtful, and conscientious.
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Tejal V Patel is a stressed out mama's secret weapon. She’s a former divorce attorney turned mindfulness and meditation expert for moms and kids, host of The Time-In Talks podcast and author of Meditation for Kids: 40 Activities to Stay Present, Improve Concentration and Manage Difficult Emotions.
It’s Tejal’s mission to support moms in their journey to become mindful parents and raise the first generation of mindful children too.
Named a “Well-being Warrior” in The Huffington Post, Tejal’s soulful wisdom reaches moms globally through her signature online courses (The Mindful Kids Masterclass, Mindful Mama Experience, and 7 Day Stress Detox), inspiring podcast, booming Instagram community, motivating Tejal.TV episodes, powerful live events, and laser-sharp coaching.
Her fun and practical ways to infuse Ayurveda, mindfulness, and meditation everyday makes her a go-to resource for modern moms seeking to raise calm, confident, and compassionate children who want to feel like present, patient and peaceful parents too.
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This episode is different. A break from our routines and comfort zones are necessary right now.
If you follow me on social media or have listened to my show for any length of time, this probably goes without saying. But, to be unequivocally clear, I want you to know that personally and professionally I believe Black Lives Matter.
The Shameless Mom Academy is built on the following core values:
Show up
Lead with compassion and integrity
Seek out and celebrate diversity
Stay curious and humble
Stretch yourself | Embrace discomfort | Invite growth
These core values are considered in all decisions around building this community, providing services to clients, and creating impact on a global level.
I am very open about my beliefs, but if you ever want to know more about the company or core values you’re supporting when you listen to my show or invest in any of my programs, events, memberships or masterminds, please feel free to reach out to me.
In this same vein of transparency, you should also know that when you invest in the Shameless Mom Academy a portion of our revenue each month goes to the following organizations: The Loveland Foundation, Under The Same Tree, the ACLU, the Trevor Project and Planned Parenthood.
I believe all companies should be leading with pure transparency around where they stand when it comes to protecting black lives and human rights.
This episode is intentionally brief, with an invitation for you to prioritize learning from black educators today.
Go download one of these audiobooks or podcasts and listen & learn:
Me & White Supremacy: Combat Racism, Change the World, Become a Good Ancestor by Layla Saad
I’m Still Here: Black Dignity in a World Made For Whiteness by Austin Channing Brown
So You Want To Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo
This Body Is Not An Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor
Good Ancestor Podcast with Layla Saad
First Name Basis Podcast with Jasmine Bradshaw (how to talk to your kids about race):
Watch Rachel Cargle’s Public Address on Revolution on Youtube
Sign up for Mirna Valerio’s upcoming course: Introduction to Identity, Social Justice, and Antiracism for the White Community
As a woman and person of color, Abbi Wood has heard more than her fair share of what to say and do in the world. At times a whisper, and at times a yell, she's used her voice to create what she calls a full and fulfilling life. Primarily, she works with biz owners to help them find their voice (or, as she calls it, uncover their biznality) so that marketing and talking about their business feels like a natural extension of themselves vs an out-of-body experience.
I reached out to Abbi after hearing her speak at an event. She was there to speak about helping women find their voices in their businesses and brands. But what was so compelling about her talk was her own story about finding her own voice after being silenced by her family, pushed into an arranged marriage, and moving across the world to build a completely new and independent life.
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In the last 3 months, we have had the opportunity to postpone, pivot, and repurpose nearly every aspect of our lives - over and over again. It has been hard, heavy, confusing, and disorienting to say the least.
But 12 weeks in, I’d say we have begun to master these shifts. We are able to take a critical look at the opportunities in front of us each day and assess: “Is this a time to postpone, pivot, or repurpose.”
I know these decisions are becoming more clear for me, as I make them over and over. I’m able to make them with increased ease and confidence.
Today, I’ll share how I’m discerning when to postpone vs pivot vs repurpose. I’ll use a few recent family and business examples, the biggest and most scary (and most successful) being the massive shift to repurpose Shameless Mom Con 2020 to the Shameless Mom Con Collective.
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Nancy Jane Smith, MSEd., LPC is a licensed professional counselor and trainer. She graduated with her BA in Psychology from Miami University and earned Masters of Science degrees in both Counseling and Higher Education from the University of Dayton.
With 13 years in private practice and more than 20 years working as a counselor and coach, Nancy has established herself as an expert in High Functioning Anxiety. Combining her years of research, countless hours working with clients, and first-hand experience in her own life, Nancy developed the Happier Approach, a three-step system to help you motivate yourself, accomplish your goals, and be kind to yourself. Really, it is possible!
Nancy is the creator and host of The Happier Approach podcast and has written three books on living happier, most notably The Happier Approach: Be Kind to Yourself, Feel Happier and Still Accomplish Your Goals.
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I’m wondering how many of you, like me, saw the beginning of this pandemic as similar to a series of snow days or a long weekend? Perhaps you let typical habits and routines go in order to hunker down with late-night TV binging, extra treats, lotsa wine, little movement, and a bit of disregard for what really fuels your body.
Perhaps as you got deeper into this weird and unsettling season of life, you had less and less time to yourself. You stopped doing restorative activities that allowed you to have moments to yourself to think and breath - probably because there was no way to actually be alone.
We are now months into this season of life and many of us are suffering because we have let go of the habits that truly serve us: fueling our bodies well, moving our bodies to process stress, and resting/restoring when we need time and space to ourselves.
Listen in to hear how you can get your body back into a groove that supports the energy you want to carry each day - and gifts you the space you need to keep your head above water.
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Renae is a Shameless Mom of 3, an occupational therapist, and an advocate for moms who desire more grace, space, and rest within their lives. She has found strength beyond her own to navigate life's struggles...multiple miscarriages, life with 3 kids, working mom life, stay at home mom life, and a husband with a brain tumor and seizures. She’s the founder of the Rising Moms Club, a community for moms who are ready to RISE ABOVE the chaos and overwhelm of life and busy days, and trade exhaustion and the never ending to do list for a life with more JOY! She is also the host of the annual More than Mom Summit, The Great Clutter Clear Out Challenge, and the podcast Rising Moms Podcast.
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Last week, I got an email from a Shameless Mom that started with, “I'm A Badass Mom Who Is So Scared To Shine.”
This mama went on to share, “I'm scared of owning my badass part of me. I'm scared what people will think of me if I get too big. I'm scared of being so successful that I am seen. I have never put these thoughts out there but they are there, bubbling at the surface…”
I’m in conversations with moms who are afraid to shine on the regular. This is so common. And here’s the problem…. THE WORLD NEEDS YOU TO SHINE.
When you shine, we all win.
When you hide and shrink, we all lose.
Listen in to hear my love note to this mama and all of you who are afraid to shine right now. You are not alone. I GOT YOU.
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Abbi Perets wants moms to know they don’t have to choose between kids and career. She’s the coach and mentor moms turn to when they want to break into freelance writing and earn great money from home, on their own terms.
Abbi combines nearly 20 years of experience freelancing for some of the world’s biggest companies with firsthand knowledge of having five kids of her own — including one with special needs. She understands the unique challenges moms face every day and has created programs specifically tailored to meet those challenges and empower moms all over the world to have it all.
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