The Shameless Mom Academy

Sara Dean launched the Shameless Mom Academy to help moms lead more positive, powerful and purposeful lives #everydamnday. Sara is an award winning fitness professional, author, speaker, and transformation coach who spent the last 16+ years serving moms in the fields of psychology, sociology, health & wellness. But, it took becoming a mom herself in 2012 to learn that - holy cow - this is hard work, and if you’re not paying attention you can completely lose your own sense of identity while raising babies. Join Sara every Monday and Wednesday as she and her notable guests (such as Gretchen Rubin, Carrie Wilkerson, JJ Virgin, Susan Hyatt, Cathy Heller, Nichole Nordeman, Melanie Shankle, and Jadah Sellner) dig deep into topics like creating the confidence you crave; turn your struggles into strengths, building better boundaries, and tuning into tiny habits that can change your life. Discover how why thousands of moms all over the world are turning to The Shameless Mom Academy to live bigger, bolder, braver lives #everydamnday.
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Apr 26, 2017

Melissa Fox Lehman (layman) is the CEO and co-founder of Pogo Rides. For the last 15 years, she’s been helping Fortune 50 companies and nonprofits develop strategy and roll-out global programs. She loves developing actionable strategy and seeing those strategies brought to life. When she became a mom she knew she wanted to focus her energies on building something to make life easier for busy parents. This was the genesis for Pogo.


Melissa and her team are committed to helping families find safe and flexible transportation for their school-age children. As a mother of two, she understands the logistical challenges faced by busy parents of busy kids and believes in the power of communities to help each other live fuller and less stressful lives. Safety, community, and ease are the core tenants of Pogo Rides.


I wanted to have Melissa on the show to talk about how her view of work changed after she had kids.  She very consciously chose to shift directions and build a business that could support other families.  Her professional mission has evolved right along side her path in motherhood, as I think often happens.  


Listen in to hear Melissa share:

  • The power of sharing in your community  
  • Why it’s ok to outsource duties
  • Why asking for support helps you and your community
  • How we can create a lot more win/win opportunities among our neighbors
  • How to revolutionize your carpool network


Links Mentioned:


Melissa’s Email:

Sponsor: (use code SMA30 for free 30 day trial)


Apr 24, 2017

Ok, I’ll admit it… I was hard on myself last week.  HARD.  


I have a lot going on and I let it get to my head.  Sometimes when we have too many things going on we feel we’re not doing any one thing really well.  That was me.  Just feeling all sorts of mediocre… AND super frazzled.


I had a pity party.  I even invited a few people to join me.  Luckily, they were kind and helped me get out of my head.  I also practiced KINDNESS toward myself.  


Being kind to yourself is important.  No, it is crucial.  Especially when things are chaotic, frantic, overwhelming…


Here are 5 ways to be more kind to yourself when the going gets tough:


  1. Practice personal development, even if just for a few minutes
  2. Create ME time – especially when you don’t think you have it
  3. Catch yourself as you’re falling
  4. Move – sweat, if possible
  5. Ask for help


Links Mentioned:

Book: Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes

Book: Love Warrior by Glennon Doyle Melton

Book: The Desire Map By Danielle LaPorte

Book: The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson

Book: Daring Greatly by Brene Brown

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Apr 18, 2017

Amy Lang is a childhood sexuality expert and parent educator who helps parents talk to their kids about sex and sexuality.  Her engaging, humorous and inspiring style shows parents how to turn conversations they dread into something they look forward to and embrace whole-heartedly. Though her business, Birds + Bees + Kids® Amy helps parents of all beliefs have easy, open and effective conversations about sex with their kids. She is the author of Birds + Bees + YOUR Kids - A Guide To Sharing Your Beliefs About Sexuality, Love and Relationships and Dating Smarts – What Every Teen Needs To Know To Date, Relate Or Wait. Amy has been featured in the Wall Street Journal, Huffington Post Live and Learn more about her work at 


I have been dying to get Amy on the show for awhile now because I knew there might be things I was already behind on in talking to my 4 year old about sexuality.  In this interview, Amy helped me get my ducks in a row and she’ll help you too!  


Listen in to hear Amy share:

  1. How her discomfort in talking to her own 4 year old about sexuality catapulted her into a career as a childhood sex expert
  2. At what age you should be talking to your kids about sex and sexuality (hint: NOW)
  3. Why talking to your kids about sex includes talking to them about masturbation (especially girls)
  4. How you can become more comfortable and less awkward as you venture into territory that might be uncomfortable for you
  5. The reality of why were seeing more sexualized behavior and mature dress in younger children and how you can protect your child
  6. The 3 ways you can protect your kids from sexual abuse
  7. Where Radical Responsibility comes into play with parenting and how to find your boundaries between being the parent and being accepted by other parents


Links Mentioned:

Amy’s Website:

Birds+Bees+Kids on Facebook

Book: It’s Not the Stork

App: (use code SMA30 for free 30 day trial!)


Apr 17, 2017

The truth about failure:


Failure does not have to suck.  In fact, it is 100% possible to WIN while failing.  As with most things, it’s all a matter of perspective.  


I firmly believe you should fail often and fail fast.  That is how you open more doors to see all the possibilities that lie ahead.  


Listen in to learn:

  • Why failure can make goals seem less attainable
  • Why failure makes creates FEAR (False Evidence Appearing Real)
  • How failure can lead to self sabotage


Then learn my top tips in failing:

  • Fail often
  • Expect hiccups
  • Be ready to pivot
  • ID #tinywins
  • Silver linings
  • Model failure to your kids


Failure is not a loss.  It’s an opportunity.  


Links Mentioned:

Psychology Today Article: 10 Surprising Facts about Failure

Shameless Mom MOMENTUM Mastermind:


Apr 12, 2017

Shasta Nelson, M.Div., is the Founder of, a women’s friendship learning community. Her spirited and soulful voice for strong female relationships can be found in her books Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness and Friendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsShe also writes at and in the Huffington Post, speaks across the country, and is a friendship expert in the media appearing on such shows as Katie Couric and the Today Show. 


Shasta is a 10 year Friendship Expert.  She knows all the research on friendships – and on loneliness, which is plaguing us even though we are more virtually connected than ever before.  Shasta is joining us in The Shameless Mom Academy to share the keys to building friendships and sustaining friendships, which can be a challenge in motherhood.  Yes, your time is limited, but the truth is you friendships have never been more crucial. 


Listen in to hear Shasta share:


  • The 3 S’s of a satisfying friendship
  • Why it is essential that we feel loved, known, and supported
  • The epidemic of loneliness that doctors are saying is the biggest health epidemic of our time
  • How our relationship with our spouse is different that our relationships with girlfriends – and why you need BOTH
  • The power of modeling friendship to your children and how to make sure boys are especially aware of the power and necessity of friendship
  • The 3 requirements that must be present for a healthy friendship


Links Mentioned:

Join Shasta: 

Resource: Frientimacy Quiz

Book: Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness 

Book: Friendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends


Apr 10, 2017

The TRUTH about fitness is that our society perpetuates a ton of myths that make exercise very confusing.  That confusion leads to us wasting our time at the gym or not exercising at all because we don’t understand the truth of how easy and simple exercise can be.  


Listen in to hear:

  • Three fitness LIES that are damaging your results
  • A BONUS tip that impacts weight loss
  • The dangers in using exercise as punishment
  • How long you need to exercise to make it effective
  • The difference between exercising for health benefits and exercising for weight loss
  • The significance of food intake compared to exercise when it comes to using exercise for weight loss


Links Mentioned:

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Apr 5, 2017

Jill Simonian is the author of The FAB Mom’s Guide: How to Get Over the Bump & Bounce Back Fast After Baby.   


The FAB Mom’s Guide celebrates motherhood while poignantly and candidly exploring the 

spectrum of emotions and real-life challenges women face from pregnancy through the first year of baby’s life - beginning with Jill's unexpected first pregnancy within her first year of marriage just as her career was taking off (which originally involved plenty of tears and swear words), to giving birth to two daughters in two years.  Jill offers easy tools, tricks and humor she and other women actually used to help new moms successfully bounce back mentally and physically within a matter of months, ultimately finding the right balance between home, career and family. 


Jill is also known for her work as a TV Host & Entertainment Journalist turned Parenting Lifestyle Expert & Contributor.  She is currently on CBS Los Angeles twice a week.  She has also worked with the TODAY Show, HLN, and the Hallmark Channel.  


Listen in to hear Jill share: 

  • How she found her self unexpectedly pregnant (twice) 
  • How she tried to hide her first pregnancy (and failed) 
  • Here stance on nursing – and her no guilt approach to formula 
  • Why she believes life only gets better after motherhood 
  • Why you should stop negotiating everything with your kids 
  • How tiny professional steps, taken while being a stay at home mom, built a foundation for her current career 


Links Mentioned: 


Book: The Pie Life by Samantha Ettus 




Apr 3, 2017

I am not a great decision maker.  I can admit to being 100% paralyzed by the decision of what kind of bibs to buy for Vinnie on Amazon a few years ago.  BIBS, people.

However, I don’t identify myself as being indecisive, because that label would be crippling for me.  That would make me more indecisive.  Labels matter.  They impact our decisions.  

So, I do my best to identify as someone who makes decisions quickly and makes decisions that serve me well.  I also set limits around my decision making, so I don’t get analysis paralysis. 

Being indecisive is disempowering.  If keeps you stuck. It gives you permission to stay in your safe little cocoon of all things known & comfortable.  Growth and change do not happen among the indecisive.  

Indecision invites in fear and doubt.  When you are stuck in indecision you think of all the bad things that could go wrong with Decision A vs Decision B vs Decision C.  If you just make a damn decision, you would learn that you are capable OWNING Decision A OR Decision B OR Decision C.  In reality, it might not even matter which one you choose as long as you own the one you choose and make it serve you.  

If you struggle with decisions or analysis paralysis or feeling stuck, this episode is for you.  Be a badass decision maker.  Today.  And everyday moving forward.  

Just make a damn decision.