The end of last week was almost laughable when it came to how many unexpected things were thrown my way – from a sick kid, to a craiglist scam, to a possibly broken foot (damn yoga), my days got thrown upside down over and over.
Historically, I suuuuuck at being spontanteous and managing the unexpected, but when you’re a mom, you’re not left with much choice. You gotta rock the unexpected every damn day.
I love this quote I read Friday morning by Jen Sincero (from her book, You Are A Badass) – I stumbled upon it EXACTLY when I needed to hear it most: ““Life is an illusion created by your perception, and it can be changed the moment you choose to change it.”
So, I’m sitting her recording this episode, icing my foot, and texting with my doctor friend – then running (gimping) upstairs to put on my unicorn costume for Vinnie’s school Halloween party. Cause that’s how Shameless Moms roll – even when we’re broken, we’re ON IT.
Listen in to learn how you can rock the unexpected even when you think you cannot manage one more thing flipping your world upside down.
Debbie Page Whitlock is a business and personal finance expert committed to the financial success of start-ups, solopreneurs and small business owners around the world. An internationally recognized and award winning business coach in Seattle, Debbie wants you to create the prosperity and good fortune you deserve.
Debbie has been a mentor to me for a few years now. Her conversation around women and money is something every woman needs to hear. I am elated to have her join me on the show. Debbie’s expertise will support and guide you, no matter what your current relationship with money is.
Listen in to learn about MONEY and:
Debbie and I also dive deep into money and marriage. Debbie shares her personal story of how money impacted her marriage and why money was part of the demise of her marriage.
We all have a relationship with money – and it started when we were very young. Your relationship with money impacts your marriage, your family/friend relationships, your children, and your daily decision making. This conversation will help you no matter where you stand with money.
Debbie on Facebook
Debbie’s private Profit Lab Facebook group
Know Thy Triggers.
I say this to my gym members all the time. You have to know what triggers you, if you want to really own the heck out of your life. Knowing your triggers allows you to say yes to the right things and no to the wrong things. Knowing your triggers helps you identify what you want to fight for and what fights are a waste of your time.
Last week I put up a fight. A couple times.
I defended my child.
I defended all women.
Then I wrote a manifesto.
At the end of the week, I came to see there are things I will always fight for. There are people I will always defend, even if I take a beating in the process.
I know what’s right for ME.
I hope this episode helps you define what’s right for YOU.
Here’s my manifesto:
Nasty Woman Manifesto
Will you do yourself a favor and write your manifesto? You can use any of mine you want to get you started!
Send me your manifestos to: firstname.lastname@example.org. I would love to share some other Shameless Moms’ manifestos on an upcoming podcast!
Kim Ades is the president and founder of Frame of Mind Coaching and JournalEngineTM Software. Author, speaker, entrepreneur, coach, and mother of five, Kim is recognized as one of North America's foremost experts on performance through thought mastery. By using her unique process of integrating online journaling in her coaching, Kim helps her highly-driven clients to examine and shift their thinking in order to yield extraordinary results.
I was so fascinated to learn about Kim’s family. She and her husband married 8 years ago and brought together 5 children, ages 9-14, to build a new family. Kim quickly learned a lot about what it took to function and thrive as a blended family. Listen in as she shares:
Professionally, Kim has taken her work with Frame of Mind Coaching to a different level than many of the coaches I have spoken to. Listen in to hear Kim share:
Lastly, Kim invites you to assess your own frame of mind with her online assessment. This assessment will give you a sense of what's keeping you stuck, and how our coaching can help get you past it.
Free, no obligation Frame of Mind Assessment
Resilience Radio Podcast
I first heard of Happiness Boosters from the amazing Gretchen Rubin (author of The Happiness Project). In the last few months I’ve given considerable thought to how we can create joy or boost happiness on a whim.
Sure, I would love to do a weekend of wine tasting in Napa to boost my happiness. But that requires a lot of planning, travel, and money. It’s important to have big Happiness Boosters like this from time to time. But ,it’s also important to consciously create small happiness boosters for yourself, on a moments notice.
There is no end to the quick (and cheap) Happiness Boosters you can create for yourself – TODAY.
Take a few minutes to rearrange a space in your home or office so you really love spending time in it.
Get rid of something that has been annoying you forever and replace it with something that functions the way you want it to.
Invest in a little things that make a big difference in your quality of life or at least the quality of your day (like my cordless vacuum.)
Do something little to make your home or office more comfortable.
Create something that elicits an emotional response (frame those baby pictures you’ve been holding on to forever!)
These little things make a big difference in your daily happiness. This, in turn, impacts your overall quality of life. Don’t underestimate the little things. They are BIG.
Listen in – and then go get yourself a new soap pump!
Rachel Adams, an extremely successful real estate agent, was living a picture perfect life – until someone called her out, accurately suggesting that Rachel’s picture perfect life was not nearly as perfect as it seemed.…
One conversation changed Rachel’s game forever. That one conversation helped Rachel open up about her quiet (almost secret) divorce, shed 30+ pounds, and create a new life that is not picture perfect, but 100% the life she wants.
In the course of creating a new and much more real life, Rachel learned a lot about herself and realized she had the tools to help other women. So, she partnered with the woman who called her out and wrote a book to guide other women through, Lost to Found in 90 days: Your Journey to Self-Discovery and Ultimate Happiness. transformation.
Listen in to learn:
I recently attended Lewis Howes’s Summit of Greatness.
I went to see how he would create greatness and give greatness. I know he is someone who receives other people in the world in a very unique and special way. I wanted to see that magic in person.
And I did.
Over and over.
To create Greatness, you must be a giver, through and through. You must give love, unconditionally. You must create confidence in those you want to give to. You must be compassionate and empathetic. You must show up with humility and grace.
To receive Greatness, you must be open and willing. You must be listening. You must be at least a little bit vulnerable. You must be considerate of your surroundings – allowing in the things that make you a little uncomfortable, knowing they will make you better.
At The Summit of Greatness, I saw Greatness created and given over and over. I saw it received in a million different ways. I received it myself through connections with new friends, trying things out of my comfort zone, and listening attentively to everything and everyone.
In this episode I share my transformative experience of receiving Greatness.
Lewis Howes Podcast: The School of Greatness
The Shameless Mom Academy, Episode 13: How to Be A Better Stalker and FanGirl.
Fully Raw Kristina on Instagram
Kyle Maynard’s website
Event: Summit of Greatness 2017
Nisan Trotter has been inspiring others onstage since his youth. His mother and mentors saw a gift in him and encouraged him to shine, even when he didn’t feel up to it, even when his peers were making fun of him.
Today, Nisan inspires people on stage across the country with his passion and drive, gifting others with motivation and inspiration.
However, Nisan admits his most important role is not speaking on stage. It is speaking at home – as he raises his two sons. If you follow him on Facebook, you’ll see what an adoring daddy he is to these two.
Listen in to hear Nisan share:
Nisan Trotter on Facebook
Ep 61: Be Here Now. Mostly.
Ep 62: Carrie Wilkerson Shameless Mom and Barefoot Executive
I have been getting the most amazing emails with feedback and love from our Shameless Mom listeners. I chose 2 recent emails to share with you today. Claire and Kati are two Shameless Moms who sent me their stories and shared how the SMA has impacted their lives. I was touched and honored to receive their love and support.
Listen in to hear how the Shameless Mom Academy has impacted these two mamas daily lives. In different ways, they have learned to take baby steps, every day. They have learned to think a little bigger and start considering their own stories and their own legacies. This is the good stuff, friends….
Claire shares her story of successful IVF and unsuccessful IVF. Claire lives in France (and has invited me to come drink wine with her – YES, PLEASE). She explains how the French healthcare system handles infertility differently than US healthcare system, which I find fascinating.
Kati shares her story of being a stay at home mom for the last 18 years while raising 4 children. She talks about the pressure she has put on herself over the years – and how she is starting to live bigger and better by letting go of her self imposed expectations.
Thank you Claire and Kati for sharing with me and for allowing me to share your stories with our community! Much love to you both!