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Sara Dean launched the Shameless Mom Academy to help moms lead more positive, powerful and purposeful lives #everydamnday. Sara is an award winning fitness professional, author, speaker, and transformation coach who spent the last 16+ years serving moms in the fields of psychology, sociology, health & wellness. But, it took becoming a mom herself in 2012 to learn that - holy cow - this is hard work, and if you’re not paying attention you can completely lose your own sense of identity while raising babies. Join Sara every Monday and Wednesday as she and her notable guests (such as Gretchen Rubin, Carrie Wilkerson, JJ Virgin, Susan Hyatt, Cathy Heller, Nichole Nordeman, Melanie Shankle, and Jadah Sellner) dig deep into topics like creating the confidence you crave; turn your struggles into strengths, building better boundaries, and tuning into tiny habits that can change your life. Discover how why thousands of moms all over the world are turning to The Shameless Mom Academy to live bigger, bolder, braver lives #everydamnday.
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Jun 17, 2019

Someone is going to be the leader of your life. 

Will it be you?

Being the leader of your life is a tremendous responsibility and a huge opportunity for all great things.  How much are you capitalizing on that opportunity?

As we enter a new season - a season where many moms find comfort in commiserating over lack of childcare and the countdown to the first day of school, I invite you to consider how you can be the leader of your life to make this summer full of adventure, full of magic, full of fire - all on your own damn terms.  Yes, that is all truly in your power. 

Tune into this SMA episode for 4 powerful ways to be the leader of your life this summer - and #everydamnday. 

Links mentioned:

  • Join us at Shameless Mom Con 2020 on March 27th & March 28th! Get on the WaitList for tickets here: Mom con 2020

Thank you to our sponsors:

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Jun 12, 2019

Born and raised in the Chicago suburbs, Nicole DeBoom was a standout swimmer, qualifying for the 1988 Olympic Trials and later graduating from Yale University. She decided to pursue the sport of triathlon, and a lucky seat assignment introduced her to her future husband, Tim DeBoom (who would later become a 2-time Hawaii Ironman World Champion), on a flight to the 1995 Triathlon World Championships. Nicole started racing professionally in 1999, racking up countless podium finishes. During the final stage of her racing career in 2004, Nicole created and introduced something that had never been done before – the very first running skirt.

Shortly afterward, Nicole went on to launch Skirt Sports with the mission of helping women find inspiration, confidence, and courage through the transformative power of running and fitness. Today, Skirt Sports is a national women’s apparel brand offering a full line of products that fit real women’s bodies and support their busy running lives. Currently, you can find Nicole chatting with customers at the Skirt Sports Boulder flagship store, helping women change their lives through her non-profit organization Running Start, interviewing visionaries for her popular podcast Run This World and chasing around her 7-year-old girl, Wilder.

Nicole’s energy is as big and dynamic as her racing career.  I think you’re going to love this conversation as much as I did!

Listen in to hear Nicole share:

  • How she went from being a professional athlete who didn’t want kids to have a daughter that completely changed her sense of identity
  • How she adapted to NOT doing it all
  • Her evolution from a professional athlete into a working mom with a mission (and the shift in identity when you no longer workout 3 times a day)
  • Her mission in building a company that makes athletics and working out more feminine and more accessible to women of all abilities and body types
  • What inspired her to start a nonprofit and the impact it’s had on other women

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Jun 10, 2019

Wanna know the very best way to stay stuck and lost in your life?

Keep telling yourself, “I’m stuck, I’m lost, I’m confused, I don’t know my passion…

Your words matter and your thoughts matter. 

Your words create your thoughts.  Your thoughts create your beliefs.  Your beliefs create your actions.  Your actions create your dreams – or your disasters.

If you’re telling yourself you’re stuck, you will stay stuck.  If you’re telling yourself you’re lost, you’ll stay lost.

Soooo…

What if you started telling yourself, “ I’m curious, I’m looking, I’m learning, I’m exploring, I’m gaining clarity”???

If you tell yourself you’re learning and exploring and gaining clarity, you’ll start noticing new things around you.  You’ll start seeing things in a new light.  You’ll feel your perspective shift – because you’ve given yourself permission to be open to the process of growth, rather than staying shut off and unable to bring in a new energy. 

You must stop blocking the very energy you need to get unstuck, the very energy you need to start finding yourself. 

Here are 6 action steps you can take today to stop staying stuck in your stories and lost in your life:

  1. Listen to SMA Ep 247 How to Pursue Your Passions
  2. Upgrade your language
  3. Get curious
  4. Create space and grace for exploration, learning, dreaming
  5. Write down your dreams and desires – the dreams you write down are the dreams that will most likely to happen
  6. Don’t need all the answers now -  recognize you’re in a phase and embrace the phase for what it is

Listen in for a deep dive into these 6 action steps!

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Jun 5, 2019

Christine Hassler is the best-selling author of three books, most recently Expectation Hangover: Free Yourself From Your Past, Change your Present and Get What You Really Want. She left her successful job as a Hollywood agent to pursue a life she could be passionate about. For over a decade, as a keynote speaker, retreat facilitator, spiritual psychologist and life coach, and host of the top-rated podcast “Over it and On With It”, she has been teaching and inspiring people around the world. Christine believes once we get out of our own way, we can show up to make the meaningful impact we are here to make.

Listen in to hear Christine share:

  • Her rock bottom phase: finding herself in serious debt, constantly sick, suffering from depression, estranged from family, in a broken relationship with her fiance
  • How to reframe “fixing” your life vs learning from your life lessons
  • How to navigate expectation hangovers
  • Why you shouldn’t prevent your child from feeling negative feelings
  • How we use spiritual bypassing to forgive too quickly
  • Why your inner critic must exist and to turn up inner wisdom to turn down your inner critic

Links Mentioned:

Connect with Christine

Podcast: Over It and On With It

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Jun 3, 2019

If I’m telling the truth, I used to think affirmations were kinda ridiculous.  In fact, a few years ago I tried doing affirmations every morning, as prescribed by someone else, and I just felt like a total fool.

About a year ago, I decided to give them another go – on my own terms.  After some thoughtful consideration, I declared 13 affirmations that felt authentic to who I am.  They felt a little uncomfortable, yes, but they felt concrete and actionable and in alignment with my core values – which actually felt powerful and exciting instead of ridiculous.

I have been writing affirmations pretty much daily for almost a year and I’ve seen my desire and ability to take confident and courageous action SKYROCKET.  Since my technique has been feeling good and getting me actual tangible results, I thought it would be worth sharing with you.

Listen in to hear 9 steps to creating meaningful affirmations that become actual TRUTHS in your life.  These are the actual steps I have taken to create the affirmations that I write #everydamnday – the affirmations that are actually deeply, positively impacting my daily life and my ability to reach my biggest goals ever.

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May 29, 2019

Andrea Owen is an author, mentor, and professional certified life coach who helps high-achieving women let go of perfectionism, control, and isolation and choosing courage and confidence instead. She has helped thousands of women manage their inner-critic to create loving connections and live their most kick-ass life.

She is the proud author of How To Stop Feeling Like Shit: 14 Habits That Are Holding You Back From Happiness which has been translated into 16 languages, as well as her inaugural book, 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life: BS Free Wisdom to Ignite Your Inner Badass and Live the Life You Deserve.

When she’s not juggling her full coaching practice or hosting retreats, Andrea is busy competing in triathlons, chasing her 11-year-old son and 9-year-old daughter or making out with her husband, Jason. She is also a retired roller derby player having skated under the name “Veronica Vain”.

Andrea is a returning guest.  I specifically asked her to come back to the show to talk my in-depth on a topic we didn’t have time to dive into in her first interview here - her alcohol use, abuse, and recovery. 

Alcohol misuse among women is at an all-time high - because the billion dollar alcohol industry (run by men) is marketing wine to women as a daily coping mechanism.  This is problematic is so many ways.

Regardless of your relationship with alcohol, I think you’ll learn something from this episode.  Andrea is sober and I have 1-2 drinks on a regular basis - so you’re going to get two perspectives in this conversation.

Listen in to hear Andrea share:

  • The danger of stigmatizing alcoholism
  • How wine culture - targeted at women, especially moms - makes it ok to use alcohol as a coping skill
  • The danger of normalizing alcohol use in everyday scenarios
  • The truth about the mental gymnastics & negotiation around alcohol use
  • How she navigated her son’s autism diagnosis and her father’s death sober
  • How sobriety brought her courage and self-confidence to take on anything in life

Links mentioned:

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May 27, 2019

Whether you are facing a day full of awesome or a day full of crap, you get to choose how you manage your head and your heart #everydamnday.

You can choose to let the universe get the best of you or you can choose to use your best self to get exactly what you need out of the day.

You can choose to see limitations or opportunities every single day.

You can choose to be sucked in and pulled down by circumstances or you can RISE UP and touch what feels positive, productive and purposeful.

You can shrink in fear and trepidation or you can remind yourself that you have already proven yourself to be strong, powerful, capable, resourceful, and resilient over and over and over in this lifetime – and today will be no different.

Every day you get to choose to tap into growth mindset – or not.

I’m not saying this is an easy choice – some days it’s hard, even grueling.  But the more your practice the more your trust yourself – to stretch into possibility and potential and find what you want and what you need even in situations where it seems there is no way to win.

Listen in to learn 4 powerful ways to readily tap into growth mindset #everydamnday.

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May 22, 2019

Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith is an author, speaker, and board-certified physician. She has an active medical practice in Alabama (near the Birmingham area). Dr. Dalton-Smith is a national and international media resource on the mind, body, spirit connection and has been featured in Women's Day, Redbook, and First For Women magazine. She is the author of Set Free to Live and Come Empty (winner 2016 Golden Scroll Nonfiction Book of the Year and 2016 Illumination Award Gold medalist). She is a member of the Christian Medical and Dental Association and a repeat keynote speaker at their annual gathering. She has shared her tips on merging faith and medicine with over 16,000 health care professionals to encourage the current and next generation of doctors to treat the whole person.

I wanted to Dr. Saundra to come on the show to talk about her new book Sacred Rest.  This is a really eye-opening conversation that provides a ton of insight into 7 different types of rest and why each is important.  Dr. Saundra’s work goes much deeper than just the need for sleep.  I think this conversation will be just the permission you might need to incorporate more types of rest (and joy!) into your daily life.

Listen in to hear Saundra share:

  • How ⅔ of the population is sleep deprived
  • The truth behind highly functional, high producing women (hint: low joy, low quality of life)
  • The difference between sleep and rest and why you need both
  • The 7 types of rest - sleep is only 50% one of the types!
  • How to use flow break cycles to have the work rest ratio to recover the energy you need to have energy during all waking hours
  • How to have rest periods even in the midst of family/kid chaos, as well as model rest to your kids

Links mentioned:

Quiz: Rest Quiz

Website: I Choose My Best Life

Book:  I Choose My Best Life

Twitter Handle: @DrDaltonSmith

Facebook Page: Dr. Saundra Dalton – Smith

Instagram: @DrDaltonSmith

Pinterest: @DrDaltonSmith

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May 20, 2019

Lack of true connection in our lives is a verified epidemic - meaning there are actual studies that show that we (women especially) are feeling more isolated, lonely, and depressed than ever before. 

The most beautiful I have witnessed since starting the Shameless Mom Academy is the connection between so many of you.  It started in our free private Facebook group.  It carried over into our MOMENTUM Mamas membership community, and it was the most magical part of Shameless Mom Con.

Connection with other women is what saves us from ourselves.  Yet, we often really struggle to find connections that are true and deep and meaningful.

In this episode, I share 6 symptoms of lack of connection - everything from jealousy to low worth, to holding on to secrets.  Then I walk you through 6 ways you can implement and integrate more conscientious connections in your life. Lastly, I give you 5 ways to take the first step toward more meaningful connections starting today.

If you feel like you need to find “your people”, this episode is for you. 

Links Mentioned:

Save $50 on my Bubbles & Blueprints Workshop

Get on the Shameless Mom Con 2020 Wait List

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May 15, 2019

Bonnie Mae is a Shameless Mom to two sons ages 10 and 12, as well as a survivor and warrior of an abusive relationship that spanned 10 years. She has a passion for advocating for the needs and safety of her children as well as herself. She has an associates degree in human services.  She used to think she wasn’t using putting her degree to good use - until recently. She recently took the bold, brave steps to become an educator and speaker to youth and young adults  - teaching around all issues related to domestic violence.  She teaches the warning signs of abusive behavior, offers advice on how to safely get out of abusive relationships, and coaches around the impact of abuse on one’s life.   She speaks at various organizations, as well as middle and high schools.

Bonnie reached out to me a few months ago when I said I wanted to broach the subject of domestic violence on the show.  I’m deeply honored that she took the brave step to share her story and her lessons with us all.  Her story will have ripple effects that she will never see - that may well save lives of other Shameless Moms.

Listen in to hear Bonnie share:

  • How she internalized emotional abuse and believed she as worthless as her husband told her she was
  • Why she stayed with an abusive partner for 7 years - and how abusers manipulate their victims
  • Her rock bottom moment and how she finally got her kids and herself safely out of her husband’s grip
  • The steps leading up to her terminating her ex-husband’s parental rights
  • How she talks to her kids about their family’s abusive past
  • The impactful new direction her past is giving to her current life
  • Her top recommendation to women currently in abusive relationships

Resources mentioned:

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May 13, 2019

One of the themes I’ve been seeing repeatedly in our community recently is around feeling stuck in roles that feel out of alignment with our core values.  This shows up in our jobs when we see that companies we work for don’t truly stand behind their mission statements.

This happens in our families when we see our siblings, parents or in-laws not acting in high integrity. 

This happens in our friendships when we see the women around us judging and gossiping and putting other women down.

This is hard to watch and even harder to be a part of when we feel we are right in the middle of it all.   It often feels like a massive breach of our own integrity - which feels confusing and really conflicting. 

I want to challenge you to step back from these situations for a moment to get a better view of what’s going on and consider the ways you can RISE UP when you’re in the middle of situations which feel our of integrity and out of alignment with your personal and professional core values. 

Here are 7 ways to start to RISE UP in work and life:

  1. Position yourself as a leader
  2. Unapologetically own your strengths, gifts, and ZOG
  3. Unapologetically own what you suck at
  4. Know what you stand for
  5. Know what you don’t stand for
  6. Know the difference between tattling and documenting/reporting
  7. Be humble and gracious, while still standing in your power (rather than shrinking in gratitude)

Listen in to this full episode to hear the deep dive on these 7 techniques. 

Links Mentioned:

Get on the WaitList for Shameless Mom Con 2020

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May 8, 2019

In this episode, I had the honor of talking to two powerful leaders who love to talk politics - even though they are on opposite sides of many issues.  If you struggle to have compassionate conversations around politics with friends & family who have differing beliefs and belief systems, this conversation will be really eye-opening and helpful. 

Sarah Stewart Holland (from the left) has always loved politics, although her political opinions

have changed d

rastically over the years. She worked in politics and on Capitol Hill before

moving back to her hometown of Paducah, KY, where she served on the Paducah

City Commission. She is happily married and the mother of three sons. Sarah likes her bourbon

on ice, her romantic dramas with a British accent and her iPhone fully charged.

Beth Silvers (from the right) owns and operates Checking In with Beth Silvers, a life and

business coaching practice. She has been recognized as one of Ohio’s Most Powerful and

Influential Women by the Ohio Diversity Council, a Human Resources GameChanger by

Workforce Magazine, and one of Cincinnati’s Forty Under 40 business leaders. Beth lives in

Union with her husband, Chad; daughters Jane (8) and Ellen (3), and miniature schnauzer, Lucy. She loves people, politics, poetry, and watermelon.

Listen in to hear Beth and Sarah share:

  • The typically strongest values on the right vs the left
  • How your family of origin impacts your politics
  • The power of observing vs judging
  • The value of getting curious instead of confrontational
  • The power of acknowledging and addressing shared concerns and shared values
  • Why people of privilege need to have the uncomfortable conversations
  • How to navigate difficult conversations with grace
  • Why it’s important for moms to be politically engaged

Links mentioned:

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May 6, 2019

Shameless Mom Con was last weekend and the power, momentum, and magic that came out of 3 days of Shameless Mom togetherness is enough to light my life - like forever. 

I had no idea how overwhelmingly powerful this event would be until it started.  And from the moment it started - when 30 MOMENTUM Mamas descended on my hotel suite, shortly followed by another 20+ Shameless Moms - it was very clear that this was going to be a life-changing few days.  Within our first 10 minutes together I felt like we were all long lost friends - and maybe we were???  Maybe we had all been looking for each other for a very long time. 

I know many of you could not attend the event, so I wanted to bring some of Shameless Mom Con to you.  In this episode, I’m going to share some highlights from the event, as well as share 6 major Shameless Mom Con takeaways with you.  These 6 takeaways have the potential to shift your life in big ways.  Take notes!

Links mentioned:

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May 1, 2019

Susie Pettit has been helping women live lives they love for over 10 years. She is the host of the podcast Love Your Life Show and owner of the Wellness Company Strength: Mind & Body, LLC. She is a certified Life + Wellness Coach and a mom of 3 teenage sons.

Susie is passionate about helping women live lives that feel as good on the inside as they look on the outside. She spent more than half her life living a life she did not love; as a people pleaser, codependent perfectionist, trying desperately to win an award for ‘Martyr of the Year’.

Luckily she hit rock bottom and now has the breadth of experience to teach first hand about setting healthy boundaries, beating your inner critic, conscious parenting, and how to use mindfulness-based tools to beat overwhelm and anxiety. She uses two foundational frameworks: Her 5 Pillars of Wellness and the Thought Model.

Listen in to hear Susie share:

  • Being raised by my controlling and manipulative parents and building a life based on their standards, not her own identity
  • How she stopped looking for external validation
  • All her worst fears came true, she hit rock bottom, and she rose from the ashes
  • How people pleasers are actually people deceivers
  • The thought-model around the think-feel-act loop that gives you control in the most challenging moments in your life and how to use the “power pause”
  • Why having no contact with her parents and siblings is the most loving relationship she can have with them
  • How to increase your emotional intelligence and emotional literacy
  • How to get out of your own way during challenging communication with others
  • When you should treat your parents like toddlers - yes, really...

Links Mentioned:

Thank you to our sponsors:

  • Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to Fabfitfun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout.
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Apr 29, 2019

I talk a *lot* about perfectionism and how it shows up for me.  The more I talk about it the more I hear you all saying, “ME TOO!!!” 

If you tend to be a perfectionist and or high achiever and/or Type A kinda gal, this episode will speak to you.  It might even scream at you…

There are three BIG mistakes that I see perfectionist/high achiever/Type A women make over and over.  These are mistakes that we make even when we think we’ve overcome our perfectionism.  I mean, let’s be honest, we’re all works in progress and old habits DIE HARD. 

Here are the 3 BIG mistakes I see a lot of us (yep, including me) make over and over:

  1. We’re constantly waiting for the “right time” to take action in our life
  2. We listen to fear instead of embracing resistance
  3. We don’t give ourselves space & grace we truly need to evolve

If any of this speaks to you - this episode is a must listen.  Make sure to let me know how this conversation landed for you.  I always love hearing from you!

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Apr 24, 2019

As an entrepreneur, bestselling author, speaker, and Shameless Mom, Kate Northrup has built a multimedia digital empire with her husband, Mike Watts, that reaches hundreds of thousands globally. They are committed to supporting ambitious women to light up the world without burning themselves out in the process. Kate teaches data-driven and soul-driven time and energy management practices that result in saving time, making more money, and experiencing less stress.

Kate recently birthed her second book into the world, Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Busy Moms I’m telling you, you need this book in your life. 

Kate’s name has been on my 2019 Dream Guest List - and as luck would have it, her team reached out to me before we got around to reaching out to her.  When I told her about this, she said, “Oh yeah!  That’s called egg wisdom.”  To which I replied, “Huh?!?”  She told me all about egg wisdom later in the interview and it was simply fascinating. 

Kate is going to open your mind up in a few new directions today and I can’t wait to hear how this resonates with you.  Definitely let me know!

Listen in to hear Kate share:

  • Why it pays to pay more attention to your period and how to tap into the ways it gives you renewed energy and productivity
  • How to tap into your “egg wisdom” to attract more of what you want without working harder
  • How mother’s brains are rewired and how to use this to your advantage
  • The power of doing less to accomplish more

Links mentioned:

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Apr 22, 2019

Dear Perfectionist Friend,

I SEE you.

I see you stuck in your mess. 

I see you holding all those dreams, but crippled by analysis paralysis every time you think about taking the next step. 

I see you waiting until just the right time to take the next right step - yet never actually finding just the right time. 

I see you wanting more and feeling nervous, sometimes even terrified, about going after more. 

I see you worrying about what others might think if you flop. 

I see you anxiously stuffing your dreams into deep hiding places because you think you might fail. 

If you want to know how I can see you so clearly, it’s because I AM you. 

I know what it’s like to desire perfection so deeply you cannot make a decision or take any action - because... FEAR. 

I know what it’s like to spend inordinate amounts of mental energy on a decision because you think making the wrong decision could ruin everything.

I know what it’s like to stay stuck in your head full of worry and doubt, while parading through the world with a big cheesy grin that screams, “I’m fine.  I’m even better than fine.  I’m GREAT.  #EVERYDAMNDAY.  SO GREAT!” - but actually, feel not great at all. 

Probably the most valuable lesson I’ve learned in motherhood and entrepreneurship is that perfect sucks.  In fact, perfect is paralyzing.  And imperfect action is ridiculously liberating. 

If you fancy yourself a perfectionistic kinda gal, this episode will open your eyes in all the best ways.  Listen in - maybe more than once.  And take notes on the beautiful, life-changing gifts of imperfect action.

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Apr 17, 2019

Dave Hollis is husband to Rachel Hollis, father to Jackson, Sawyer, Ford and Noah Hollis and the CEO of the Hollis Company after a 17 year run at Disney left his role as President, Theatrical Distribution for The Walt Disney Studios.  Dave looks to take the experiences as global theatrical sales head for Disney, Pixar, Marvel, and Lucas film to the expansion plans in the next, exciting phase of Hollis Company — focusing on media (books/podcasts/radio/tv), live events and merchandise. Dave drives a 1969 Ford Bronco and intermittently likes the family dog, Jeffrey.

I invited Dave to come on the show to talk about what it’s like to have a massive shift in identity as he flipped his profession upside down to leave a successful career in order to support his wife’s career.  I also wanted to learn more about his journey into personal development, as so many of you have asked me how we can get our partners more involved and invested in areas of growth and evolution. I so appreciate Dave showing up to this conversation so OPEN & READY. 

Listen in to hear Dave share:

  • The challenges that present themselves in the face of massive success
  • The power and gift of discipline when life is moving at 100 MPH
  • How his identity has evolved as he walked away from his successful career to support Rachel’s career and dreams
  • His fears and vulnerability around building a new identity
  • How women can get their partners involved and invested in personal development (without nagging & preaching!)
  • Why he stopped using alcohol as a coping skill
  • What his “ally” tattoo means to him as a straight white man who is fully aware of his white privilege
  • A sneak peek into his upcoming book!

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Apr 15, 2019

This is going to sound pretty controversial, but I’m saying it anyway.  Because of #truth...

Mom guilt is a lie.

That’s not to say your feelings of guilt aren’t real.  THEY ARE.

But, as you sit in those feelings, please know this:

Mom guilt is a social construct in which women are indoctrinated to think they should feel bad for ever prioritizing themselves, their identity, their careers, or their happiness over their kids.

You know how I know this is true??  Because I know the following:

Men are not asked, “How do you do it all?  How do you juggle your career with your family?

Men are not asked, “Don’t you feel bad when you have to travel for work and you don’t get to see your kids for 3 days?”

Men don’t have to internalize messages like, “I don’t know how you work so much.  I would feel so bad not being at my kid’s games/practices/plays/recitals.”

When men consider taking up new hobbies/activities they don’t automatically think, “That would be awesome, but I would feel so bad taking that time away from my family.”

Women are indoctrinated to feel like shitty moms if they prioritize their careers, their self-care, their sanity over their families needs. 

Men are encouraged to prioritize their careers and hobbies over their families needs - “Climb that corporate ladder!”  “You gotta start golfing with us, man!”  “Meet us every Saturday for pick up basketball!”

I share this all because I want you to take a hard look at your relationship with mom guilt.  Guilt of any kind is not productive.  It keeps us stuck.  It holds us back.  It does not serve any positive purpose.  So, it you’re spending time stuck in mom guilt, you’re wasting time and energy that could be used for so many other positive things in your life. 

Let’s flip this social construct on its head so we can all be more intentional about how we use our energy, our gifts, and our rights to rest (yes, you get to rest more when you stop feeling so damn guilty!)

Listen in to this episode to go on a deep dive into how you’ve been indoctrinated - and how to GET OUT. 

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Apr 10, 2019

Dr. Debi Silber, is a Shameless Mom to 4 kids ages 16-23 years old, as well as the founder of The PBT Institute, is a Transformational Psychologist and health, mindset, and personal development, expert. She's an award-winning speaker, coach and author of the Amazon #1 Bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind, and Life After a Life Crisis. Debi has contributed to FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz show, TEDx, The Huffington Post, Forbes, Psychology Today, WebMD, amongst others. Her doctoral study led to two discoveries around how women experience and heal from betrayal. Based on her findings, along with 27 years of health, mindset and lifestyle coaching, she's created a proven approach to help women heal (physically, mentally and emotionally) from a life crisis, specializing in betrayal.

In addition to Debi’s education and professional experience in the field of betrayal and forgiveness - she has lived it all, multiple times.  Her passion comes from her journey, from finding herself in places she didn’t plan, mending and rebuilding relationships that nearly broke her.

Listen in to hear Debi share:

  • Why it’s only the people who are closest to us can actually betray us
  • Why you must unpack all the components of a betrayal
  • The three things that do NOT work when trying to heal from betrayal
  • The 5 Stages from betrayal to post-betrayal breakthrough
  • The necessary path of a betrayer: apology/remorse/restitution
  • How to heal your shame after betrayal
  • The layers & stages of forgiveness and building trust

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Apr 8, 2019

I think we can all agree that marriage is hard.  It is also awesome.  But it does not come without intentional work.  It’s easy to glorify other people's' marriages and assume they “have it all” when that is never actually the case.

I recently read Michelle Obama’s book, Becoming.  Then I went as saw her speak here in Seattle.  In both instances, I was touched by the way she talks about marriage and essentially the “secrets” of her marriage.

She is married to a dreamer, while she is admittedly much more pragmatic.  She is married to someone who wants to serve all the people, while she wants to prioritize serving her family and those closest to her.  She is married to someone who can’t manage his time to save his life, while she loves structure and schedules and routine (and being on time for it all)!

In reading Michelle’s book and hearing her talk, I was able to curate four secrets to a successful marriage that I think will help all the rest of us:

  1. Set clear boundaries and expectations
  2. Assume your partners have the best intentions
  3. Assume your partner can actually do the things they say they can
  4. Shamelessly build, own, and grow your own identity

Listen in for a deep dive on these concepts around marriage (and to learn how to see your partners' most annoying characteristics as gifts)!

AND make sure to stick around for the end when we talk about asking for support rather than permission.  This is a game changer in how you can maintain your identity as well as a high level of respect and equity in your marriage.

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Apr 3, 2019

Kara Loewentheil is a Master Certified Coach and Host of the UnF*ck Your Brain Podcast. Three years ago she did what every Jewish parent dreams of for their child: She left her legal career running a think tank to become a life coach. Now she teaches feminist women how to undo the effects of patriarchy in their brains and create true authentic confidence from inside. She has grown her coaching business from zero to seven figures in the last 3 years and is passionate about teaching women how to overcome anxiety and self-doubt so they can take on the world.

I have recommended Kara’s podcast more than any other in the last 6 months and so many people have come back to tell me it has transformed their mental game.  So, I knew I needed to get Kara on the show.  Whether you’re wanting to change the way you feel about your body or become a master thought manager in order to change the outcomes in your life, Kara’s brilliance will transform your thought patterns and shift your behavior in powerful ways. 

Listen in to hear Kara share:

  • What thought work is and the power you have to choose your thoughts
  • The practice of shifting into neutral thoughts, rather than forcing ourselves into positive thoughts
  • Why you should embrace that all humans suffer
  • Why thought work is more valuable and beneficial than any diet
  • How thought work can shift your relationship with your body

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Apr 1, 2019

A few of you have asked me to do an episode specifically on the struggles of being a stay at home mom (SAHM).  I’m excited to talk about this, cause I’ll be honest… My life’s dream was to be a stay at home mom and 4 months of that “dream” damn near killed me.  I cried uncle and quit that gig (and hired a nanny) when Vinnie was still tiny.  So, I have the UTMOST respect for those of you who stay home with your babies (of any age - even school age)!

I posted on Facebook a couple weeks ago and asked for SAHMs to share their biggest struggles and I found the responses FASCINATING.  First of all, it was really interesting to get a sneak peek into your lives. 

But the most fascinating part??? 

A lot of your struggles are so similar to working moms’ struggles.  And here we all are thinking that working moms and stay at home moms have so little in common and can’t possibly “get” the other sides perspective.  Not so.

Regardless if you’re a SAHM or working mom or work from home mom, I think you’ll learn something from this episode. 

Big thanks to everyone who has reached out to me about this topic and contributed your stories and struggles.  So much love for you. 

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Mar 27, 2019

Tiffany Bluhm wants every woman to recognize, embrace, and pursue the big dreams and beauty born inside of them. The author, blogger, speaker, teacher, podcast host, wife, and mother shares her personal stories of self-value and self-doubt, international adoption, entrepreneurship, marriage, heartbreak, motherhood, and more with an ever-growing audience now numbering in the hundreds of thousands. In addition to reaching readers via her own blog, Tiffany shares her disarmingly perceptive, honest, and frequently funny writing on other popular outlets including ScaryMommy.com, Deeply Rooted Magazine, and more. As co-host of the Why Tho podcast and an in-demand speaker, Tiffany also leads key conversations about modern faith, contemporary women, culture, and so much more. She has penned two books: the acclaimed Bible study Never Alone, released in February 2018, and her newly released book, SHE DREAMS: LIVE THE LIFE YOU WERE CREATED FOR, Tiffany lives in Tacoma, Washington, with her husband and is a Shameless Mom to her 4 and 8-year-old sons.

Listen in to hear Tiffany share:

  • Her story of being born in an orphanage in Dehli India and adopted by a white family at age 2
  • Her experience of being unlike everyone around her from the time she was born because of her birth story and her skin color
  • How rejection at age 21 reopened her birth rejection trauma
  • The suicide rate and mental health struggles are 8 times greater in adoptees
  • Why her decision to adopt internationally had nothing to do with her experience of being adopted
  • How she has faced discrimination as an East Indian woman, especially since 9/11
  • How she is talking to her kids about systemic racism and walking her black son through his own awareness of discrimination at a young age

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Mar 25, 2019

Heaviness can show up in our lives in a lot of ways.  Sometimes it’s a trauma like a cancer diagnosis or the death of a parent.  Sometimes it’s a transition like a new job or a new baby or moving to a new city.  Sometimes it’s a stressful phase - lots of expectations at work, a partner who is traveling a lot.  Sometimes it’s general overwhelm - so. many. things. to keep up with #everydamnday

In these times of heaviness, sometimes we are tempted to tell ourselves to “Stay Strong!” and “Power Through!”  But the reality, sometimes you actually TRULY need a break - a respite.  And after that break, you will actually be more STRONG and POWERFUL.  

It is really important to make a concerted effort to lighten our load and lighten up sometimes (probably more often than you think).  When we give ourselves the space & grace to do so, we come back to focus, we have renewed our mental and emotional reserves.  This rejuvenation is almost always palpable.  These breaks for levity and lightness are so valuable. 

Listen in to hear a deep dive on these 10 ways to lighten your load and lighten up:

  1. Dedicate time for play - whatever that means for you
  2. Find your zen
  3. Listen to funny podcasts
  4. Watch a comedy special or funny Netflix series
  5. Engage in menial tasks
  6. Find an inspiring place to complete hard tasks
  7. Go shopping
  8. Make hard things fun
  9. Read a funny book
  10. Give yourself rewards

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