The truth about having it all.
Let’s get real for a minute. There are a lot of non-truths out there about having it all. And most of the non-truths that exist in our head are there because we have made them up.
We look at someone’s seemingly perfect Facebook life and determined that it is possible to be beautifully perfectly happy all. the. time. #nontruth
We watch another family and the way they so effortlessly laugh at just the right time about just the right thing and determined that they do all the right things in all the right ways at all the right times. #nontruth
We see another woman with the perfect job, the perfect house, the perfect family, the perfect body and assumed she is perfectly happy every damn day. #nontruth
The notion we have about someone else having it all is just a perception and a manifestation of the comparison trap and FOMO rolled up into one big ball of judgment.
It is ok to want more out of life. It is ok to do more with your life. It’s ok to want to have it all. But want it because it’s right for you, not because it looks good on someone else. Do things because they light you up, not because they are part of a culturally designated formula of happiness or satisfaction.
Do not write your happiness formula based on your outside view of someone else’s experiences.
You can actually very safely assume that no one else truly has it all. And you don’t need to have it all either.
If you want to have it all, define what you want and WHY you want it. Then determine how you can get it. There is always a way.
And while you are working toward what you want, enjoy the heck out of what you already have. If you’re not grateful for what you already have, you will never love the things you get later. Come from gratitude and work from there.