Katie Anthony is a writer and mother of two boys, ages 3 and 5. She knows a lot about backhoe loaders, velociraptors, and rage. Her writing has appeared in BUST.com, Scary Mommy, Mamalode, and the PEPS Blog. She swears and blogs about parenthood, feminism, and scotch at KatyKatiKate.com.
I was introduced to Katie via one of my favorite podcasts, For Crying Out Loud. Co-hosts of FCOL, Lynette Carolla and Stephanie Wilder Taylor, read a piece of Katie’s writing that had me so fired up, I couldn’t help but Facebook stalk her (my favorite pastime and one of my best skills) and beg her to come on my show.
Luckily, she was flattered by my stalking and said YES.
Katie is an amazing witty writer and a truly talented truth teller. I kind of want to live in her head. I think you will too after you hear this interview.
Listen in to hear Katie share:
Warning: this episode contains explicit language and a decent amount of F bombs. We opted not to edit them out, as they are relevant to Katie’s writing, her personality, and her story. Enjoy them all!
Katie’s Blog (including posts on Harvey, Scott, Kevin and Chad): www.katykatikate.com
Katie’s Book: Feminist Werewolf
Support Katie on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/katykatikate
Katie on Facebook: www.facebook.com/katykatikate
Katie on Twitter: www.twitter.com/yokatykatikate
Scott Rosenberg article
For Crying Out Loud podcast episode where I found Katie
Book: Hunger by Roxanne Gay
Book: Bad Feminist by Roxane Gay
Melanie Shankle is the New York Times bestselling author behind Nobody’s Cuter Than You, The Antelope in the Living Room, Sparkly Green Earrings and her newest book, Church of the Small Things: The Million Little Pieces That Make Up a Life. She first shared her hilarious observations and loving wisdom on The Big Mama Blog, which helped define a new genre of blogging for women as it attracted a devoted audience now thousands deep. The Texas A&M graduate is also a guest blogger for high profile outlets and an in-demand speaker at events across the country. A proud Texan, self-professed Target junkie and lover of Anthropologie sales, Melanie calls San Antonio home with her husband Perry, teenage daughter Caroline, and two wild dogs Piper and Mabel.
I had a great time preparing for this interview and reading different pieces of Melanie’s writing. I highly recommend you check out her blog, The Big Mama Life, and her books!
Listen in to hear Melanie share:
Melanie’s Website: http://www.MelanieShankle.com
Melanie on Instagram: @MelanieShankle
Melanie on Twitter: @bigmama
Here we GO!
We are about to dive into the holiday season. Are you ready?
I love the holidays and would be happy for them to last for months on end, but I know they can add stress and chaos for a lot of people.
I want you to be conscientious about how you enter into your last 2 months of 2017 so you can actually enjoy with ease.
Today I’m going to give you my Three G’s to enjoy this season with ease. Take notes, write out your template (I’ll teach you how!) and share it with me on Facebook or Instagram at The Shameless Mom Academy!
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In addition to being a Shameless Mom to Charlie (14) and Pepper (9), Nichole Nordeman is an award winning singer-songwriter and acclaimed worship leader who just wrote her first book, Slow Down: Embracing the Everyday Moments of Motherhood. The book is based on Nichole’s song “Slow Down” that pulled the heartstrings of mothers everywhere—with 14 million views in five days and has exceeded 21 million total views. Nordeman’s viral video showcased the reality of how fast children grow up and why it’s important for parents to be intentional.
Slow Down discusses the heartfelt feelings and memories of parenthood in her book—it is filled with stories, song lyrics, photos, wisdom, and encouragement. Nichole encourages parents to be intentional and slow down, so that they can appreciate the beauty and joy of raising children.
Nichole and I had such and enlightening and powerful conversation about the joy and pain of parenting. I will fully admit that I did some stalking of Nichole before and after our interview and I have just fallen in love with her music and her writing. I am so honored she made time to share with us in the Shameless Mom Academy.
There are a lot of treasures in this interview. I hope you love them all.
Listen in to hear Nichole share:
Nichole’s Website: http://www.nicholenordeman.com/
Nichole’s Book: Slow Down – Embracing the Everyday Moments of Motherhood
Nichole on Facebook
Nichole on Instagram
Nichole on Twitter
Nichole’s Album: Every Mile Mattered
YouTube video: Slow Down
SMA Ep 149: Stop Saying Sorry
The truth about having it all.
Let’s get real for a minute. There are a lot of non-truths out there about having it all. And most of the non-truths that exist in our head are there because we have made them up.
We look at someone’s seemingly perfect Facebook life and determined that it is possible to be beautifully perfectly happy all. the. time. #nontruth
We watch another family and the way they so effortlessly laugh at just the right time about just the right thing and determined that they do all the right things in all the right ways at all the right times. #nontruth
We see another woman with the perfect job, the perfect house, the perfect family, the perfect body and assumed she is perfectly happy every damn day. #nontruth
The notion we have about someone else having it all is just a perception and a manifestation of the comparison trap and FOMO rolled up into one big ball of judgment.
It is ok to want more out of life. It is ok to do more with your life. It’s ok to want to have it all. But want it because it’s right for you, not because it looks good on someone else. Do things because they light you up, not because they are part of a culturally designated formula of happiness or satisfaction.
Do not write your happiness formula based on your outside view of someone else’s experiences.
You can actually very safely assume that no one else truly has it all. And you don’t need to have it all either.
If you want to have it all, define what you want and WHY you want it. Then determine how you can get it. There is always a way.
And while you are working toward what you want, enjoy the heck out of what you already have. If you’re not grateful for what you already have, you will never love the things you get later. Come from gratitude and work from there.
Maria Alcoke is host of the Engine Mom Podcast, a CrossFit-L1 trainer at CrossFit Cove in Columbia, Maryland and runs her own graphic and web development studio, MariaVida Creative.
After over 10 years in the creative field in both agency and education settings, she left the corporate world to pursue her own business right before she the birth of her daughter. Two years in to her motherhood and entrepreneurial journey, Maria has a thriving design business and has merged her passion for teaching and fitness through coaching.
Maria realized the true value of community and connection while navigating some major life transitions which included moving across the country, starting her own business and becoming a mom.
She started The Engine Mom Podcast with the goal to share different perspectives from Moms who are driven by their passions. By sharing these stories, she hopes to empower Moms from all walks of life to be their best selves by identifying what fuels them: their passions and greater purpose.
Maria is an inspiring woman and entrepreneur. She is also one of my very first Shameless Mom Mastermind members and one of my very first Shameless Mom Coaching clients. So, I’m obviously ridiculously proud of her. I can’t wait for you to hear her story. I know she will inspire you to start getting a little more uncomfortable and a lot more excited when it comes to building a life you’re really passionate about.
Listen in to hear Maria share:
Engine Mom Website: http://enginemom.com/
Maria’s Graphic Design Website: http://mariavida.com
Engine Mom on Facebook
Engine Mom on Instagram
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We have officially arrived at the Season of Plan B.
We are at the time of year where sh*t happens:
In all these instances, having a Plan B is crucial. Your life doesn’t have to be determined by the circumstances of your day – but often your daily action steps do. This means you need to be prepared to manage the heck out of your day even when things turn sideways.
When you practice taking charge of your Plan B a few times, you will build a ton of confidence in your ability to ROCK THE DAY #everydamnday, in spite of the winter blunders that inevitably happen.
Tune in to get some specific tips on how to plan for anything and everything life might throw your way this time of year.
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Stephanie Lambert is a BOLD Mom Mentor, Life Coach and founder of the BOLD Moms which focuses on approaching parenting and life with a self-directed, sometimes counter-culture, long-term view in mind.
The BOLD Moms focuses on supporting local Stay-at-Home Mom Sisters to help them reconnect with themselves, uncover their unique passions and craft their own happiness to lead a BOLD and regret-free life.
Additionally, the BOLD Moms Workshops and BOLD Mom Mastermind courses teach modern moms how to parent BOLDLY - from a place of self-confidence – in the face of our compare and despair, short-term focused culture.
When she isn’t spending time with clients or mothering her 2 sons (often against the grain…) she is busy activating her love of learning by trying new and varied activities like crew rowing and drumming.
Listen in to hear Stephanie share:
Stephanie’s Blog: Parenting On the Rocks
Stephanie’s Article: Motherhood Interrupted
Stephanie’s Article: Parent With a Purpose
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Do you have habits that you know are no longer serving you, but you don’t know how to break them? Or maybe you’ve tried to break old habits and they have crept back over and over again?
I’ve been talking to people about this a lot recently – as it relates to weight loss, stress eating, skipping workouts, drinking too much alcohol, eating too much sugar, getting sucked into hours of useless social media time, staying up to late at night, hitting snooze too many times in the morning – the list goes on…
The biggest trick to kicking a useless habit to the curb is making sure you have a replacement habit that serves you.
Listen in to hear my dive into these 8 steps to creating space for new habits:
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Fear. Anxiety. Negative thinking. Imposter syndrome.
Does this sound like you? Shannon herself has been there; feeling like an imposter, worrying she will be found out and that she is not enough. She has felt fear and let that both hold her back and push her forward. She has struggled with anxiety and let it debilitate her in the past. She has experienced obstacles that she herself created and cultivated a life around negative thoughts and stories.
Joyful. Authentic. Purpose Driven. Real.
This is where you will now find her. An imperfect, wanna-be hippy/ yogi that sometimes curses too much. Simple and basic, but pointed and raw in her teaching. She makes mistakes, likes to have fun, drinks wine and knows that in order to be present she has to be authentically herself. And only in that authenticity can she experience real purpose and joy.
Drawing from her own personal life experiences and the privilege of working with thousands of others who have embarked on similar journeys, Shannon has the tools that she needs to effectively help women through her coaching, counseling, workshops, programs and retreats.
This is a really enlightening conversation about love, fear and the power of surrendering. I know you’ll enjoy spending time with Shannon as much as I do!
Listen in to hear Shannon share:
Book: The Subtle of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson
Shannon on Facebook
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Shannon on Instagram
One of the most significant things I have worked on over the last few years (especially since becoming a mom) is standing in my power. This can be scary and uncomfortable as all get out. But it is a necessary part of living the life I want to live, inspiring others through my actions, setting a good example for my child AND having a lot more fun, if we’re being honest!
As women, we often shy away from power – thinking it is a too much, too masculine, too uncomfortable. The truth is that power if not a bad thing, as long as it’s not abused. Power can bring about change and beauty and growth. Power can be transformative and ridiculously positive.
It’s time for all of us to take more #radicalresponsibility over our true power and USE IT for the greater good. Let’s be brave and bold together, deal?!?
Here are 3 ways I have been standing in my power a lot more recently:
Listen in to hear my stories around each of these and how YOU can stand in your power #everydamnday!
Anna Willard is an author, personal trainer and the oldest child from a family of five.
From her personal exercise journey streaming from numerous sports and multiple injuries, she discovered hope through movement. After many injuries and failed goals she experienced how movement is medicine. Exercise and movement continue to give her hope and allow her to dream again and again! Understanding this power she works with women and men strengthening them on their journey towards a living a life beyond their dreams.
Seeing first hand how hopes and dreams go hand in hand with physical fitness, she recently wrote her first book, Spark Your Youth.
I am so thankful to Anna for doing the interview with me, as she was facing her own personal crisis at the time we recorded. It would have been easy and completely understandable for her to cancel the interview, but she felt it was important to honor HOPE, as she does in her book and to show up and share in order to instill HOPE in herself and others, even in the face of grief.
Listen in to hear Anna share:
Anna’s Website: https://annawillard.com/
Anna’s Book: Spark Your Youth
SMA Ep 22 Erin Brown: Letters to Lola
Fall is my favorite for so many reasons (let’s be honest, mostly puffy vests and Uggs). But I’m particularly embracing this fall because of some of the things that are going on around me.
All around me I see people using their voices, taking a stand, letting their values shine and expressing gratitude. YES! YES! YES! AND YES!
More of all of this, please.
Listen in to hear what I’m most excited about this month – inspired by some listener emails and reviews.
Happy SHAMELESS October to you!
Book: I’m Judging You by Luvvie Ajayi
Ingrid Ortiz is a Self-Love & Confidence coach helping women end their struggle with comparison, so they can pursue their passion and live life to the fullest. She pivoted from a career in personal training to guide women in a more powerful and profound way.
In this episode, Ingrid shares her very personal experience of nearly ending her own life. Her very serious suicide attempt nine years ago was a turning point in her life and today she is helping other women find the things she was lacking as a young woman feeling hopeless and desperate to escape her world.
Listen in to hear Ingrid share:
Ingrid on Instagram
Ingrid on Facebook
With Ingrid: Crush the Comparison Intensive
Ingrid’s Free Workbook: Crush the Comparison Trap
More Info on Spiritual Gifts: Spiritual Gifts Quiz
App: Kill the NewsFeed
Vinnie turned 5 over the weekend. How did that even happen?
I remember so many days in Newbornland when I thought I wouldn’t make it until 5pm and now I’ve made it 5 YEARS?!
The truth is I don’t know. Because motherhood is magic and you don’t know most of the things you need to know until the exact moment you need to know them. So, I don’t know much of anything… Yet…
What I do know is that motherhood has surprised me a million times over. Some of the things I thought would be awesome have not been that awesome (hello, natural childbirth and nursing.) And the things I didn’t even know to keep an eye out for have been nothing short of magical and mystical and just beyond words.
Basically, motherhood is an anomaly.
It’s weird and unpredictable and inconsistent and abnormal. But it’s also THE. BEST.
It’s hard and frustrating and exhausting and infuriating. But it gives me more energy and enthusiasm than ANYTHING.
It makes me laugh and cry and scream and melt EVERY. DAMN. DAY.
Listen in to hear my 5 biggest surprises in motherhood so far. Warning: be prepared to laugh (at me or with me, your call.)
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Elizabeth Friedland is the Senior Director of Corporate Communications for Appirio, a global tech consultancy. She's spent more than 12 years in the public relations and communications world, working in both Indianapolis, where she currently lives, and New York. Outside the office, Friedland writes, directs, and produces award-winning short films. She is also an advocate for foster care; in addition to being a proud foster mother to five children since 2015, Elizabeth is a member of the Foster Success Leadership Council, part of the nonprofit Connected by 25, an organization dedicated to providing the financial, educational and social support to assist Indiana youth as they age out of the foster care system.
I was so excited for this interview because I have been thinking a lot about foster parenting in recent months. I am also so intrigued by Elizabeth’s decision to do this as a single woman. I learned so much in this interview, from the logistics of fostering to the emotional challenges of raising a child for a period of time and then sending them off to someone else for permanent placement.
I know you are going to adore Elizabeth as much as I did. I can’t wait for you to hear her story. I hope she inspires you to consider fostering or sharing this story with someone else who might be in a position to foster. Please to share this episode!
Listen in to hear Elizabeth share:
Before heading to Paris, we decided that if we were going to visit the Eiffel Tower we needed to go allllll the way to the top. So we bought 3 Eiffel Tower Summit tickets. Vince and Vinnie were very excited about this. I was excited about the idea of it. But I was not excited about the actual doing of it – the endless ride in a glass elevator to a tiny landing way high up in the sky on a structure that most certainly could topple over at any given moment. Not. My. Thing.
We did make it to the top. And – SURPRISE – I did not die.
Once back on firm ground (thank you Baby Jesus), I was able to walk about from my Summit experience with some positive and powerful insights that I think might be helpful to you. These lessons apply to everyday life – not just high in the sky adventures:
Listen in to hear about our European adventures and specifically about me surviving the Eiffel Tower Summit – where I thought I would most certainly die. Not exaggerating.
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Robbin Rockett, Psy.D. is a licensed clinical psychologist and single parent of three young children. She hosts the podcast Solo Parent Life and each week takes on a variety of issues facing single parents, including dating, finances, stress management, parenting, and co-parenting, and brings in experts, therapists, and authors for frank and friendly conversions that offer guidance for solo parents to become more mindful in their own self-care. Robbin speaks with integrity and from the heart about the people, books, blogs, and resources that have helped her as a solo parent.
Being raised by a single mom myself, I was really interested in hearing Robbin’s story. I love what she had to say about the power she found in her divorce – even though it was understandably isolating and scary, as transitions tend to b e. She shed a lot of light on how to process change and adapt to a new life. She also talked about the importance of acknowledging the losses in divorce, rather than trying to just push past them.
Listen in to hear Robbin share:
* The power and importance of group therapy and solo therapy
* The unexpected gifts she experienced in her divorce
* How divorce ultimately lead her to a more confident and powerful place in life
* The importance of acknowledging and grieving the death of the family that takes place in divorce
Robbin’s website: www.SoloParentLife.com
Robbin’s Free Online Summit: www.SoloParentLife.com/summit
Book: Hold Onto Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers
Book: True Refuge
Many of you know I recently had a fairly major surgery. What most of you don’t know is that I had a boob job. It’s probably not what you think – as we often jump to a lot of conclusions when we hear about a woman altering her body.
Listen in to hear what I did, why I did it and what I encourage you to do with your own body.
Tonya Leigh is the founder of French Kiss Life, a destination for women who want to inject more elegance, style and joie de vivre (enjoyment!) into their daily lives. Her mission is to inspire women to style their minds, bodies, lives and success – from the inside out and the outside in.
Through a vibrant online community of over 50,000 women, online programs and immersive LIVE experiences, Tonya infuses a French flair into her teachings to encourage women to slow down and cultivate well-lived lives no matter where they live in the world.
She is a proud mama of a 19-year old daughter and her little guy Winston, an English Golden retriever. She lives in a small mountain town in Colorado but you’ll often find her sipping Champagne or tea at a cafe somewhere in the world.
I loved chatting with Tonya about how she came upon her own desire to French Kiss Life and how she is helping women all over the world French Kiss Life. You’ll hear her share some real life stories that prove that life isn’t always pretty and things definitely don’t always go as planned – but that doesn’t mean that you can’t create a life you love madly around the chaos and the grit.
Listen in to hear Tonya share:
September is a pivotal month. School is back in session (can I get an AMEN?!) and we are rapidly approaching fall and the final quarter of the year. Over the years I have noticed this to be a time women are ready to hunker down and take care of some serious business. Whoop! Whoop!
I want to encourage you and support you in taking back some of your time this month. I want to invite you to dedicate some time to focusing on yourself, your routines and the things that bring you closer to your goals.
Listen in to hear some specific details on how you can build better routines specifically around movement, fuel, and sleep this month.
Oh – and – excuse me while I name drop…. But I also share my recent celebrity run ins with Dr. Drew, Gretchen Rubin, and Heather McDonald in this episode. So, LISTEN IN!
Lahana Vigliano is a holistic nutritionist and the founder of Thrival Nutrition. She has her bachelor's degree in Nutrition Science + is currently finishing up a post-graduate program through the Clinical Nutrition Board. She started Thrival Nutrition to help empower and teach people how to get more out of life by feeling your absolute best through nutrition, exercise, and natural remedies. Outside of her passion for nutrition, she is a wife + mother of two. Which is where the journey all started!
Lahana was a very young mother – she graduated high school (and concurrently completed her first year of college, because she is 100% badass) while pregnant. She now has a 7 year old son, a 4 year old daughter and a business she has built from the ground up, based on values she loves and lives. She is excited to live to be 150 years old with her great, great grandchildren underfoot, while feeding everyone healthy (and delicious!) food.
Listen in to hear Lahana share:
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I had a funny situation recently where I pushed some limits that I would have never pushed 10 years ago – back when I was a little more controlling and a little more anal….
It has taken the last 15 years as an entrepreneur + 5 years of motherhood + a few years of infertility for me to realize that, as Marie Forleo says, “Everything is figuroutable.”
Today, when my back is against the wall, I know I am never without options. I can create my own outcomes. Damn, that feels good.
I don’t need to control it all, because I can figure it out as I go and I can create options as I need them. Sometimes, I can even break the rules. Whooooop!!
Listen in to hear the recent story that made me realize how far I’ve come with this – and you just might fund some nuggets that inspire you to push some boundaries, break some rules and create your own outcomes.
As the CEO of BLH Consulting, Sharon Lipinski helps people transform desired behaviors into common practice. She is the author of "365 Ways to Live Generously: Simple Habits for a Life That's Good for You and for Others” which helps people make the 7 generosity habits a reality in their daily life. She is a Certified Corporate Wellness Specialist, a speaker, TV personality, and coach dedicated to helping people create the right habits so they can be happier, healthier, and more productive at home and in their work.
Founder of the non-profit Change Gangs: Virtual Giving Circles, which helps people make small donations that make a big impact by pooling their small donations with the donations of other people who care about the same cause. They’ve donated more than $58,000 to great charities around the world. She also maintains the largest repository of information documenting the tools, strategies, and accomplishments of some of America’s eight hundred charitable giving circles.
I loved all the data and details Sharon laid out about habits and will power in this interview. It was so insightful and HELPFUL. She offered a ton of practical tips that I know will help you as you determine what habits you want in your life to support your goals.
Listen in to hear Sharon share: