The Shameless Mom Academy

Sara Dean launched the Shameless Mom Academy to help moms lead more positive, powerful and purposeful lives #everydamnday. Sara is an award winning fitness professional, author, speaker, and transformation coach who spent the last 16+ years serving moms in the fields of psychology, sociology, health & wellness. But, it took becoming a mom herself in 2012 to learn that - holy cow - this is hard work, and if you’re not paying attention you can completely lose your own sense of identity while raising babies. Join Sara every Monday and Wednesday as she and her notable guests (such as Gretchen Rubin, Carrie Wilkerson, JJ Virgin, Susan Hyatt, Cathy Heller, Nichole Nordeman, Melanie Shankle, and Jadah Sellner) dig deep into topics like creating the confidence you crave; turn your struggles into strengths, building better boundaries, and tuning into tiny habits that can change your life. Discover how why thousands of moms all over the world are turning to The Shameless Mom Academy to live bigger, bolder, braver lives #everydamnday.
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Nov 30, 2016

Michelle Duncan-Wilson became a mom for the first time at 17 years old.  She now has a 17 year old daughter and two sons, ages 8 and 3.  


Michelle will tell you she was “not meant to be a mother”.  While she is now thriving it took her years to arrive.  She had to find her mothering soul and give it some room to grow.  


In this episode Michelle shares:


  • What life was like as a teen mom
  • How she crammed 40 years of life experience into her first 25 years of life
  • What she wants her 17 year old daughter to know about being a 17 year old mom
  • How motherhood has been different, but not easier, in her thirties
  • Why we are not meant to mold our children, but to accept them in any shape they are
  • Why mothering pain is not for nothing
  • How she is currently thriving in “evolution through motherhood”



Links Mentioned:

Michelle’s Website:

Facebook Group:

Instagram: @soulworkformoms

Book: Carry On, Warrior by Glennon Doyle Menton

Book: Love Warrior by Glennon Doyle Melton

Book: Tears to Triumph by Marianne Willamson

Book: Shift into Freedom by Loch Kelly


Nov 28, 2016

It is so easy to get stuck in our old stories:


  • I can’t find a husband because of my daddy issues.
  • I will never be fit because of my family genetics.
  • I will never make very much money because no one in my family makes very much money. 
  • I’ll never go to college because we can’t afford it and no one in my family has gone to college.
  • I can’t start my own business because I don’t know anything about business.
  • My life will never feel complete with just one child – I’ll always feel a sense of loss over this. 


I have told myself some of these stories.   I have seen others tell themselves some of these stories.  


We get stuck in our stories and don’t progress in certain areas of our lives because we are COMMITTED to our stories.  We can see past them, or around them, or through them.  


But, the truth???


  • You can find the man of your dreams.
  • You can get in amazing shape.
  • You can make unlimited amounts of money.
  • You can go to college – and grad school.
  • You can start your own business.
  • You can be 100% happy and fulfilled with just one child.  


To create a new story, you have to start changing the conversation in your head.  You have to start talking to yourself differently.  You have to be open to new and different influences.  You have to be open to growth and discomfort to find the magic that lies juuuust outside your current comfort zone.  Our old stories are comfortable and familiar – which is why we hold them close to our hearts.  


By getting challenging yourself to get a little uncomfortable in new conversations with yourself, you will push you right through your old stories and into new ones that will change your attitude.  Your new attitude will change your behavior.  You new behavior will change your outcomes.  Your new outcomes will change your reality. 


Start telling yourself new stories. 


Nov 23, 2016

Kathy Fettke didn’t set out to build an empire.  But when her husband’s major health scare threatened to cripple their families financial situation, she did got to work….  She rented out rooms in their family home to pay the mortgage.  She started cold calling people who might sponsor her radio show.  She forged ahead and created a path that lead her family to financial freedom.  Now she educates others how to do the same. 


Listen in to hear Kathy share:

  • how her breakdown lead to a breakthrough
  • how she serves others by offering hope
  • Tips for tapping into your higher self (like Heart Math)
  • The importance of being guided by your values and your vision
  • Whether or not you should buy a house right now
  • The power of small real estate investments 
  • How rentals can make you rich
  • The direction she sees the housing market heading in the next 4 years


Links Mentioned:

Book: Retire Rich with Rentals


Heart Math:


Nov 21, 2016

Today is my birthday!  On one’s birthday, one should wear a unicorn onesie and drink from a jeroboam (4 bottles of wine in one big ass bottle).  #truth


I planned a few ways to kick off my 41st year.  Cause let’s be honest, after you have kids, the only birthday celebrations you’re gonna get are the ones you plan yourself.  I mean, my 4 year old would love to throw me a party – but I think we all know he’s better at throwing a tantrum than a party…  Plus, the magic to planning your own birthday is that you get to do any damn thing you want, right?  Listen in to hear what I planned for myself!


It is also Thanksgiving week.  We’ll talk about my Thanksgiving blueprint here - how to navigate the food and the family drama.  There can be so much of both…


I’m also sharing some listener emails with you.  Getting your messages is magic to me.  I love reading your stories and hearing how the Shameless Mom Academy has impacted you.  Thank you to everyone who has written to me.  I adore you.  And special thanks to Shameless Moms Audra, Patty and Jessica, who let me share their letters today.  


Lastly, in this week of giving thanks, know that I’m so thankful for all you mamas who make up The Shameless Mom Academy.  You are my people.  xoxo


Links Mentioned:

Facebook: The Shameless Mom Academy

Nov 16, 2016

Cierra Seay is an entrepreneur running multiple business and the host of The College Dropout Podcast”.  She believes there are many roads to success and we don’t need to be limited by a traditional path. 


Cierra is also the mother to two little boys, Christian and Caleb.  When Christian was just 1 year old, Cierra unexpectedly lost her mother and grandmother, the two most significant women in her life.  Of course, this shook her to her core.   For about a year and a half after these losses, she told everyone, “I’m fine.”  And then she found herself not fine at all. 


Listen in to hear Cierra share about her loss & grief, how she coped, and how she has come out stronger on the other side of grief.  She also shares what she learned from her mother and grandmother and how she is living these lessons and passing them along to her boys. 


Links Mentioned:

Podcast: The College Dropout Podcast

Book: Greatness Is Upon You

Cierra on Facebook

Cierra on Instagram


Nov 14, 2016

I know there is a lot of sadness, anger, pain and fear pulsing through our country right now.  I wanted to use this episode to give you some thoughts on how to honor your feelings and your grief, while taking steps to continue showing up in all the areas of your life where you are needed right now.  


There is tremendous strength, power, and hope on the other side of grief.  But you have to work through the grief to find it.  


Right now, any chance you have to prove yourself strong and capable is an opportunity.  This might start with a workout, or a letter to a public official, or attending a gathering in support of a cause you wholeheartedly support.  


Action is important, no matter how small.  It will let you find your legs and your voice. 


Action will allow you to heal.  


Action will show your kids you are a fighter. 


Action will slowly unravel the knot in your belly. 


Listen in for some inspiration (and a few laughs) that might help you take a few step forward.


Links Mentioned:

SMA Episode 68 with Kim Ades – on how to have a family meeting


Articles on how to talk to children about Trump and the election:

How Do You Talk To Your Kids About The Election?

How A Gay Mom Explained Donald Trump To Her Sons

What Do We Tell The Children

How You Can Find The Good In A Nasty Election Cycle

4 Key Lessons Your Children Need To Hear The Day After The Election


Nov 9, 2016

This time of year is notorious for overwhelm, yes?!?  The demands on your time only get worse and more pressing as we get closer to the holidays.  Here are some tools for you to put in place if you’re already feeling the overwhelm of the season.  


If you’re not overwhelmed yet, I promise you will be… Take notes!



  1. Get up 15-30 min earlier
  2. Make a List, Check it Twice
  3. Prioritize Crucial Results and High Anxiety Items
  4. Understand Parkinson’s Law 
  5. Turn off all notifications, buzzers, dingers, get friendly with Airplane Mode
  6. Shut down social media (use a social media timer!)
  7. Unschedule low priority commitments
  8. Get creative with delegation – it doesn’t have to be expensive
  9. Learn and remember… 


Links Mentioned:

Book: You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero


Nov 7, 2016

As we move from Halloween toward Thanksgiving, and then Christmas, I already hear women saying:

“I’m going to be good until Thanksgiving.”

“I’m going to reign it in for a couple weeks.”

“No more sugar until Christmas.”


We tend to make a lot of rules for ourselves in relation to food at this time of year.  In many cases we feel frustrated and defeated by a holiday, based on what we ate, which is such a bummer.  You shouldn’t feel less joy about Halloween because you ate some candy.  


In this episode I teach you the philosophies and habits I teach the women at my gym in regards to using food for fuel – rather than punishment.  Fueling tour body with food is ridiculously empowering.  It helps you move away from a deprivation mindset.  It helps STOP using food as punishment.  


Listen in to learn about these 12 tips that will help you reframe your relationship with food and how it food can positively impact you as we enter this season of celebration!


  1. Use propro as a cornerstone for every meal
  2. Understand and utilize the concept of volume eating
  3. Get in 20-30 grams of protein for breakfast
  4. Live between 2-4
  5. Stop at 80%
  6. Know Your SFs
  7. Only eat things you enjoy, but also try new things
  8. Be open to quitting sugar. For now.
  9. Designate drinking days
  10. Crowd out crap carbs
  11. Drink the water
  12. Plan everything



Links Mentioned:

SMA interview with Jill Coleman: How To Eat Every Damn Day



Nov 2, 2016

Creating confidence is something that comes with practice, experience, and well, faking it.  That whole “fake it till you make it” concept – it’s true.  Although, I like to say, “fake it till you become it.”  


Sometimes you have to try on a new and improved version of yourself to see how it fits.  From there, you can tweak, evolve and grow into the person you want to be.  Practicing is critical.  Without practicing being the new, confident, self assured you, you will NOT become the new confident, self assured you.  So, get out there and try her on for size.  


It’s ok to strive to be the person you truly want to be.  It might feel a little awkward at first.  Others might wonder what’s going on.  That’s ok.  Just keep being the you YOU truly want to be.  You will grow in to the role.  Your life and landscape will evolve with you, which is fabulous. 


Know there will be uncomfortable moments.  Anticipate them, prepare for them, own them.  


As you start to behave more confidently, you will actually become more confident.  Then others will see you as more confident, and you will, in turn, continue to carry yourself more confidently. See that beautiful cycle?!


Listen in to learn more about:

  • How to be the boss
  • How to stop blending in
  • How to raise your hand 
  • How to take the stage
  • How to get comfortable being uncomfortable


In order to:

  • Take more leaps in life
  • Upgrade your quality of life
  • Get what you actually want
  • Change your reality and perspective for the better, permanently
  • Show your kids how to be brave, bold, courageous