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Sara Dean launched the Shameless Mom Academy to help moms lead more positive, powerful and purposeful lives #everydamnday. Sara is an award winning fitness professional, author, speaker, and transformation coach who spent the last 16+ years serving moms in the fields of psychology, sociology, health & wellness. But, it took becoming a mom herself in 2012 to learn that - holy cow - this is hard work, and if you’re not paying attention you can completely lose your own sense of identity while raising babies. Join Sara every Monday and Wednesday as she and her notable guests (such as Gretchen Rubin, Carrie Wilkerson, JJ Virgin, Susan Hyatt, Cathy Heller, Nichole Nordeman, Melanie Shankle, and Jadah Sellner) dig deep into topics like creating the confidence you crave; turn your struggles into strengths, building better boundaries, and tuning into tiny habits that can change your life. Discover how why thousands of moms all over the world are turning to The Shameless Mom Academy to live bigger, bolder, braver lives #everydamnday.
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Jul 8, 2020

Nikita Burks-Hale is the CEO and Head Creative of JourneyGurl Magic Productions, a podcast production company that supports and empowers Womxn of Color as they bring their unique voices to the masses through podcasting. Nikita is also the host of 2 podcasts, The JourneyGurl Magic Podcast, and The Podcaster’s Journey (launching Aug 2020). Nikita is a journeyer in every sense of the word and truly believes that life is a journey and you must be open to its endless possibilities. Her coaching and personal beliefs are centered around living your imperfect journey to the fullest by:

  • Showing Up
  • Being Vulnerable
  • Practicing Gratitude
  • Be A Badass
  • And Enjoying the Ride

When Nikita is not coaching, producing, or journeying, you can find her Netflix bingeing classics with her wife Jessica and catching up on the latest episode of Mickey Mouse Clubhouse with her toddler son, Adonis.

Listen in to hear Nikita share:

  • Her journey into motherhood in a same sex marriage with an infertility diagnosis
  • What it means to “embrace your magic” in a really tangible (non-woo) way
  • How she is showing up and saying yes - even when it’s super uncomfortable
  • What she had to shed to become her most authentic self and find her inner magic
  • How to own your badassery over other people’s validation of you
  • Her 5 steps to living an imperfect journey
  • How she started to practice discernment in order have deeper impact

Links mentioned: 

 

Jul 6, 2020

A few years ago I was at a workshop for business owners and we had to create a list of our core values.  We were given a list of 40 or so values to choose from and had to narrow it down to our top 5. 

I couldn’t do it.

I cried.

It took me longer than anyone else in the room to narrow my list down to just a few core values I wanted to commit to. 

The process of discernment around this brought up a lot of emotion around why certain things are important to me.  It forced me to look at myself, who I am, how I show up, and how I want to impact the world.

While this was hard, it was ultimately so freeing.  When I (finally) completed the exercise, I had so much clarity around what was most important to me and why each value was important.  These core values have become guiding lights for me as I’ve developed as a woman, a mom, and a CEO. 

Listen in to hear why committing to a short list of core values is important - even crucial.  Learn exactly how to choose a few select core values that will become beacons in times of uncertainty.  Get excited about determining what’s most important to you and how to live more clearly, deeply, and loudly in your values that matter the most.

Links mentioned:

  • Join my FREE Shine Like A Mother workshop on July 15th: shamelessmom.com/shine

 

Jul 1, 2020

Brenda Zane is a Shameless Mom to four sons ages 14-22, a Mayo Clinic Certified Health and Wellness Coach and the Founder of The Stream, an online community to support moms of kids with substance use disorder. Based on her personal experience she provides a space to get and keep moms healthy while they fight for their child’s life. She also hosts Hopestream, a podcast for parents whose kids are struggling with addiction. Brenda spent the first 25 years of her career in advertising, working for global agencies and Fortune 500 clients like Target, Microsoft, Nike, Hawaiian Airlines, and P&G. She lives in Seattle with her husband and a blended family of 4 boys and 2 dogs.

Listen in to hear Brenda share:

  • Her journey of parenting a teen addict
  • How she made the decision to have her son involuntarily taken to a wilderness recovery program at age 16
  • How she led a double life being a leader at Fortune 500 companies and managing her child’s addiction and legally complex life
  • What the vicious cycle of addiction looks like
  • The emotional roller coaster of hope and heartbreak as the parent of an addict
  • How her son went from death by overdose to alive and sober and successfully living in recovery
  • Why she started an online community just for moms of addicts and why it’s not on Facebook
  • The exact steps to take if you think you’re child/teen may be struggling with addiction
  • The life & death information you need to know about fentanyl

Links mentioned:

 

 

Jun 29, 2020

Practicing courage is a lifetime of showing up and taking small, uncomfortable steps.  Sometimes things work out for you.  Sometimes they don’t.  Sometimes the rewards are quick and amazing and so gratifying.  Sometimes it’s all really messy and ugly and painful.  Regardless, for many of us (all of us?), routinely practicing courage is the only way to continually become more of the person we aspire to be.  Am I right?

When I think of who I am becoming, all I see in front of me is a series of action steps that will require courage.  So, I am taking small steps each day to make sure that I am ready to keep practicing courage, no matter how gratifying or gritty it becomes. 

Listen in to learn 5 small steps you can take to build big courage that will guide you for a lifetime.

Links Mentioned:

  • Join my FREE Shine Like A Mother Workshop on July 15th: shamelessmom.com/shine

 

Jun 24, 2020

Jocelyn Kopac is a DEI educator, a speaker, a podcaster, and an entrepreneur.  At age 7, Jocelyn Kopac started her first business. From then on she knew that running and growing businesses would be a huge part of her future. Her ingenuity and positive attitude represent true leadership, although she attributes a lot of her success to the power of abundance, paying it forward and a great cup of coffee. Those that have a chance to meet her, learn from her, and hear her story say she is nothing but real, unfettered advice and encouragement.

A teacher at heart, Jocelyn loves helping businesses grow by facilitating the hard talks about diversity, equity, race, and inclusion.  Her approach to diversity and inclusion work is one of love and education. We all have biases that we need to work on to be sure we are providing safe and productive anti-racist spaces.  Jocelyn is here to educate and support you on this journey.

Listen in to hear Jocelyn share:

●      How she’s navigating being a DEI educator and living as a Black woman during this culturally revolution

●      The definition and role of a DEI educator

●      The important distinction between diversity and inclusion

●      The important distinction between equality and equity

●      4 steps to becoming a better ally

●      The definition of racism as it relates to your unchecked bias

●      How white progressive women are doing harm while thinking they are being great allies

●      How you can support BIPOC co workers and community members right now

●      The danger in trying to race through a checklist of anti racism resources right now

●      What the long term (necessarily uncomfortable) process of commitment, stamina, growth & change around anti racism work actually looks like

●      The importance of acknowledging each person’s world perspective as individual and unique

Links mentioned:

●      Connect with Jocelyn, hire her to speak, join her mastermind: Stand In Your Bias

●      Jocelyn’s glossary

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Jun 22, 2020

If there has ever been a time to persist, it is now. 

Persistence leads to change and growth and evolution and POWER. 

And...there is no denying that persistence is hard.  It can be overwhelming, exhausting, and feel so relentless.  It is all those things, but that doesn’t make it impossible.  In our fatigue, it’s easy to lose track of the importance of what we are working toward.  

To stay persistent we must give ourselves permission.  

Permission to:

Do better

Commit

Take imperfect action

Be an action taker and decision maker

Mess up and keep going

Use your voice

Take a chance

Learn something new

Take sides

Rest and recover in order to keep going

Step back from unhealthy relationships/unhealthy people

Say yes

Say no

Become a different person

Listen to your gut (ex: Patty)

Let go of other peoples’ expectations

Be bold

Shine

In giving yourself permission to persist, you will find the power to use your voice in new ways, to affect change, to build a better legacy, and to have more massive impact.  This is how we can, together, build a better world for all.

 

Jun 17, 2020

Liz Nead is an adventure speaker, coach, and author, most recently climbing Mt. Kilimanjaro and flipping 300-pound tires in the Iowa Strongman Games. She is a regular contributor to the Huffington Post and has authored several best selling books—most recently "The 1440 Principle." Her work has been ranked in BuzzFeed and reviewed by the Huffington Post. She is a skilled story-teller and teacher, creating powerful personal development and team building strategies.

Listen in to hear Liz share:

  • How she using time in COVID to go into creation and introspection mode
  • How COVID took her 2020 family from a 3 person family to a 6 person family
  • The heavy burdens she sees moms carrying during this pandemic
  • The burden of comparison in daily life and habits
  • Her 1440 Principle and how to use it to have massive positive impact in your life
  • The cost of time and how costly some our relationships are
  • How to use the 1440 Principle as an accountability tool
  • How she’s kicking off her fifties with intention and a deep desire to learn from other women

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Thank you to our sponsors:

  • Kosmatology: Kosmatology has a great offer for our listeners: for any first-time purchasers, you receive 15% off. To get 15% off your first order, go to kosmatology.com and use code shameless at checkout. 

 

 

Jun 15, 2020

I think it’s safe to say that 2020 has broken many (all?) of us over and over. 

A friend recently introduced me to the idea of being antifragile, based on the work and book Antifragile: Things That Gain From Disorder by Nassim Nicholas Taleb.  She shared with me that in our breaking we have this beautiful opportunity to pick up the pieces and rebuild into something more dynamic and flexible and strong and powerful and thoughtful and conscientious. 

We will break and we can rebuild and in our rebuilding we can become better than before.  We can embrace that we will break over and over in our lifetime and each time something beautiful can come of the way we put the pieces back together. 

There has been a lot of breaking in 2020.  In our breaking, our self trust has been ROCKED.  Repeatedly.

It is time to rebuild.  Listen in to learn 6 ways that you can start to rebuild into a woman who is more dynamic, flexible, strong, powerful, thoughtful, and conscientious.

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Jun 10, 2020

Tejal V Patel is a stressed out mama's secret weapon. She’s a former divorce attorney turned mindfulness and meditation expert for moms and kids, host of The Time-In Talks podcast and author of Meditation for Kids: 40 Activities to Stay Present, Improve Concentration and Manage Difficult Emotions.

It’s Tejal’s mission to support moms in their journey to become mindful parents and raise the first generation of mindful children too.

Named a “Well-being Warrior” in The Huffington Post, Tejal’s soulful wisdom reaches moms globally through her signature online courses (The Mindful Kids Masterclass, Mindful Mama Experience, and 7 Day Stress Detox), inspiring podcast, booming Instagram community, motivating Tejal.TV episodes, powerful live events, and laser-sharp coaching.

Her fun and practical ways to infuse Ayurveda, mindfulness, and meditation everyday makes her a go-to resource for modern moms seeking to raise calm, confident, and compassionate children who want to feel like present, patient and peaceful parents too.

Listen in to hear Tejul share:

  • How she went from divorce attorney to children’s meditation expert
  • How her own childhood anxiety inspired and informed her work
  • Her strong belief/bold claim that KIDS CAN MEDITATE, even as young as age 3
  • How to help kids start meditating in a way that’s appropriate for them - broken into 3 phases
  • Simple ideas and practices for helping kids meditate to cope with a range of emotions
  • How to teach kids to meditate in just 1-3 minutes a day
  • Why it’s critical for our kids to experience and feel unhappiness
  • How to engage and prompt children who are resistant to mediation
  • How to use her book, Meditation for Kids: 40 Activities to Stay Present, Improve Concentration and Manage Difficult Emotions, to integrate meditation in fun and simple ways into your child’s day

Links mentioned:

Thank you to our sponsor:

  • Kosmatology: Kosmatology has a great offer for our listeners: for any first-time purchasers, you receive 15% off. To get 15% off your first order, go to Kosmatology.com​ and use code shameless at checkout. 

 

Jun 8, 2020

This episode is different.  A break from our routines and comfort zones are necessary right now. 

If you follow me on social media or have listened to my show for any length of time, this probably goes without saying.  But, to be unequivocally clear, I want you to know that personally and professionally I believe Black Lives Matter. 

The Shameless Mom Academy is built on the following core values:

Show up

Lead with compassion and integrity

Seek out and celebrate diversity

Stay curious and humble

Stretch yourself | Embrace discomfort | Invite growth

These core values are considered in all decisions around building this community, providing services to clients, and creating impact on a global level.

I am very open about my beliefs, but if you ever want to know more about the company or core values you’re supporting when you listen to my show or invest in any of my programs, events, memberships or masterminds, please feel free to reach out to me. 

In this same vein of transparency, you should also know that when you invest in the Shameless Mom Academy a portion of our revenue each month goes to the following organizations: The Loveland Foundation, Under The Same Tree, the ACLU, the Trevor Project and Planned Parenthood.

I believe all companies should be leading with pure transparency around where they stand when it comes to protecting black lives and human rights. 

This episode is intentionally brief, with an invitation for you to prioritize learning from black educators today.

Go download one of these audiobooks or podcasts and listen & learn:

Me & White Supremacy: Combat Racism, Change the World, Become a Good Ancestor by Layla Saad

I’m Still Here: Black Dignity in a World Made For Whiteness by Austin Channing Brown

So You Want To Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo

This Body Is Not An Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor

Good Ancestor Podcast with Layla Saad 

First Name Basis Podcast with Jasmine Bradshaw (how to talk to your kids about race): 

Seeing White Podcast 

Watch Rachel Cargle’s Public Address on Revolution on Youtube

Sign up for Mirna Valerio’s upcoming course: Introduction to Identity, Social Justice, and Antiracism for the White Community

 

Jun 3, 2020

As a woman and person of color, Abbi Wood has heard more than her fair share of what to say and do in the world. At times a whisper, and at times a yell, she's used her voice to create what she calls a full and fulfilling life. Primarily, she works with biz owners to help them find their voice (or, as she calls it, uncover their biznality) so that marketing and talking about their business feels like a natural extension of themselves vs an out-of-body experience.

I reached out to Abbi after hearing her speak at an event.  She was there to speak about helping women find their voices in their businesses and brands.  But what was so compelling about her talk was her own story about finding her own voice after being silenced by her family, pushed into an arranged marriage, and moving across the world to build a completely new and independent life.

Listen in to hear Abbi share:

  • Her experience being raised in Pakistani family in England
  • Her experience feeling like she didn’t fit in anywhere - in her brown family or in her white world
  • How her voice was quieted by her family and culture
  • Her path into an arranged marriage
  • How she ended up secretly on birth control while also in fertility treatment
  • How she got out of her arranged marriage and found her voice
  • How she helps women find their voices, embrace their stories and create their biznality

Links mentioned:

Connect with Abbi: Abbi Wood

Abbi and Biznality on FB

Thank you to our sponsor:

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Jun 1, 2020

In the last 3 months, we have had the opportunity to postpone, pivot, and repurpose nearly every aspect of our lives - over and over again.  It has been hard, heavy, confusing, and disorienting to say the least. 

But 12 weeks in, I’d say we have begun to master these shifts.  We are able to take a critical look at the opportunities in front of us each day and assess: “Is this a time to postpone, pivot, or repurpose.”

I know these decisions are becoming more clear for me, as I make them over and over.  I’m able to make them with increased ease and confidence. 

Today, I’ll share how I’m discerning when to postpone vs pivot vs repurpose.  I’ll use a few recent family and business examples, the biggest and most scary (and most successful) being the massive shift to repurpose Shameless Mom Con 2020 to the Shameless Mom Con Collective. 

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May 27, 2020

Nancy Jane Smith, MSEd., LPC is a licensed professional counselor and trainer. She graduated with her BA in Psychology from Miami University and earned Masters of Science degrees in both Counseling and Higher Education from the University of Dayton.

With 13 years in private practice and more than 20 years working as a counselor and coach, Nancy has established herself as an expert in High Functioning Anxiety. Combining her years of research, countless hours working with clients, and first-hand experience in her own life, Nancy developed the Happier Approach, a three-step system to help you motivate yourself, accomplish your goals, and be kind to yourself. Really, it is possible!

Nancy is the creator and host of The Happier Approach podcast and has written three books on living happier, most notably The Happier Approach: Be Kind to Yourself, Feel Happier and Still Accomplish Your Goals.

Listen in to hear Nancy Jane share:

  • What high functioning anxiety is and why is it harmful and insidious
  • Signs of chronic anxiety and high functioning anxiety
  • Why positivity thinking and gratitude can be be harmful to people with high functioning anxiety
  • Why people with HFA need different rules around checking social media, email, news, etc
  • How you can treat and manage high functioning anxiety
  • How to identify your Monger, your BFF and your Biggest Fan in order to manage your anxiety

Links mentioned:

Thank you to our sponsors:

  • Kosmatology: Kosmatology has a great offer for our listeners: for any first-time purchasers, you receive 15% off. To get 15% off your first order, go to Kosmatology.com​ and use code shameless at checkout.

 

May 25, 2020

I’m wondering how many of you, like me, saw the beginning of this pandemic as similar to a series of snow days or a long weekend?  Perhaps you let typical habits and routines go in order to hunker down with late-night TV binging, extra treats, lotsa wine, little movement, and a bit of disregard for what really fuels your body.

Perhaps as you got deeper into this weird and unsettling season of life, you had less and less time to yourself.  You stopped doing restorative activities that allowed you to have moments to yourself to think and breath - probably because there was no way to actually be alone. 

We are now months into this season of life and many of us are suffering because we have let go of the habits that truly serve us: fueling our bodies well, moving our bodies to process stress, and resting/restoring when we need time and space to ourselves. 

Listen in to hear how you can get your body back into a groove that supports the energy you want to carry each day - and gifts you the space you need to keep your head above water. 

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May 20, 2020

Renae is a Shameless Mom of 3, an occupational therapist, and an advocate for moms who desire more grace, space, and rest within their lives.  She has found strength beyond her own to navigate life's struggles...multiple miscarriages, life with 3 kids, working mom life, stay at home mom life, and a husband with a brain tumor and seizures. She’s the founder of the Rising Moms Club, a community for moms who are ready to RISE ABOVE the chaos and overwhelm of life and busy days, and trade exhaustion and the never ending to do list for a life with more JOY!   She is also the host of the annual More than Mom Summit, The Great Clutter Clear Out Challenge, and the podcast Rising Moms Podcast.  

Listen in to hear Renae share:

  • How she navigated her husband’s cancer diagnosis and care with 3 kids under 5 years
  • Why more “stuff” for your kids is not making them more healthy or more happy
  • How shedding physical items helps you declutter your mental health
  • How to get your kids on board and engaged in decluttering
  • Her Rise Above Framework to decluttering and overcoming overwhelm
  • The 4 steps to her Rise Above Framework
  • How to create rhythm around your menstrual cycle and why this rhythm can be so beneficial
  • The foundational element needed to say no without guilt

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May 18, 2020

Last week, I got an email from a Shameless Mom that started with, “I'm A Badass Mom Who Is So Scared To Shine.”

This mama went on to share, “I'm scared of owning my badass part of me.  I'm scared what people will think of me if I get too big.  I'm scared of being so successful that I am seen.  I have never put these thoughts out there but they are there, bubbling at the surface…”

I’m in conversations with moms who are afraid to shine on the regular.  This is so common.  And here’s the problem…. THE WORLD NEEDS YOU TO SHINE. 

When you shine, we all win. 

When you hide and shrink, we all lose.

Listen in to hear my love note to this mama and all of you who are afraid to shine right now.  You are not alone.  I GOT YOU.

Thank you to our sponsors:

  • Kosmatology: Kosmatology has a great offer for our listeners: for any first-time purchasers, you receive 15% off. To get 15% off your first order, go to Kosmatology.com​ and use code shameless at checkout. 

 

May 13, 2020

Abbi Perets wants moms to know they don’t have to choose between kids and career. She’s the coach and mentor moms turn to when they want to break into freelance writing and earn great money from home, on their own terms.

Abbi combines nearly 20 years of experience freelancing for some of the world’s biggest companies with firsthand knowledge of having five kids of her own — including one with special needs. She understands the unique challenges moms face every day and has created programs specifically tailored to meet those challenges and empower moms all over the world to have it all.

Listen in to hear Abbi share:

  • Why she moved from Pennsylvania to Israel to join the Israeli army at age 18
  • What prompted her to start freelance writing and how it saved her when her son had cancer
  • How moms can get started in freelance writing
  • What kinds of experience/expertise you need (and don’t need) to get started as a freelance writer
  • The importance niching down and specializing in specific content areas as a writer
  • How to believe in yourself and your ability when you’re doing something new
  • Why she has no qualms about running her business and selling her services during COVID-19

Links mentioned:

Connect with Abbi: Successful Freelance Mom

Get Abbi’s free course: How to Be a Freelance Writer

Instagram: Abbi Perets

FB Group: Writing Mom Conference

FB Page: Successful Freelance Mom

Thank you to our sponsor:

  • Built Bar: Built Bar is offering my listeners 20% off your first purchase! Go to Builtbar.com and enter promo code SHAMELESS at checkout to receive 20% off your first order!

 

May 11, 2020

Building confidence is like writing a book or running a marathon - you do it one action step, one word, one block at a time.  It's not a one-and-done process.  It's a lifetime of practice.  A lifetime of choosing courage - often tiny acts of courage. 

In 2019 I did two of the most courageous things I've ever done:

  1. I hosted the first Shameless Mom Con. This was such a big and overwhelming task to take on. But I knew if I could pull it off it would be life changing for my attendees and for me.
  2. I learned how to ski. I know this might sound silly to classify as a massive act of courage, but for a girl who is terrified of speed and momentum and heights (read: chairlifts), this was a big deal.

I was only able to take on these acts of courage because I am constantly working on building my confidence - especially around things that are hard or uncomfortable for me.

I have practices that I engage in daily that allow me to step into my confidence #everydamnday.  These are small things that do not take a lot of time but have big impact in my ability to keep my confidence high, especially in trying times. 

Right now we are in trying times - the likes of which we have never seen before.  If there has ever been a time to cultivate confidence and remind ourselves just how much power innately exists inside of us, it is now. 

Often, cultivating confidence comes from tiny action steps repeated over and over that lead us to take on bigger goals (starting a business, running a marathon, creating and sharing our art, learning a new skill, taking on a new leadership role.) 

Listen in to learn 5 tiny action steps you can take each day that take mere minutes but have deep impact in your ability to cultivate the confidence you need to make it through trying times - perhaps even thrive through trying times.

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May 6, 2020

Dr. Omolara Thomas Uwemedimo is a Shameless Mom and a board certified pediatrician of over 15 years and an academic faculty member for over a decade, providing coaching and mentorship programs for physicians of color. She is also the CEO of Strong Children Wellness, an innovative telemedicine practice that addresses both unmet health and social needs for families in New York and the founder of Melanin, Medicine & Motherhood, an organization focused on empowering and supporting the personal & professional development of Black women physicians, especially mothers, to achieve their vision and build their capacity to support other women of color.

Her career has been defined by a passion for social justice, an advocate, a professor & researcher committed to ensuring all mothers and children, no matter their race, income, or background have an equal right to thrive. She has worked as a global physician in NYC, Boston, and in 12 countries across sub-Saharan Africa, Asia, and the Caribbean. Dr. Uwemedimo is a national speaker to both physician and community audiences in the fields of overcoming implicit bias and racism in healthcare settings, inclusion, and equity for women physicians in healthcare and health equity for marginalized children and families, including those from immigrant and Black communities. She has been featured in several media outlets including Essence.com, Newsweek, Reuters, NPR, and CNN Espanol.

Listen in to hear Omolara share:

  • Her experience being a physician in New York during COVID-19
  • Why she made the professional shift to serve female doctors of color
  • The importance of vulnerability, community, and confidence as the antidote to burnout
  • Why she decided to create a community specifically for women physicians of color

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Thank you to our sponsors:

  • Built Bar: Built Bar is offering my listeners 20% off your first purchase! Go to Builtbar.com and enter promo code SHAMELESS at checkout to receive 20% off your first order!

 

May 4, 2020

Leadership is typically a series of imperfect action steps. 

Leaders tumble, fall, and crash just like anyone else.

But when a leader tumbles, falls or crashes, there is an audience watching to see how they will stand back up, pick up the pieces, and put things back together. 

When a leader crashes and harm is done to others in the wake of their errors, people watch even more closely. 

When harm is done, trust is eroded.  Trust is broken between the leader and anyone who was harmed, obviously.  But trust is also broken between the leader and anyone who is watching if the bystanders don’t see the leader take active steps to rebuild trust with those who were harmed.  Those harmed hope to be held.  Those watching hope to see the leader offer protection to those hurting. This is how everyone can recover and heal and know that they are in a safe community.

Positive leadership looks like owning your mistakes and owning when you’ve caused harm without providing excuses or placing blame on others.

Positive leadership looks like having uncomfortable conversations publicly.

Positive leadership looks like recognizing your blind spots and committing to active and ongoing learning so you can see them more fully.

Positive leadership looks like inviting feedback when you have caused harm and engaging in conversation with those who are hurting.

Positive leadership looks like protecting people in your community from abuse and trauma.

Positive leadership looks like pushing pause on the day-to-day parts of your work to rebuild trust where you have broken trust.

We are all leaders - whether you are leading families, PTAs, soccer teams or companies.  You are a leader.

You are going to screw up.  You will crash.  You will cause harm.

How will you rebuild trust after you cause harm?

Listen in to learn how leaders can do better when they cause harm, especially as it pertains to race and protecting people of color in your community.  This episode is inspired by a leader who recently crashed and then opted not to protect those harmed.  A community became fractured and the erosion of trust was massive. This example is a powerful example of how leaders, especially white leaders, need to do so much better. 

Women of color to follow on Instagram (follow these women, buy their books, listen to their podcasts, and support their work):

Books:

 

Apr 29, 2020

Meagan Francis is a mom of five kids ages 11 - 22, author, writer, and co-host of The Mom Hour podcast. She regularly speaks and coaches women and moms on building sane and satisfying lives, embracing creativity, and reinventing their careers.

Meagan has been momming for her entire adulthood, having her first child in her early twenties.  She has been writing, blogging, and reinventing herself online for 15 years.  She has learned a lot of lessons along the way.  Her energy is infectious and her perspectives are so refreshing. 

Listen in to hear Meagan share:

  • How current times are taking us back to Newbornland
  • How she’s finding and creating joy in unpredictable times
  • How she went from blogging to podcasting (and whether you should start a blog or a podcast!)
  • How moms can find happiness and satisfaction in spite of the media telling us that motherhood is hard, overwhelming, and frustrating
  • Why she is actively opting out and rejecting the current COVID climate around homeschooling
  • The value of embracing constant reinvention

Links mentioned:

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Apr 27, 2020

Many of you have shared that the biggest and most relentless challenges of this time are finding motivation and personal time in this current version of Groundhogs Day.

It is definitely challenging to motivate when you don’t know what’s coming, you feel you have very little control over your future, and you have no space to think through what you want your life to look like right now.

I know one of my biggest challenges during this time has been the constant closeness of my family.   Don’t get me wrong, there has been some magic in this. But also, it’s a LOT.  And it’s never-ending.  I was pretty accustomed to (and appreciative of) my quiet days working solo from home.  There is nothing solo about my days anymore. 

Yes, I’m grateful to be working, but it’s overwhelming and exhausting to work full time with a child and a dog constantly by my side.  I know many of you are doing this with more than one child by your side.  I bow down….

During this time, we must create and fiercely protect small spaces of personal time.  This will tremendously help us find motivation and stay motivated.  I have been creating little pockets of personal time that break up my day and really help keep me moving forward with a decent attitude. 

Listen in to hear exactly how you can find more motivation by creating pockets of personal time each day.

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Apr 22, 2020

Patrice Washington is a Shameless Mom to a 12-year-old daughter, an award-winning author, transformational speaker, hope-restoring coach, and media personality.  And she is committed to redefining the term wealth for our generation.

Patrice got her start as your favorite personal finance expert, “America’s Money Maven”, having tremendous success with her “mindset approach” to personal finance. A licensed real estate professional by her sophomore year in college and a real estate and mortgage broker at 21 years old, Patrice took her boutique brokerage from the dining room of her 700-square foot condo to a 7-figure real estate empire by just 25.  After losing her fortune in the Great Recession, she dedicated her life to not just rebuilding and reinventing her own life but helping the masses move from debt management to money mastery. She has since expanded her brand and mission, encouraging women to chase purpose, not money.

Patrice is committed to redefining the term “wealth”, using its original meaning, “well-being”. She encourages women to have “wealth” in all aspects of their lives by pursuing their purpose, being fulfilled, and earning more without ever chasing money. Through her teachings, Patrice empowers women to look at life through the lens of abundance and opportunity, instead of lack and scarcity.

As the founder of Redefining Wealth and The Earn More Money Movement for Women, Patrice has built a thriving community of high-achieving women committed to creating a powerful life vision--in their careers, home, health, and personal finances.

Every week, millions of listeners have tuned in to her weekly segment, Redefining Wealth with Patrice Washington as part of a top-rated and nationally syndicated radio show. Patrice’s podcast, The Redefining Wealth Podcast with Patrice Washington, which takes a deeper dive into her radio segment content, launched in 2017 with overwhelming success. Her popular podcast was recently featured on Forbes.com as one of "15 Inspiring Podcasts for Professionals of Every Stripe".

Listen in to hear Patrice share:

  • Why 2020 is her year of obedience
  • How she has overcome being known as “the Money Maven” vs being Reagan’s mom
  • Why it’s ok to suck at cooking - and to stop trying to make it better
  • How to focus on what you want vs what you don’t want
  • 3 pillars to redefining wealth
  • How our self-image holds us back in all areas of our lives
  • The connection between physical clutter and mental chaos in our lives
  • How to truly live a life of purpose - on your own terms

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Apr 20, 2020

As we get deeper into pandemic life, there is more and more need to take a critical look at what’s working for you, what’s not working, and what beneficial changes could be made during this uncertain time.

Along these lines, there are a few things you may benefit from quitting. 

Years ago, I did an episode called, “Be a Quitter.”  I’m a long time fan of quitting things that don’t serve me.  In fact, I can’t stand supposed inspirational quotes that suggest we should not be quitters.  I think we should frequently assess what’s no longer working for us and quit those things quickly and without hesitation, in order to make space for the things that serve us, promote good physical and mental health, allow for appropriate boundaries with others, and keep us evolving in the directions we want to grow and thrive.

As you have settled into new routines over the past 6 weeks, it is likely that you’ve also settled into some routines that aren’t optimal.  Listen in to this episode to assess where you’re at, what’s not working, and what you might consider quitting in order to maintain optimal mental health as you continue to move through this time. 

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Apr 15, 2020

RB Fast is an activist, leader, envelope pusher, magic maker, and mother of a child who is creative, brave, and transgender.

I asked RB to come on this show because I wanted to have a parent of a transgender child share with us what parenting can look like when there are major shifts around a child’s identity - shifts that the rest of the world might not understand or might not accept. 

When RB and I first started talking about doing this interview, she said she had to talk to her son about it.  She wanted him to fully consent to this conversation - as well as set any boundaries he needed.  RB also set boundaries around this conversation, as you’ll hear us talk about.  This is such a beautiful and powerful example of sharing someone’s story in order to help others more clearly and deeply understand something, while also protecting someone’s boundaries.  

Listen in to hear RB share:

  • Why she gave up her business to go back to a traditional job and why sometimes seemingly moving backward is actually moving forward
  • How she creates boundaries around sharing a story of parenting a trans child and protecting her child at the same time
  • How to practice curiosity over judgement if your child may be LGBTQ+
  • How parents can raise children who are strong allies
  • Signing up for unconditional love couched in a universe of uncertainty

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