The Shameless Mom Academy

Sara Dean launched the Shameless Mom Academy to help moms lead more positive, powerful and purposeful lives #everydamnday. Sara is an award winning fitness professional, author, speaker, and transformation coach who spent the last 16+ years serving moms in the fields of psychology, sociology, health & wellness. But, it took becoming a mom herself in 2012 to learn that - holy cow - this is hard work, and if you’re not paying attention you can completely lose your own sense of identity while raising babies. Join Sara every Monday and Wednesday as she and her notable guests (such as Gretchen Rubin, Carrie Wilkerson, JJ Virgin, Susan Hyatt, Cathy Heller, Nichole Nordeman, Melanie Shankle, and Jadah Sellner) dig deep into topics like creating the confidence you crave; turn your struggles into strengths, building better boundaries, and tuning into tiny habits that can change your life. Discover how why thousands of moms all over the world are turning to The Shameless Mom Academy to live bigger, bolder, braver lives #everydamnday.
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Dec 28, 2016

Elizabeth DiAlto is known for her raw, honest and grounded approach to self-help and spirituality, She is the founder of the Wild Soul Movement, author of Untame Yourself, and host of the popular Untame The Wild Soul podcast. She’s been a teacher, leader, speaker, coach and trainer to groups and individuals for 13+ years and she also consults organizations ranging from start ups to large corporations such as Dove UK.


Elizabeth and I met through our work in the fitness industry.  However, she left the fitness industry a few years ago to untame her wild soul and, ultimately, an entire new life for herself.  I was so excited to reconnect with her and hear how she made the transition between career paths, and interpersonal relationships, and how she started living a life that was much more authentically hers. 


Listen in to hear Elizabeth share: 

  • Why it’s important to work IN, rather than work OUT
  • What YES feels like in your body, what NO feels like in your body – and how to start uncovering the truth that lies in your gut
  • The difference between the masculine arts & feminine arts and where you fit
  • Why it’s ok to change your mind and be inconsistent
  • How everything you’ve ever needed has always been inside of you


Links Mentioned:

Book: Awakening Shakti

Book/Cards: Ask your Guides 

Book: Outrageous Openness

Free Resources:

Podcast: Untame the Wild Soul 


Dec 26, 2016

You can look back on 2016 as the BEST year or the WORST year.  If you choose to look back on it as the BEST year, you get to own every amazing experience you had – the moments when you pushed your limits, reached a new high, felt magic, saw beauty, learned something new, had a shift in perspective, totally rocked a challenge, modeled strength to your kid(s), and felt power in your core being.  


If you choose to look at 2016 as the WORST year (as I see a lot of people doing on social media), you negate and dismiss everything above.  You walk away from an entire year of your life in defeat, without power.  


I get it – 2016 threw us for a loop.  A big effing loop.  I’m right there with you.  My year did not go as planned.  I’m not pregnant right now.  Our next president will not embody a single value of mine.  I see pain and suffering at every turn, nationally and internationally.  


BUT – I did a lot of great things this year.  So did you.  I grew this year.  So did you.  I found silver linings that I never even thought to look for.  You can too.  I am better for 2016.  So are you. 


Let’s celebrate everything 2016 was to us.  Let’s have a freakin' party.  Let’s own the heck out of our wins.  I deserve that.  You deserve that.  


Cheers to a BIG year of challenges and growth and newfound strength & pride.  Let’s carry all of this forward into 2017, shall we?  We ROCK.  Every damn day.  Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. 


Tune in to hear my biggest wins of the year, in spite of some of the biggest losses of my life.  


Dec 21, 2016

Elise is a high conflict divorce attorney who also has her own divorce story.  Elise’s divorce involved Hurricane Katrina, multiple moves around the country, and, ultimately, a co-parenting plan where she lives with her kids and new husband in Seattle and her ex-husband comes out to visit and live with them one week each month.  


After working through her own divorce, Elise decided to dedicate her law practice to helping other families thrive through divorce.  Listen in to hear Elise share:


  • The biggest mistakes most lawyers make in representing people in divorce
  • The power and advantages to mediation
  • How to stay out of court, save a ton of money, and get what is truly best for your children
  • What true co-parenting looks like
  • The truth - you can be a horrible spouse and a great parent


Links Mentioned:


Book: The Co Parent Handbook, by Karen Bonnell

Book: Sisters in law: How Sandra Day O’Connor and Ruth Bader Ginsburg Went to the Supreme Court and Changed the World

Blog: (Lagniappe)



Dec 19, 2016

I recently had 2 People Pleaser relapses.  One was just for a day.  One was for a couple months.  Why is it so hard to stop pleasing all. the. people???


I know that as an Upholder (see article below), being a people pleaser may well be something I always struggle with.  But, even if it’s a life long challenge, I will kick off 2017 recognizing where I fell short in 2016.  I will recognize what I lost by prioritizing other peoples’ needs before my own.  


In 2017 I will:

  • Say NO more
  • Say YES less
  • Stand up for myself
  • Tune in to my body and really listen
  • Push myself to keep firm boundaries around my time, money, space, goals
  • Start following my intuition in terms of where I really want to go in life over the next few years


What will you do to really listen to yourself and your needs as you prepare to enter a new year?


Links Mentioned:

Article: The Four Tendencies – What Kind of Person Are You?, by Gretchen Rubin

Dec 14, 2016

Nikki Closser is a Seattle and Michigan based photographer and a new mom.  She is madly in love with her work and with her baby.  Nikki always knew she would be a working mom. She knew her passion for her work would not diminish in motherhood.  However, she didn’t expect her passion for motherhood to be so strong.  She admits that while she loves her work, motherhood is magical, and she doesn’t know why she put it off for so long.


Nikki’s work photographing women is phenomenal.  I had the immense pleasure of doing a shoot with her about a year ago and felt an immediate connection to her and everything she stands for in womanhood, entrepreneurship and motherhood (even though she was only a few months pregnant when we met).  She also might love wine as much as me – so we’re basically soul mates. 


The way Nikki reaches women through photography is breathtaking.  Every woman she works with is made to feel like a true supermodel.  Nikki is kind and gentle, but assertive and confident in her work, putting women at ease the moment they enter her studio.  Doing a shoot with her is an amazing life experience I would recommend to any woman. 


Listen in to hear Nikki share:


  • Here first Mama Bear moment – just seconds after her son was born
  • How she and her husband envisioned and created a travel lifestyle with Van
  • How she dives deep into work and into motherhood – but doesn’t let the two converge    
  • What she sees through her lens as she photographs a woman
  • Why she thinks every woman deserves a lavish photoshoot and gorgeous photos of themselves


Links Mentioned:

Nikki Closser:

Sue Bryce:

Nikki on Facebook

Nikki on Instagram

Book: Monique in the Mango Rains

SMA Ep 54: Rebecca Michi Children’s Sleep Consultant


Dec 12, 2016

It is human nature to keep doing the things we’ve done most recently and most frequently. 

  • Showering daily
  • Drinking coffee
  • Getting in a workout
  • Indulging in sugar
  • Drinking that big ass glass of wine


As you build new habits, the same holds true.  If you starting getting up early to workout, once you’ve done it a few times (made it recent & frequent), you’re much more likely to keep doing it.  


When you are conscious of the concept of recency & frequency, you can really prove your power in establishing new habits.  This can be extremely liberating and assist you in building momentum and confidence with new habits and routines.   


To improve the recency & frequency of desired behaviors, habits and routines, you can (and should):


  • Plan behaviors
  • Track behaviors as you do them
  • Track wins
  • Plan rewards
  • Self Monitor
  • Always practice discomfort


Listen in to hear how to implement all this and use it in the final weeks of 2016 and as you cruise into 2017. 


Dec 7, 2016

3 years ago Debbie and her family moved from Seattle to the Netherlands.  At that time, Debbie and her husband made the decision to homeschool their son Asher, who is “differently wired”.  Asher is profoundly gifted and has ADHD and Aspergers.  He is extremely intelligent, curious and compassionate – in short, an amazing kid. 


When Debbie decided to homeschool Asher, she stepped aside from her traditional author role and began a authoring a new story – the story of the life she and Asher were building as they navigated through the huge transitions of an international move and A LOT of togetherness in their homeschooling adventure. 


Through this journey Debbie and Asher created TiLT – an incredible online resource for families with differently wired kids.  


Listen in to hear Debbie share:

  • The advantages and challenges of homeschooling a differently wired child (in a new country)
  • The power of personal development for kids – and how to get them started
  • How to lean in to your child’s uniqueness rather than fight it or try to fix it
  • Steps to creating an impenetrable bond with your child who is differently wired than you



Links Mentioned:

SMA Ep 59: How to Create Your Own Miracle Morning 

Carol Dweck’s TED Talk: “The Power of Believing That You Can Improve”

TiLT Parenting:

TiLT Parenting on Facebook:

Debbie’s Author Site:


Dec 5, 2016

The holidays can be fun.  So fun.  


Friends. Family. Food. Drinks. 


Giving and receiving.  


Joy and magic.


The holidays can also be stressful, isolating, depleting and sad.


Loss, regret, and defeat can feel amplified at this time of year. 


Whether you are filled with holiday cheer or trudging through the days with holiday blues, here are 6 ways your can have happier holidays:

  1. Give
  2. Have a budget
  3. Be ok with ok 
  4. Rewrite history 
  5. Create moments that can become traditions
  6. Know thy family
  7. Plan your partying


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