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The Shameless Mom Academy

Sara Dean launched the Shameless Mom Academy to help moms lead more positive, powerful and purposeful lives #everydamnday. Sara is an award winning fitness professional, author, speaker, and transformation coach who spent the last 16+ years serving moms in the fields of psychology, sociology, health & wellness. But, it took becoming a mom herself in 2012 to learn that - holy cow - this is hard work, and if you’re not paying attention you can completely lose your own sense of identity while raising babies. Join Sara every Monday and Wednesday as she and her notable guests (such as Gretchen Rubin, Carrie Wilkerson, JJ Virgin, Susan Hyatt, Cathy Heller, Nichole Nordeman, Melanie Shankle, and Jadah Sellner) dig deep into topics like creating the confidence you crave; turn your struggles into strengths, building better boundaries, and tuning into tiny habits that can change your life. Discover how why thousands of moms all over the world are turning to The Shameless Mom Academy to live bigger, bolder, braver lives #everydamnday.
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Sep 18, 2019

CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke are the co-founders of Thrive Inc. They’ve spent 20 years helping men, women, couples, and teams to resolve difficult conflicts and create strong, thriving relationships. They’ve written two books: The Beauty of Conflict and The Beauty of Conflict for Couples. They’ve given presentations on conflict resolution, communication, teamwork, and creative problem-solving at Fortune 100 companies like Johnson & Johnson, Microsoft, AT&T, and Nationwide, as well as, at organizations like the Gates Foundation, University of Washington Medical Center, and San Francisco Giants and many others. They also run transformational retreats for couples several times a year, including Couples Mojo and Couples Alive. They live and work in Northwest Montana.

As someone who has historically been pretty conflict avoidant and was raised by two very conflict avoidant parents, I knew this conversation would be a good one for me to participate in!  I learned a lot in this conversation and walked away with some new strategies that I’m excited to take with me in order to lean into tension instead of run like hell to get away from it. 

Listen in to hear CrisMarie and Susan share:

  • Why conflict, not romance, is the key to a lasting relationship
  • Why walking into tension is important and powerful
  • How to use the 5-5-5 method of conflict resolution
  • How to grow and evolve in a partnership to share dreams and needs
  • Why compatibility is NOT the secret to a long and fulfilling relationship
  • Why you need to show up as a “FULL ME” in your partnership

Links mentioned:

  • Shameless Mom Con 2020 tickets are available!! Early Bird tickets and buddy tickets are on super sale here: Click Funnels
  • Connect with CrisMarie and Susan
  • Get their book: Beauty of Conflict
  • Connect with CrisMarie and Susan on Instagram
  • Connect with CrisMarie and Susan on Facebook

Thank you to our sponsors:

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Sep 16, 2019

People will treat you according to your boundaries.  If you let people walk all over you, they’ll keep walking all over you.  If you let people spit on your face in the middle of your living room (or on Facebook), they’ll keep doing it. 

You have every right to have high standards and high expectations around how others are allowed to treat you. 

It’s ok to expect people to act in high integrity.

It’s ok to let people know certain things don’t fly.

It’s ok to draw a line in the sand and say, “NO MORE.”

You deserve to be treated like the queen you are.  You deserve to expect and demand respect from others.  And when that doesn’t happen, you need to make it clear that it’s not ok and you will not stand for it.

Listen in to learn 5 ways how you can better train people how to treat you #everydamnday - including powerful and painful examples from my own life and a major lesson from the queen herself, Brene Brown.

Links Mentioned:

  • Shameless Mom Con 2020 tickets are available!! Early Bird tickets and buddy tickets are on super sale here: Shameless Mom

Thank you to our sponsors:

  • Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to Talkspace, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get $65 off your first month and show your support for the show.
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Sep 11, 2019

Michelle Barry Franco is a Shameless Mom to three teen daughters who works with founders and entrepreneurs, especially coaches & wellness experts, who want to become recognized leaders in their industry through speaking and thought leadership. She has helped many clients share their message and story on TEDx stages and at the best conferences in their industry, and along the way grow thriving businesses that make a positive difference in the world. Michelle is the author of Beyond Applause: Make a Meaningful Difference through Transformational Speaking and is the host of The Thought Leadership School podcast.

Listen in to hear Michelle share:

  • How the death of her brother to alcoholism turned her on to public speaking when she was just a teenager
  • How to build your own stage instead of waiting for others to invite you on theirs
  • How to get started as a speaker
  • If you should speak for free or only paid gigs
  • How speaking impacts identity (in all the best ways)

Links mentioned:

Thank you to our sponsors:

  • Lovevery: Save $15 off your Play Kit subscription at Loveveryand use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Offer good until 10/31.
  • Native: For 20% off your first purchase, visit Native and use promo code shameless at checkout.
  • Stamps: Right now, my listeners get a special offer that includes a 4-week trial PLUS free postage AND a digital scale without any long-term commitment. Just go to Stamps, click on the Microphone at the TOP of the homepage and type in SHAMELESS.
Sep 9, 2019

I took a serious vow 10 weeks ago.

I vowed to embrace adventure over chaos for the summer. 

I embraced this mission with all my heart. 

I had a strategic plan. 

I had a support crew.

I had hope.

And even with all that, this mission was HARD. 

There is no denying that there were moments of magic this summer.  There were plenty of those.  And for that, I’m beyond grateful. 

But I’m ending this season exhausted and in need of rest and reflection to figure out how I can do better next year. 

Even in the face of fatigue, there were some valuable takeaways from my “adventure over chaos” mission. 

I learned:

  • I can be wildly productive in short stints of time if that’s all I have
  • I can keep my business growing outside of the structure and routine I typically thrive in
  • I can ask for help and everyone will immediately lean in to help me
  • I can compartmentalize work and play more than I thought I could (barely, lol)
  • My simple routines keep me grounded, even in chaos (morning practice and workouts, mainly)
  • In the absence of full days to myself, small blocks of restorative time make a big difference
  • I’m not as immune to mom guilt as I thought I was

Listen in to this full episode if you’re also recovering from a season of overwhelm OR approaching a season of overwhelm.  There are some powerful lessons shared that will help you through the hustle!

Links mentioned:

  • Shameless Mom Con 2020 tickets are available!! Early Bird tickets are on super sale here: Shameless Mom

Thank you to our sponsors:

  • Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to Fabfitfun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout.
  • care of: For 25% off your first month of personalized care/of vitamins, visit Take Care Of and enter the code SHAMELESS at checkout.
Sep 4, 2019

Liza Harper is a Shameless Mom, a divorce coach, and lover of personal growth and meditation who has a passion for helping women breakthrough divorce! She has helped many through coaching and development in the corporate world for over 17 years and now shares these same skills and life experience to help women navigate their divorce and live their new beginning. As a twice-divorced single mom of three, she knows firsthand how scary divorce can be.  With the right tools, time, and allowance of love and acceptance of where you are, creating your new beginning is right on the horizon- and she is here to help you get there and Live By your DESIGN.

Listen in to hear Liza share:

  • Her experience of weathering two very different divorces while raising small children
  • How to navigate the post-divorce learning curve to rebuild a life and define new boundaries
  • Why you should get excited about forgiveness and the magic behind it
  • How to navigate co-parenting with a partner who is stuck in a highly emotional, highly reactive space
  • The evolution of the stigma around divorce and why she completely owns her divorces rather than hiding them

Links Mentioned:

Thank you to our sponsors:

  • Openfit: Join the Openfit 30-day challenge and get a special extended 30-day free trial membership to Openfit when you text SHAMELESS to 303030.
  • Framebridge: Go to Framebridge and use promo code SHAMELESS you’ll save an additional 15% off your first order.
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Sep 2, 2019

September is the new January 1 for moms.  Truly.

We drop our kids off at school - FINALLY - and instantly have a renewed sense of self (and freedom!!) after a summer of adventure and chaos.

So, let’s treat this season appropriately.  Let’s hunker down and dig into new habits (or the reintegration of old habits that fell by the wayside over the last 3 months.)

Let’s get back to what serves us as women, as leaders, as the CEOs of our lives.

Let’s get back to our proactive, planning selves who refuse to spend one more day in the exhausting existence of summer reactivity (please tell me I’m not the only one who got trapped here for a few weeks?!)

In today’s episode, I’m going to walk you through 3 powerful exercises that will allow you to take back your time and energy as you transition into a new school year and into the last few months of 2019. 

We will cover:

  • How to delegate and reorg family roles so you can stop doing everything
  • How to integrate weekly family meetings (and the specific protocol my family is using)
  • How to integrate a simple morning routine that sets your entire day up for success

This is the best time of year to create new routines that serve you and your entire family.  Take advantage of this time to learn how to thrive in your daily life.

Links mentioned:

Download my 15 Minute Manifest

Thank you to our sponsors:

  • Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love
  • Embr: Go to Embr and Save $50 with code SHAMELESS at checkout.
Aug 28, 2019

After leaving a career in corporate healthcare in 2016, Sarah set out to find work that better aligned with her passion and purpose. As co-owner of Black Pearl Coaching and Consulting, she served as a consultant to small businesses and nonprofits. Through this work, she accepted a position as the inaugural Executive Director with Lead(h)er, a nonprofit that connects women with mentors to fuel career and community engagement - a position she still holds to this day. In 2018, Sarah launched The Beautifull Project, an entrepreneurial effort that combined her past professional experience with her commitment to pursuing purposeful work. Using the power of collective storytelling, The Project invites women back to their bodies, encouraging, and supporting them as they learn to use their voice and take up space. When Sarah is not thinking up big ideas for The Project, she is shamelessly momming 3 teens, writing, reading, teaching yoga, and leaning as far as possible into an honest, authentic life.

Listen in to hear Sarah share:

  • Her experience growing up in a body she deemed to be “too big and too much”
  • Her history of body image battles and disordered eating
  • How her Beautifull Project was born out of the moment her doctor prescribed her speed and a 600 calorie a day diet for weight loss
  • Why “being concerned” for a fat person’s health is a discriminatory crutch
  • How she’s embracing living in a fat body
  • How to talk to your kids about fatness and fat as a neutral descriptor
  • Why thin people must be allies for fat people if we want to create space for all women to live safely in their bodies and in their power

Links mentioned:

Thank you to our sponsors:

  • Embr: Go to Embr and Save $50 with code SHAMELESS at checkout.
  • Grove Collaborative: For a limited time, my listeners get a free 5-piece cleaning set from Mrs. Meyer’s and Grove - a $30 value! Check out Grove and our special offer at Grove Collaborative.
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Aug 26, 2019

Recently I’ve spoken out about the crucial importance of cultivating emotional intelligence in young men. 

The official definition of emotional intelligence is: the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one's emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.

Historically, men have not been raised to be emotionally intelligent, emotionally capable or emotionally available. 

Historically, we have largely failed to raise men who can handle interpersonal relationships or relationships with their larger communities judiciously and empathetically. 

Historically, we have taught men to stuff feelings, dismiss feelings, ignore feelings, and deny feelings.  And the consequences are proving to be dire.

There are so many horrific outcomes when we have multiple generations of men who are unable to identify their feelings, express their feelings, and relate to other peoples’ feelings. 

The result of generations of poor emotional intelligence among men is rape culture, diet culture, racism, sexism, men policing women’s bodies, rampant struggles with mental health, the addiction epidemic and so much more that we won’t see the full impact of for years to come.

This is disturbing and distressing to say the least. 

Add to that the numbers and data we’re seeing around mass shootings - largely executed by young, white men - young white men who with known mental health struggles and/or dangerously radical views stemming from a lack of empathy and compassion for others. This is an emotional intelligence crisis.

The responsibility of raising an emotionally intelligent young man (a young white man, in my case) in our current landscape is a critical task that cannot be taken lightly.  A number of you have asked me how we can do our very best in raising emotionally intelligent young men - and just how I’m facing this responsibility head-on. 

In this episode, I’ll share the 8 things I’m doing to raise an emotionally intelligent, emotionally capable son.  By no means do I think I’m doing it perfectly.  But I think I’m getting a few things right and it’s all worth sharing if it helps any of our young men. 

Thank you to our sponsors:

  • Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to Talkspace, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get $65 off your first month and show your support for the show.
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Aug 21, 2019

Darcy Lockman is a journalist turned clinical psychologist and the author of All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership (Harper Collins). Her writing has appeared in the New York Times and the Washington Post, among others. Her first book, Brooklyn Zoo, chronicled the year she spent working on the psychiatric ward of a city hospital. She currently practices in New York City, where she lives with her husband and daughters.

I have invested a lot of time learning about building equitable relationships in the last year.  As someone who likes to take on all. the. things., I know what it’s like to be the doer and the know-er and the gatekeeper of everything in the family.  It’s an exhausting, unfair, and unnecessary burden that we can improve - drastically. I couldn’t be more excited to invite you into this conversation with Darcy and me.

Listen in to hear Darcy share:

  • What “good” dads get away with
  • Societal, multi-generational indoctrination of gender roles - even among progressive couples
  • The truth about maternal gatekeeping and the potential damage around it
  • The power of using your anger in adaptive ways to have a more equitable relationship
  • The research-proven struggles and burdens of the mental load of motherhood, especially in the first 4 years
  • Strategies to build a more equitable partnership with your partner

Links mentioned:

Thank you to our sponsors:

  • BruMate: Right now, Brumate is giving my/our listeners a special discount of 15% off your first order when you go to www.brumate.com and use our code SHAMELESS, that's BruMate.
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Aug 19, 2019

The path to anywhere worth going will be marked with unexpected twists and turns.  There will be highs and lows that you can’t imagine - that will push you and pull you and quite possibly bring you to your knees.

Because that is the journey of the hero, the warrior, the survivor, the fighter. 

The journey to anywhere worth going will take strength and tenacity and patience and persistence you didn’t know you had. 

You will question yourself, your strength, your skills, and your values. 

You will want to scream.  You will want to cry.  You will want to quit. 

But you won’t. 

You will persist. 

Because you will remember where you’re going and why it’s imperative you get there. 

You will remember that when the going gets tough, you do not sit.  You PERSIST.

Listen in to hear how to build persistence in order to step into your power.

Links mentioned:

Thank you to our sponsors:

  • Brooklinen: Get 10% off AND free shipping when you use promo code SHAMELESS at Brooklinen.
  • Native: For 20% off your first purchase, visit Native and use promo code shameless at checkout.
Aug 14, 2019

Carol Gavhane is co-founder of Asha Blooms, a handcrafted purposeful jewelry company dedicated to inspiring and uplifting people.

Born out of her walk with secondary infertility, she and her husband created this business once it dawned on them that words and intentions really do matter. Each piece of jewelry is tied to a specific intention, and it’s their vision that others see themselves for who they already are – whole, loved, complete, courageous and renewed.

Everything about their first child was fairly typical, but trying to add to the family afterwards was incredibly difficult. During those years, they tried everything under the sun to get or sustain pregnancy - clean eating, support groups, fertility yoga, acupuncture, meditation, negotiations with God, many visits to the fertility clinic, and so on. These services absolutely helped as they provided comfort or bits of positivity, but there were many dark days thrown in the mix.

During this journey, Carol found a fertility bracelet that became a beacon of hope, a daily wearable reminder to continue on, which she did for nearly three years. Looking back, Carol credits science, hope, and intention with the creation of baby Henry.

I had the opportunity to meet Carol a couple months ago through a colleague and our connection was instant and deep.  I relate to so much of her story.  I know a lot of other mamas out there are with Carol and me, as well.

Listen in to hear Carol share:

  • What secondary infertility is and how it flipped her life upside down for 3 years
  • What infertility looks like on the outside vs. the inside of a woman's body and demeanor
  • How she found hope and comfort in an unlikely place
  • What inspired her to start a jewelry company and the special meaning behind her work

Links Mentioned:

Thank you to our sponsors:

  • Stamps: Right now, my listeners get a special offer that includes a 4-week trial PLUS free postage AND a digital scale without any long-term commitment. Just go to Stamps, click on the Microphone at the TOP of the homepage and type in SHAMELESS.
  • Lola: Get organic cotton tampons and other hygiene products delivered right to your door. To get 40% off all subscriptions, go to Lola and use the code SHAMELESS40 at checkout.
  • Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to Fabfitfun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout.
Aug 12, 2019

Are you ready for some truth-telling???

It’s time to take off your armor.

You deserve to embrace and appreciate all parts of yourself and your story, not just the pretty parts.

You deserve to reframe and reset your mindset around the struggles in your life, not settle for constant self-doubt and negative self-talk.

You deserve to get curious about who you are and where you want to go in life, not stay the course that is no longer lighting you up.

You deserve to grow and expand and become a more positive, powerful, purposeful version of yourself, not shrink in frustration and worry that you'll never get all the things you want.

Not only do you deserve all this - you are TRULY CAPABLE of all this.

You are capable of embracing all of you and all of your story.

You are capable of reframing and resetting your mindset so you can shut down that negative self-talk.

You are capable of getting curious about where you want to go in the next 3, 6, 12 months and actually starting to take steps to get yourself there.

You are capable of growing and expanding into a more positive, powerful and purposeful version of yourself starting right now.

If you're struggling with your identity - who you are, where you've come from, where you want to go - you are not alone. And it's time to take off your armor. The armor that you think is protecting you is actually holding you back from taking action, building momentum, and realizing what you're truly capable of.

Here’s what your armor might look like:

  • keeping people at arm’s length
  • Laughing when you are hurting instead of speaking up for yourself
  • Keeping secrets and holding shame around your stories
  • Playing small out of fear of failure or fear of looking silly
  • Making others look small in order to feel better about yourself (gossiping about other women, telling other women’s stories, passing judgment on other women’s bodies, choices, success stories)
  • Staying comfortable and stagnant instead of taking a chance to step into bigger roles/opportunities

Tune into learn 7 steps to take off your armor and put on your cape.

Thank you to our sponsors:

  • care of: For 25% off your first month of personalized care/of vitamins, visit Take CareOf and enter the code SHAMELESS at checkout
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Aug 7, 2019

Chrissy King is a writer, speaker, strength coach, and self-proclaimed truth-teller with a passion for intersectional feminism and creating a diverse and inclusive wellness industry.  She has been featured in SELF, SHAPE, BuzzFeed, Muscle and Fitness, and Livestrong, among others. 

She empowers individuals to stop shrinking, start taking up space and use their energy to create their specific magic in the world. When she’s not serving her clients by empowering them to create stress-free and sustainable lifestyles and feel confident and empowered in their skin, she spends her time lifting all the weights, reading, traveling, and hanging with friends and family.

I have wanted to have Chrissy come on the show for some time.  I’ve followed her for years online and her messaging always resonates with me.  I think this conversation is especially timely given the Monday’s episode about Beyonce’s recent messaging around body image.  While I recorded this interview before the Beyonce episode, there are a lot of the same themes and reinforced messaging around the power in protecting and elevating women of all backgrounds, shapes, sizes, orientations.

Listen in to hear Chrissy share:

  • How passion in one area of your life can ignite passion in other areas of your life
  • What intersectional feminism is and how it pertains to you
  • Her terrifying move to publish an article titled, “Is Fitness Only For Thin White Women?” - and the response it drew
  • The importance of noticing inclusion and diversity in ALL spaces - and why you need to call it out when it’s missing (which it usually is)
  • How to manage your evolving relationship with your body

Links mentioned:

Facebook: Chrissy King Fitness

Instagram: I Am Chrissy King

Twitter: I Am Chrissy King

Thank you to our sponsors:

  • Embr: Go to Embr and Save $50 with code SHAMELESS at checkout.
  • Framebridge: Go to Framebridge and use promo code SHAMELESS you’ll save an additional 15% off your first order.
  • Openfit: Join the Openfit 30-day challenge and get a special extended 30-day free trial membership to Openfit when you text SHAMELESS to 303030.
Aug 5, 2019

Last week I called out Beyonce in a social media post.  A lot of really interesting lessons and insights came from the ensuing comments and conversation.  I thought it was worth dedicating an entire episode to the results of that one social media post because it brought to light:

  • The difference between shaming someone and holding them accountable
  • How you can simultaneously be a victim and a perpetrator of diet culture
  • Why thin women need to protect and elevate plus size women
  • Why women should be hypersensitive to body shaming and how being dismissive of sizeism compromises women’s power on a global level
  • How you can appreciate and find tremendous value in someone’s work and leadership while not agreeing with everything they say and stand for

Thank you to our sponsors:

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Jul 31, 2019

Anne Moss Rogers is a TEDx speaker and owner of the popular Emotionally Naked blog. She is a social media and content marketing expert who turned into an 'accidental leader' as a suicide prevention advocate after her son Charles, who suffered from depression and addiction, died by suicide in June 2015.

She has been interviewed by the New York Times and was the first suicide loss survivor ever invited to speak at the National Institute of Mental Health. Her blog, Emotionally Naked which focuses on subjects including suicide, grief, addiction, and mental illness reached over a half million views in its first three years. She has written a book, Diary of a Broken Mind that includes her son’s song lyrics, which will publish October 2019.

Listen in to hear Anne Moss share:

  • The warning signs of his son’s depression and anxiety
  • The days and events leading up to her son’s death
  • How she feels comforted and connected to Charles when she’s on stage talking about his death
  • How she finds purpose in her day to day life after losing her child
  • How she is leveraging technology and the internet to save the lives of actively suicidal people

Links Mentioned:

Thank you to our sponsors:

  • Embr: Go to Embr and Save $50 with code SHAMELESS at checkout.
  • Lovevery: Save $15 off your Play Kit subscription at Lovevery and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Offer good until 10/31.
Jul 29, 2019

Women are raised to believe we should make other people comfortable.  We should be caretakers of others needs and desires and feelings - even when it comes at a cost to our own needs, desires, and feelings.

Because of this indoctrination early in our lives, we also take it upon ourselves to make sure that we don’t outshine others - because that could make them feel bad or less than.  Instead, we let ourselves feel bad and less than. 

We make it a priority to make other people comfortable.  And in many cases this means we shrink and play small in front of others.  We don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable and we certainly don’t want anyone to judge us for shining too brightly. 

So, we stay small, quiet, dull, demure instead - because showing up as bold, bright, big, brave feels too risky.

Here are some instances in which you might make others uncomfortable with your shininess and badassery, as well as put yourself at risk of other people’s judgment:

  • when you lose weight
  • when you run a 5K, 10K or a marathon
  • when you quit your job to stay home with your kids
  • when you make a lot of money
  • when you write a book
  • when you start your own business
  • when you go for a promotion
  • when you go back to school to get an advanced degree
  • when you put your child in full-time childcare
  • when you go on an epic vacation
  • when you take every Friday off
  • when you get weekly massage
  • when you buy your kid something fancy/”spoil” them
  • when you buy a bigger house
  • when you buy a tiny house
  • when you announce you’re a photographer/event planner/jewelry designer/lifecoach/blogger/podcaster, speaker, writer
  • when you say you want to be a mogul

Have you ever achieved one of these items and intentionally not shared it with others?  You kept is small and private out of fear that others would be uncomfortable with your success or achievement and/or that they might pass judgment on you and dull your shine?

I want to encourage you to reframe how you think about other people's opinions.  It’s not your job to tend to other people’s opinions.  In fact, you should pay them no mind.

It’s not your job to make other people comfortable.  Their discomfort is about them, not you.  And it’s their responsibility, not yours.

It’s not your job to play small and stay small because others can’t or won’t step up and shine.

Your job is to SHINE LIKE A MOTHER.

And when you do so you will become a mirror that attracts people who want to see you in all your big, bold, brave badassery.  When you start attracting these kinds of people, you will continue to be able to shine in brighter ways for all your days.

Listen in for a deeper dive and 4 ways to deal with the uncomfortable, judgy people in your life.

Thank you to our sponsors:

  • Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to Talkspace, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get $65 off your first month and show your support for the show.
  • Rothy’s: To get free shipping on any order of Rothy’s shoes, as well as free returns, go to Rothy’s and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout.
Jul 24, 2019

Susan Hyatt is a master certified life coach who has helped thousands of women to

transform their bodies and lives. She’s the author of Bare, creator of the Bare Process, the Bare Deck, the Bare Podcast, and an online community called Bare Daily. With her fiery Facebook rants—including “Whoop Ass Wednesday,” where she reads a fresh batch of hate mail from Internet trolls and gives her sassiest response—Susan has gained an international following of women who love her honesty, humor, and fearlessness. Susan has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Woman’s World, Seventeen, and O: The Oprah Magazine, and was a Finalist for the Athena Award, honoring her work in the field of women’s empowerment.

Listen in to hear Susan share:

  • How she caught herself in cycles of emotional eating and how she stopped the cycle
  • How she moved from body hate into body love
  • How and why quitting diet culture will bring you more success (and more money)
  • The role of the patriarchy in inspiring her body love
  • How to use pleasure power instead of willpower to lose weight
  • Replacement habits for comfort and joy that don’t involve emotional eating or drinking
  • The importance of radical self-love and compassion and FUN in any achieving any goal

Links Mentioned:

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Jul 22, 2019

The truth about confidence is that it REQUIRES courage. 

If you take a good look back at your life, I bet you’ll see a clear connection between the times that you took courageous action and the defining moments when you became more confident.  You’ll likely notice that these moments all involved:

  • getting uncomfortable
  • doing it scared
  • pushing yourself further than you’ve ever gone
  • facing fears head-on

Some examples of this might include:

  • Applying for a new, higher-level job
  • Signing up for a 5K, 10K, marathon
  • Speaking up in the face of injustice
  • Reporting an abuser
  • Asking for a raise
  • Setting a firm boundary with a family member or long-time friend
  • Moving across the country
  • Leaving an abusive relationship
  • Showing up to an event where you don’t know anyone
  • Traveling alone
  • Skydiving or bungee jumping
  • Climbing a mountain
  • Having a baby
  • Advocating for your child’s needs
  • Starting a business
  • Leaving your marriage
  • Fixing your marriage
  • Starting a blog
  • Asking for help
  • Finding a therapist or coach
  • Getting healthy

Courage is contagious.  When you do one courageous thing and subsequently build a little confidence, you automatically start looking for more opportunities to be courageous.  Over time, you build momentum around being an action taker and dream chaser who enjoys the discomfort that comes with courageous action because you know the outcome will be a more confident sense of self, a more joy-filled life, and a world with bigger dreams realized.

When you don’t take courage action on a regular basis, you become complacent.  You don’t see yourself as someone who can grow or meet new goals. You feel stuck, unmotivated, uninspired.  This is painful. 

So, choose your pain. 

The pain of complacency or the pain of courageous action.  One has a much more positive and powerful outcome. 

Tune in to hear 7 ways to build courage that will train your brain to take courageous, confident, life-changing action on a regular basis.

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Jul 17, 2019

Laura Cathcart Robbins is a Shameless Mom, a writer, and a recovery thriver and survivor. In September 2018 she found herself in an all too familiar situation.  She was the only one in the room.  She was the only black woman in the room at Brave Magic, a famed writer’s retreat. After it was over, she wrote about her ‘only one’ experience in The Huffington Post and comments started flooding into her DM from people from all races, ethnicities, creeds, and nationalities who had felt ‘othered.’

Laura now hosts the podcast, The Only One In The Room, where she interviews a person about their ‘only one’ story each episode.  On her show, you’ll hear raw, vulnerable, accounts from people who are like most of us.  Laura’s hope is that The Only One In The Room will inspire a change of perspective in how we all see and hear each other’s stories. She hopes to make you think twice before judging the person standing next to you at a party, in the pick-up line at school or in a crowded subway car. Laura’s show and her work is for anyone who has ever felt alone in a room full of people – which is to say, her show and her work are for everyone.

Listen in to hear Laura share:

  • What it’s like to be the only black person in the room in 2018
  • The difference between visible only-ness vs invisible only-ness - like addiction, divorce, infertility, having a child with special needs
  • What it feels like to be the only one in the room and how we’ve all been the only one in the room at some point
  • The isolation of onlyness - and the antidote
  • How to create opportunities and cultivate your biggest gifts from your onlyness

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Jul 15, 2019

As you grow and evolve in different areas of your life it is imperative that you build support systems that serve you.  This doesn’t typically happen by chance.  It happens by design. 

While this takes effort and often vulnerability, the value of safe and sacred support systems is immeasurable.

It is common to make the mistake of leaning on one person or one group for all your needs.  If you want to be really well supported it’s important to have multiple networks and support systems to lean into. 

Here are some of my networks/support systems (in random order):

  • Mom friends
  • Female entrepreneur friends
  • Podcaster friends
  • Running/workout/training friends
  • Forever Friends (high school/college)
  • My marriage

The purpose of these different support systems is that you need different networks to connect with people who are in the same place at the same time with the same needs, dreams, and interests.  As you listen to this episode, you’ll learn why it’s not reasonable or wise to lean on one person or one group for all your needs.

It’s so important to build these support systems because:

  • You must have a place to shine
  • You must have a safe place to be seen as you grow
  • You must have sacred places to connect with like-minded people

All of this preserves your mental health, improves your sense of worth, and helps you build a more dynamic identity.  AND all of this helps you minimize and mitigate loneliness, isolation, depression, and anxiety.

Listen in to learn:

  • How to build support systems that serve you
  • How to release relationships that don’t allow you to shine
  • Why some people are no longer your people and how to be ok with that
  • Where to find your squad and how to connect with them

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Jul 10, 2019

Kim Strobel is a teacher, a consultant, a speaker, a happiness coach, and an aspiring author. But her personal life is just as full. When she’s not firing up educators with her signature mix of excitement and experience, she’s a die-hard runner, an advocate for her community’s abandoned animals, and a family-oriented gal who loves spending time with her husband Scott, their four children, two grandkids, and three pups.

It’s tempting to believe that the Chief Happiness Officer herself has never known a down day. But the truth is, sometimes you have to live through darkness before you can thrive in the light.

Kim spent her childhood and teen and young adult years dealing with panic attacks and crippling fear. Diagnosis of a seizure disorder and full panic disorder followed and with them a burgeoning fear that she would never be able to achieve her dreams. 

Listen in to hear how Kim overcame her crippling panic disorder and what her life looks like today - as a Happiness Coach, who is not immune to panic attack relapses.

Listen in to hear Kim share:

  • How she endured 8 years living with panic disorder, having 25 panic attacks a day at times
  • How medical intervention and CBD therapy saved her life
  • How to retrain your brain toward happiness
  • 50% of your long term happiness is genetic, 10% is external circumstances, 40% is self-controlled/self-managed
  • Top 5 happiness habits
  • What your kids are really see when you show up imperfectly

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Jul 8, 2019

There is a huge difference between dreaming and doing.  Yet, sometimes we confuse the two. 

Dreaming lives in your head and your heart.

Dreaming doesn’t have a plan.

Dreaming is passive.

Dreaming doesn’t have a start date.

Dreaming doesn’t keep you accountable.

Dreaming is not an accomplishment.

Dreaming is picture perfect and linear, a series of perfect steps that take you to a perfect destination.

Dreaming is future-oriented.  It’s about later… when you have time when the kids are older when the circumstances are juuuuust so.

Dreaming is outcome focused.

Dreaming feels indulgent and delightful, like something you might not even be worthy of.

In contrast…

Doing is your dream in action.

Doing is a plan.

Doing has a start date, as well as an end date.

Doing keeps you accountable.

Doing is an accomplishment.

Doing is not linear, its a series of highs and lows and lefts and rights and a few wrong turns that take you to a beautifully imperfect place that you’re ridiculously proud of.

Doing is action oriented.

Doing is present-oriented, not future-oriented.

Doing is step focused - not outcome focused - where you’re always considering, “what is my next right step?”

Doing feels scary, exciting, nerve-wracking, determined, and disciplined.

Dreaming definitely serves a purpose.  It provides:

  • Hope
  • Vision
  • Clarity
  • Joy
  • Escape

Doing serves a transformative experience:

  • Sense of pride
  • Sense of momentum
  • Sense of accomplishment
  • Increased self-worth
  • New/evolved sense of identity

At the crux of dreaming vs doing is a lot of decision making.  I would argue that decisiveness is the biggest struggle of doing.  Making decisions toward your dreams (the doing) can be crippling.  But for the doing to take place, the decisions must be made.  You must become a DECISION MAKER AND AN ACTION TAKER.  It is the only path to your dreams.  Listen in to hear how to learn how to become a better decision maker and action taker - in order to be a DOER who realizes all her dreams. 

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Jul 3, 2019

Katie Goodman is an award-winning musical comedian, author, speaker, and life-coach. She is a nationally touring keynote speaker on the topic of using the tools of improv comedy in everyday life.

Her musical comedy show, “Broad Comedy,” runs Off-Broadway and tours across the country. She has been seen on Showtime, on Current TV, and on TruTV. Her comedy videos, having amassed 3 million views, can be viewed online. She received a Time Out New York Critic’s Pick for Best Cabaret and is signed with Comedy Dynamics, North America’s largest independent record label. Her album “Halfway Closer To Dead” is available on iTunes.  As a keynote speaker, workshop leader and trainer, Katie has taught over 10,000 people the art of improvisational comedy. She writes for O Magazine and is the author of Improvisation For The Spirit: Living A More Creative, Spontaneous and Courageous Life Using The Tools of Improv Comedy. And you’ll definitely want to check out her podcast, The Improvised Life with Katie Goodman. 

Listen in to hear Katie share:

  • How you’re already using improvisation in your life - and how to use it more to your advantage
  • Why learning improvisation is a valuable life skill
  • How to practice getting lost and living in unpredictability - especially if you’re a control freak
  • How to live more authentically by refusing to compete
  • How to use improv to change your parenting game
  • The magic of creating space in moments where you feel you have no control

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Jul 1, 2019

I have recently had multiple mamas reach out to me to ask me to do an episode on self-worth.

AND I’ve been repeatedly noticing that questioning one’s worthiness is a common stumbling block for a number of my coaching clients.  In fact, perhaps the most common stumbling block.

When it comes to self-worth, we need to look at a few things:

  • Why do you feel a lack of worth?
  • What is at the root of your struggles with self-worth?
  • How is lack of worth showing up in your life?
  • How is lack of worth holding you back in life?
  • What are the dangerous risk factors of not cultivating a strong sense of self-worth?
  • What simple action steps can you take to improve your self-worth?

Cultivating a strong sense of self-worth can take time - as many of us have been sitting in self-doubt and grappling with negative self-talk for years, maybe decades.  But when you start to identify the root of your struggles and see some of the patterns around poor self-worth in your life, it can quickly become clear how you can change course. 

Changing course doesn’t have to be big and overwhelming.  It can be small, simple steps you take to integrate a more positive and powerful sense of self into your identity. And this can be SO FREEING.  In this episode, I walk you through 9 such steps. 

So, let’s get to it, shall we?

Let’s all step up and step into our badassery. 

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Jun 26, 2019

After a successful fifteen-year career in the tech industry and noticing the amount of exposure her two young boys were giving to their tech devices Priyanka Raha took her passion for technology and her children’s future and launched her startup, PopSmartKids in February 2018. With PopSmartKids, she is driving the Mentoring-Over-Monitoring revolution and is committed to promoting digital citizenship and responsible online behavior. In June 2019, the company will officially launch PopSmartWrite, an interactive learning tool for children to create stories through writing.

Priyanka holds a Bachelor's degree in Engineering (Electronics and Telecommunication) and an MBA in Strategy and Systems from Purdue University. She has worked and lived in nine cities across India, US, and Europe, before settling in Seattle, which she calls home now. A core member of the Female Founders Alliance and other female founder communities, she is a zealous supporter of women founders and women in tech. This year she spoke about mindful and meaningful tech at the Women in Tech Regatta Seattle.

Listen in to Priyanka share:

  • How to shift our mindset around technology to be about mindful integration instead of a sense of constant invasion
  • How to use technology as a magic wand to support your child’s emotional development and create good global citizens
  • How to use technology to open up communication rather than shut it down
  • Playing the role of a mentor of technology use vs constant monitor and manager of technology use

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